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OK, I talked with my wife about this briefly and she didn't really get it, so I thought I'd put it out here in the forum, see what people think. My wife and I had

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Old 04-26-2008   #1 (permalink)
jutadawg is offline
Question about urinal etiquette -- gay & str8 peeing next to each other

OK, I talked with my wife about this briefly and she didn't really get it, so I thought I'd put it out here in the forum, see what people think.

My wife and I had a babysitter tonight, which happens so rarely, but it's so nice when it does happen. We went to see a movie with a gay couple who have been together almost as long as we have. Good guys, the 4 of us hang out often.

After the movie, both guys headed for the bathroom. I decided to hit the bathroom as well, but I was several feet behind them and I don't think they realized I was coming in as well. When I entered the huge men's room with probably 16 or 20 urinals in a row, there was no one else in there but my two friends -- peeing in urinals right next to each other. They heard me enter, acknowledged with a hey or whatever. Then I had to decide really quickly -- do I take a urinal right next to them when there are a dozen or so urinals to their right and left (something I wouldn't do if I entered with a single male friend -- I tend to step down a urinal or two). Or do I move down a couple and make it seem like I'm hinky about peeing so close to two gay guys.

No joke -- I actually was thinking all this for a split second in my head.

I decided to pee right next to them -- it seemed the least rude of the two options. I sensed slight discomfort from them (like barely any, but things suddenly seemed a little awkward -- maybe that was just me). We all pee-ed and finished up and chatted washing our hands, but it was a strange, slightly awkward moment for me.

Had I moved down a urinal or two, would that have come off as rude? Or maybe rude is too harsh (they're good friends and cool guys -- I don't think they would have been offended). Would it have seemed strange, odd, or maybe prudish to pee further away from them? Or did I do the right thing "saddling up next to them" at the very next urinal?

Thoughts from gay and straight alike would be appreciated.
 
Old 04-26-2008   #2 (permalink)
uncut1234 is offline
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im straight, but i can still ask this question....

why the hell do all straight guys think every gay guy automatically wants them or wants to look at their dick? thats like assuming just because straight girls like guys, that they automatically want you and are interested in you... its just a piss... straight or gay... what the hell does it matter,, do your normal routine..
 
Old 04-26-2008   #3 (permalink)
Mr. Snakey is offline

Most men Gay or Straight are there to take a piss. Thats all they have on their minds.
 
Old 04-26-2008   #4 (permalink)
marleyisalegend is offline

for starters although i think you overthought the situation, but its wonderful to hear a straight person is actually trying to make sure they don't offend gay people because a lot of straight people bash us. i don't think they should've taken offense if you were more comfortable using one of the further stalls but again its nice to hear your consideration
 
Old 04-26-2008   #5 (permalink)
uncut1234 is offline
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why should we have to "try to make sure we dont offend gay people".... i thought gays want to be treated like anyone else? shouldnt we just talk to you as if you are straight? when talkin to someone it doesnt make a difference to me weather they likle to suck cock or pussy..so why would i act any different or watch what i do or adjust my behavior around a homosexual?
 
Old 04-26-2008   #6 (permalink)
jutadawg is offline

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Originally Posted by uncut1234 View Post
im straight, but i can still ask this question....

why the hell do all straight guys think every gay guy automatically wants them or wants to look at their dick? thats like assuming just because straight girls like guys, that they automatically want you and are interested in you... its just a piss... straight or gay... what the hell does it matter,, do your normal routine..
No, you're assuming that was my hang up, and it wasn't. I just normally don't pee right next to other guys, even straight friends. But the situation was such that I thought it might come off as, I still don't know what, rude? prissy? overly self-conscious?

My wife laughed at me when I told her about this. I wasn't worried about them looking at my junk, really. I was more concerned with not wanting to seem like a jerk to my two good friends.
 
Old 04-26-2008   #7 (permalink)
uncut1234 is offline
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oh.. well alot of guys are the same way.. i am too. sometimes ill use a stall if theres a bunch of people at the urinals, stage fright! lol
 
Old 04-26-2008   #8 (permalink)
pronatalist is offline

I think it's stupid to use a toilet when a urnal is available that's more suitable for just peeing.

But isn't it common courtesy to skip at least one urnal, when there's lots of empty urnals? Why "crowd" somebody and intentionally invade their slight privacy? But if the urnals are mostly full, then of course that the next or first available urnal.

I wouldn't want to be too close to somebody peeing. What if it slashes or sprays nearby, because the urnal angles just aren't quite right? Probably those urine troughs are better in that regard? They never splash, do they?
 
Old 04-26-2008   #9 (permalink)
jutadawg is offline

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oh.. well alot of guys are the same way.. i am too. sometimes ill use a stall if theres a bunch of people at the urinals, stage fright! lol
But would you use the stall if there were ONLY your two friends in there? And they were right next to each other and you walked in a second or two later?
 
Old 04-26-2008   #10 (permalink)
atlas23 is offline

It is just normal to skip a couple of urinals....I'm pretty sure they know that.
 
Old 04-26-2008   #11 (permalink)
cheeseygarcia is offline
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Urinals are usually designed so you cant see anyone else's dick unless you try to, and theres only a few weirdos out there who do that, so it shouldnt matter where pee. If youre involved in a conversation then you should piss right next to the guy youre talking to.
 
Old 04-26-2008   #12 (permalink)
chip575 is offline

Also it may not have been about the dick, you could have walked in when they were talking or doing something else that they may not have wanted to share.
 
Old 04-26-2008   #13 (permalink)
jock9incher18 is offline

id go quickly next tothem and laff if we all comment on our sizes!
 
Old 04-26-2008   #14 (permalink)
DC_DEEP is offline

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Originally Posted by Mr. Snakey View Post
Most men Gay or Straight are there to take a piss. Thats all they have on their minds.
Uh, yeah.

I don't know what kind of guys these are, and I know some people make rituals out of it, but when I go in, it's to pee. I don't really think about etiquette or which stall to use, or what anyone else thinks. I just go to one (usually the closest!) use it, wash my hands, and go. I don't really care where anyone else goes... well, I mean, as long as they aren't going on the floor or in the sink or on my leg...
 
Old 04-26-2008   #15 (permalink)
marleyisalegend is offline

[quote=DC_DEEP;1444119\I don't really care where anyone else goes... well, I mean, as long as they aren't going on the floor or in the sink or on my leg...[/quote]

my sentiments exactly. i go to the closest one, damn anybody else in there
 

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