You are fine the way you are. I just wish people would become comfortable in their own bodies and not try so hard to emulate what they think they should look like. It can lead to serious disorders. As for the "gay" look, if you do want that then go ahead but don't get caught up in working out only the upper portion of your body. There is nothing funnier than looking at some hot guy with this awesome rock hard set of pecs and a six pack that you can bounce a quarter off and then look down at his scrawny chicken legs. They look like will snap under the weight of his upper torso.