Dating married men

I have tricked with married men but never dated one. A friend of mine just stopped by with this guy that is hot as fuck. Butch as all get out!
What about you guys-----Trick only or date?

neither....if someone is married (male or female) i'm not going to do anything beyond having a friendship with them

If i dated a married man i'd find myself thinking about his poor wife too much.

trick only is my rule. I went through a stage of finding married men an absolute turn on (how immature I was, thankfully I out grew it). One does have to wonder why one is attracted to the unavailable.

Knowingly dating a married man is futile and naughty. Where will it lead except for heartache for everyone except the married man? If it sounds as though I am lecturing, I am because I have been there.

As far a tricking: that is their business and we never know the person and their circumstances anyway so cant really be responsible for their choices. But dont go back for seconds if you find they are married.

I dont have anything against married men who want to have affairs/sex outside their marriage, but I dont want to be the one they are doing it with. Maybe I am preaching. I thought somebody called me an arrogant preacher the other day when they were actually calling me an elegant creature! (It was in a noisy bar)

Never, ever, ever - just plain wrong.

Do you mean all married men, or just those married to women?

Scruples at LPSG? Who knew!

Why invest yourself in someone who is not trustworthy? If the guy will fuck around on his wife, he will fuck around on you. Plain and simple.

Exactly!

I had a sexual relationship with one for a very brief period. The marriage, the kids, and an ex-boyfriend were all told to me at a later date. Our relationship ended after that conversation. 'Cause I don't need the drama or the bad karma. This dude was a mess and I felt sorry for him on many levels. I wasn't about to get caught up in that shit. I ran into him about year later and he was divorced with his own place. He said that he's in a better place (happier) and is now a better father to his kids. He said that he always knew that he was gay and never had the balls to come out. His family was religious and he thought that getting married would change things. It didn't. It's sad to know that it took getting married/divorced and a few small children to accept the fact that you're gay.

Of course, this is assuming that a married man is being unfaithful. If he's in a polyamorous relationship, that's different. (And yes, I know that some people don't want to deal with polyamory - s'okay. Some folks are monogamous, some are polyamorous.)

But cheating is simply a bad idea.

You beat me to it, badger!

I don't cheat, and I don't knowingly help anyone else cheat. Then again, I don't really "trick" much. I don't have sex with someone I don't know fairly well, so finding out after the fact is not likely.

When I was single I did both...If you want a relationship that goes nowhere beyond sex...then this is the scene for you. You get to spend all major holidays alone, something always comes up on your birthday, and there is onone to kill spiders for you. Not a great idea!

How about married women?

She is so butch as all get out.

Actually Nob Hill snob.

Only if they've hidden their marriage from you should you fuck with a married person.

Once you know, you're now a homewrecker...and that's not a good thing, I've been told.