Once you've tried black, can you ever go back?

latinos are in the top three spots on my list

i didn't say racist, this is an objectification issue. if a girl is sitting at a bar next to two guys and all they can talk about is her tits, loudly and right in front of her she may feel objectified, i feel the same way when i hear about "whoo child i just had all kinds of ungodly sex with this big black guy" and "oh my god you see the dick on that black guy"

i certainly just don't understand why race is the most common theme to be brought up. i don't see a hundred "i had sex with this tall guy last night" threads or "whoo look at that gorgeous blonde". obviously you're never going to understand this sentiment since you're not black but that doesn't make it any less relevant. i personally would just like to be able to log on without being reminded that i'm not white. oprah said it best "i don't remember that i'm black until you remind me that i'm not white". separating race makes me feel like black sexuality is abnormal and somehow worthy of more praise since white sexuality is the norm. just because you don't agree with my sentiment doesn't make it any less valid. i'm not chastising anyone or saying that anyone is racist, it'd just be nice if, for one day, "black" didn't have to be a separate category because i'm sure if the OP's partner was the post wouldn't have read "once you had white you never go back". this is just a personal perspective which varies from person to person. when i come home to my boyfriend and tell a story about something that happened at work i don't say "this latin customer was so rude" or "this white guy was so gorgeous", i don't categorize people by race as i don't think it's necessary but apparently some people feel race is important enough to disgtinguish

No, but latinos sure do make my list.

Once you go black, you need a WHEELCHAIR!

a bad joke told with such perfectly bad timing, i love it!!!

i guess here's my question to white people, say you come home to your white boyfriend after having been in an accident with another white person, do you say "god this white guy hit rear-ended me (no booty-love jokes)"? probably not. but if it were a black person you probably would throw that into the description, so the part i don't understand is why "black" constantly needs to be brought to the forefront as if race matters. look at the way some people are talking about the election, they speak of having a black and a female candidate as if its surprising to have either or. as if blacks aren't expected to be solid enough to run for the position, same with a female. all i'm saying is to me it feels like a senseless way of separating people, white being the unmentioned norm and anything outside of that is worthy to be brought up. it seems rare on this site that anyone looks at anything from a perspective other than their own but i'm certainly not alone in my sentiments about blackness being objectified as if its abnormal or taboo or out of the ordinary. many black men (and a few women) on this site have sent me PM's agreeing with my sentiment that sometimes being black feels like a stigma with a special spotlight on it, though guess i'm the only one vocal about it, but certainly not the only one who feels this way

whether the guy is black, white, or asian, i always say, "some DOUCHEBAG just ran into me." people aren't as "objectionable" as you think they are. aren't you being "objectionable" by implying that all white people would go home and say "some black dude just hit my car"

hahaha
wheres marley!!?

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Marley, I have to share an observation. I find it odd that when people are describing a situation that involves a minority, that fact has to be stated...for example a coworker was describing a funny thing that happened at an amusement park. She said something to the effect that this "black boy looked so cute". When I asked what the purpose of pointing out the boy's color had to do with the story, she got an attitude. If the boy was white, I wonder if that point would have been brought to the forefront? I hear this all the time and it makes me wonder why as it seems senseless.

No. Once you go black, you need a WHEELCHAIR with DUBS, hydraulics and a boomin' system. Represent!!!!

lol respect.

this might be offensive, but ill say it anyway
white people, in america, are the vast majority, and not too long ago there were black people working as their slaves, so theres bound to be an abundance of racists still around... get used to it.... stick and stones man, sticks and stones...
and yes, its VERY surprising to have a black man, and a woman, running for the president of the united states... iits VERY surprising.... why is that bad to say?
im not a racist in any way , shape or form though, so dont take this the wrong way, just like the communal shower thread, iom just tryin to make you see the other side of things...right or wrong

hate to break it to you, but alot of parts of this country are not used to seeing black people,white people outnumber blacks by a HUGE margin, so its only natural, i grew up in a highschool of 1600 students... MAYBE 10 being black... so when we see black people, they stick out.. period.
and no , im NOT racist at all, just speaking the truth, can u handle it?

hahahah best shit i heard all day!!!!!!!

that's the exact same sentiment i was trying to express. i've never heard a white person say "oh my god i had a wonderful date with this white guy last night". i too don't understand the need to separate races (well, only outside races) when telling a story. like i said many black people on this site have sent me PM's telling me they feel the same way, like their blackness is objectified but many white people constantly respond as if i'm speaking spanish gibberish. i guess its this easy: those that understand empathize, those that don't make jokes and act as if what i'm saying is irrelevant, as irrelevant to them as pointing out race is to me. some people relate to it, those who don't usually laugh and write it off as an impossibility to be relevant since they themselves can't relate to it