Intercourse orgasms

jibjub · 04-18-2008

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Originally Posted by Dragonfly20

Sweetie you haven't mentioned G-spot stimulation. {...} I won't get off the plateau while I receive stimulation or become exhausted.

Very nice picture of your box in your gallery, lady.

fluoro · 04-18-2008

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Originally Posted by Mademoiselle Rouge

The glans clitoris is just like the head of your penis- how many men can cum without touching the head of their penis? Not many i know would prefer to have the base of their penis stroked.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I certainly can orgasm without direct stimulation of the glans. There may be indirect stimulation through movement of the skin, but touching the head isn't a prerequisite for me. On the other hand, I have absolutely no qualms about touching my glans

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Mademoiselle Rouge · 04-18-2008

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Originally Posted by fluoro

I can't speak for anyone else, but I certainly can orgasm without direct stimulation of the glans. There may be indirect stimulation through movement of the skin, but touching the head isn't a prerequisite for me. On the other hand, I have absolutely no qualms about touching my glans

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Men orgasm easier on the whole compared to women- which is why guys have no problems masturbating in their computer chair while typing and bringing themselves to orgasm. Penacles of pleasure that women receive sexually arent necessarily orgasms, so i think many of the guys here are hearing their women in pleasure during the experience but not always orgasming. There are times i feel really awesome and probably wake up the neighbors during sex and if you didnt know me you'd think i was orgasming, but i'm not but i'm not faking it either.

If you make the head of your penis condensed to something the size of a pencil eraser and then touch an inch or two away from it, its like rubbing your thigh- it feels good but its not likely to bring you to orgasm.

snoozan · 04-18-2008

MR, you don't have to defend yourself. You know your body better than anyone else, and if you can't orgasm through intercourse and it doesn't bother you, don't let anyone make you feel deficient for that. I have wonderful orgasms through intercourse, but I am not multi-orgasmic. It's how I'm wired, and I've tried to have more than one, but I just can't. I don't worry about it so much anymore. I have one and I'm done both physically and psychologically. It's like my libido just shuts off after one orgasm. I've given up on trying to live up to people's expectations of how a woman should respond sexually. There are really only two people who should care anyway, and that's me and my partner. If I'm with a partner who can't accept the way I am, then I shouldn't be with that person.

Here's another thing-- I have intercourse orgasms mostly from clitoral and clitoral/gspot/vaginal stimulation during intercourse. This quasi-Freudian bullshit about the importance of g-spot, vaginal, cervical, uterine, ovarian, and fallopian orgasms is bullshit and it gets on my nerves. An orgasm is an orgasm. One isn't superior to another.

007baby · 04-19-2008

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Originally Posted by Mademoiselle Rouge

obviously this is another example of a man trying to tell me how my body works. Let me suggest you look at Grey's Anatomy or any other diagram of the clitoris, there is a very thin hood that often has to be pulled back to give direct stimulation to the actual clitoral glans to reach orgasm. Simply tapping this area doesnt quite do it for most women. It takes an intense focus and consistent rhythm and pressure. Women also don't have the "point of inevitability" that men have when they get close to orgasm and they can stop stroking and continue onto an orgasm and ejaculation. Women can have their orgasm stop before or during a peak if distracted.

I know a lot about masturbation and i can give myself dozens of clitoral orgasms on my own. My husband can give me oral or manually stimulate me to orgasm. Thrusting alone will not do it. The back side of the clitoris has a wall of tissue and muscle much further from the bundle of nerves if you try to stimulate it from the vagina. While the g-spot feels good and speeds up my ability to have a clitoral orgasm when stimulated at the same time, its been impossible to ever feel enough pleasure from the gspot alone. Why does this sound impossible to you? The glans clitoris is just like the head of your penis- how many men can cum without touching the head of their penis? Not many i know would prefer to have the base of their penis stroked.

I've seen thousands of porn and in nearly every mainstream porn video no matter how fast, hard or the angle of the cock in them- they don't have an authentic orgasm.

Your analysis of it being purely psychological is ridiculous because most women i know cant do it either. My mom agrees that sex feels good and she can orgasm apart from sex but has never in her life had an orgasm from sex. I masturbated a lot as a teenager and never had it happen even when trying. You are taking out the physical nerve bundles that play a huge role in orgasming.

I have a hood that is very tight and nearly adhered, just the thickness of the hood alone prevents me from feeling much so i have to retract it as much as possible. Nerves and receptors from the clitoris, up the spine and to the brain can be varied in their responses from woman to woman.

I dont know how most women who have had a lot of sex still have the same story i have and yet you are trying to categorize us as being deficient or have some psychological problem. I'm very content with my ability to orgasm. While most are multi orgasmic, im super multiorgasmic and i wouldnt trade that for the world.

A simple understanding of anatomy and physiology would more than explain how you can NOT feel enough stimulation through the wall of the vagina to reach clitoral orgasm from penetration. Like i said before, nature didnt put our clitoris glans inside our vagina, so why should we expect it to work like it is? Stroking your balls feels nice but it alone isnt going to make you orgasm either.

I dont like the attitude that women who cant orgasm from the inside have something wrong with them- i think the ones who can are obviously wired differently from the norm.

I know a lot of guys who cant cum through oral or handjobs but can through sex, vice versa. It's not just psychological. It's about pressure, rhythm and consistency. Hands get tired, mouths and hands get out of sync and mess up the build up to orgasm. This isnt rocket science.

Too hard, too deep or too angled penetration just plain hurts my bladder. Some of the suggestive techniques might work for your women but it isnt the magic key. How can someone get to orgasm if its irritating or hurting them? Obviously the nerves and sensations vary from person to person or people wouldnt be seeking out sex information and therapists to help them.

I've given a lot of oral sex and hand jobs and even the simplicity of men cant be summed up to one technique that works. Some guys cum from prostate stimulation, others cant even enjoy the anal stimulation. A guy who obviously enjoys this kind of stimulation can't say that the guy who doesnt is dysfunctional in his sexual abilities. Maybe his prostate isnt that sensitive or maybe its tender to touch.

Sorry this is so long but i know a lot about Obstetrics & Gynecology and i can tell you that there are plain and simple anatomical reasons why some women cant do this, they just cant. Anyone on here who knows me knows that i have awesome sex and foreplay. I'm not some woman who is paired with a guy who hasnt tried everything. He is not bothered one bit by me not cumming during sex. He knows that i'm thoroughly enjoying the experience so why mess with it if its not broken?

Also, i have been able to orgasm a handful of times during sex by using my vibrator on my clit. Honestly its so difficult to concentrate on the thrusting and the clitoris at the same time because he's so girthy. There is brain concentration needed to built up to the orgasm and when im feeling my vaginal walls get stretched to the max, its very difficult to feel the sensations on my clit enough to get to orgasm, even though it does feel good just not enough to push me over the edge.

If this doesnt explain thoroughly the reasons why I, and many other women cant do it and that its not that we simply choose not to let loose and relax enough to let it happen. There is no way you could please a partner of this variety if you can't accept these things.

I'm orgasmic and thats all that matters to us, how i orgasm doesnt matter as long as i get to regularly.

Wow, that was very thorough and informative, WELL DONE. And Thank you. Really, thank you.

Dragonfly20 · 04-19-2008

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Originally Posted by jibjub

Very nice picture of your box in your gallery, lady.

Thanks for that.
(I think)

MidwestGal · 04-19-2008

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Originally Posted by 007baby

Hey ladies,

SO I was wandering, my last monogomous partner and I had great sex. I'm very giving and selfless in bed. I love foreplay, and I love going down on a girl. Usually, I like getting my cock sucked for about 5 minutes, and then I proceed to go down on my partner for a while, licking her pussy lips, stroking her clit while warming her up with my fingers...after a while, maybe 10-20minutes, she would beg me to giver her my cock. I entered her slowly , in and out, to avoid getting her sore, and once I was all the way in, I would proceed to fuck and we would vary in positions and loose ourselves into utter bliss. YET< SHE WON'T ORGASM THROUGH INTERCOURSE! And I'm pretty large, not HUGE, but large (over 8 inches long x 5.9 around). Help! She only orgasms through oral sex, and I'm good at it, and I can work her like a clock with oral, but she still hasn't cum through intercourse. Any advice/feedback appreciated, Thanks!

wouldn't know never had one during intercourse

stamrod · 04-19-2008

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Originally Posted by 007baby

YET< SHE WON'T ORGASM THROUGH INTERCOURSE!

Personally, I wouldn't worry about it. Like most of the female responses here, it's not that big of a deal.

As long as she enjoys the sex, I wouldn't worry. Isn't the point of sex to make her happy? Don't take her lack of orgasm during intercourse as a insult to your sexual prowess.

icem · 04-20-2008

is it true only like 15% of women can orgasm from intercourse alone ?????

Dregun · 04-21-2008

Mademoiselle Rouge

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Also, i have been able to orgasm a handful of times during sex by using my vibrator on my clit. Honestly its so difficult to concentrate on the thrusting and the clitoris at the same time because he's so girthy. There is brain concentration needed to built up to the orgasm and when im feeling my vaginal walls get stretched to the max, its very difficult to feel the sensations on my clit enough to get to orgasm, even though it does feel good just not enough to push me over the edge.

If this doesn't explain thoroughly the reasons why I, and many other women cant do it and that its not that we simply choose not to let loose and relax enough to let it happen. There is no way you could please a partner of this variety if you can't accept these things.

First if I have offended anyone I am sorry, my intentions were not to make anyone feel bad or make them out to be deficient in any way shape or form.

MR the section I have quoted is something I think you need to read again yourself. You are controlling the vibrator on your clit and YOU can't make yourself orgasm during sex because why? You said it takes concentration to push yourself over the edge due to his girth and its very hard for you to climax during this. I completely understand this; if I was a girl I could see this being a problem....but....its not a physical problem; you just mentioned a psychological problem. I agree that not every woman is the same and I do know enough about the female anatomy to understand the functions of the clitoris just as I understand the importance of tenting.

Everybody has it in them to orgasm through NO stimulation; so I really don't want to hear about "only this kind of stimulation can get me off because its biological" I CANT get off in many ways but that doesn't mean I'm not capable through meditation, breathing exersises or god knows what else (even though I haven't). EVERYTHING is mental, amputees feeling ghost pains is mental, nocturnal emissions are mental, crying is mental and males can get errect just by thinking of sexual thoughts etc etc. I thought of all people more women would understand that sex is just as much mental as it is physical. Yet without any mental control physical stimulation could never get anybody off.

So my final argument is this, as long as your enjoying the sex life you have then don't worry if anything is wrong with you physically or mentaly, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Yet if your frustrated because only certain stimulation can get you to orgasm then don't place that burden on your partner or your body as it is a pyschological problem and nothing else. Everybody has it in them to achieve orgasm through no stimulation, so with that even minor stimulation is enough to achieve orgasm. This is why some women can orgasm through nipple play and others cannot. This is why some woman can orgasm through masturbation but nothing else. This is why some woman can orgasm through vaginal intercourse and others cannot. MR said every woman is wired differently when it comes to thier nerves, clitoris hood etc etc. I agree but all that wiring is controlled by one thing, your nerves send those impulses to one thing and as what has already been said a million times before....."Your brain is your biggest sex organ"

Dregun

Ms.Teacher · 04-21-2008

What guys have to understand is a woman not having an orgasm during intercourse in no way means the sex was not enjoyable for her. An orgasm is an added bonus!

Guys, think about this for a moment:

when you masturbate you are enjoying it even before you ejaculate, right?

when you're going down on a woman or she on you, you're enjoying the experience, even though you haven't ejaculated yet, right?

and when you're having intercourse, you're enjoying all that motion prior to cumming, right?

Everything I've mentioned above is about the pleasure you are receiving without having had an orgasm.

Drifterwood · 04-21-2008

Cat shit.

Lng_1 · 04-21-2008

My first wife could only orgasm through oral or manual stimulation. My present wife can orgasm through intercourse or oral, but seldom manual. I don't believe either enjoyed sex more than the other. I think if a woman reaches orgasm, who cares how-- and the same could be said for a man. In fact, I had a lover who really enjoyed it when I performed oral sex on her. It made the whole sexual relation very satisfying for both of us.... when performing oral, I could focus on her sensations... when having intercourse, I could focus on my sensations......

So, I say, "To each his/her own." Enjoy your partner for what you give and get from her, not from what you don't get or don't give to her. If you keep focusing on what is not happening, you'll miss the enjoyment of what is happening.