Son Looking. How should I handle it?

What? And I suppose you didn't look back at his?? Curious and normal on both parts. Enjoy your time with him and don't be a dad who forgets what it's like to be 14.

If you press him over it, he'll most likely get defensive and embaressed and you'll make him think there's a problem and consiquently make him feel broken.

He's not, just let him be. Be a great Dad and let him know you know hes hitting puberty and as long as he does get some girl pregnant and always plays safe, you dont give a shit and will love him whoever he is.

congrats on having close talks. My dad and I did not have that.

Enjoy the time together. They grow-up quick.

Leave him alone.

yeah, I have to agree with someone who felt that this was a fantasy thread. I thought that a lot of the men in here offered some really good advice.I have two sons myself and this relationship does not sound typical or even possibly healthy. The father referred to his son as large. I think that it was not just the son who has been staring. The father was far too interested and knowledgeable of his son's penis size. Smacks of being unhealthy interest. However, since I think that this is a fantasy thread I will leave it at that. Both of you, stop staring at each other. Nuff said.

Thanks everyone for the advice I have received. I have decided majority rules here and I should it happen again, I will say nothing.

honey, don't worry. it seems like normal teenage behavior. he's probably hoping he inherited your good genes and his penis will grow to be as big as yours once he finishes going through puberty

btw, kudos on talking openly about sexuality!

I don't know what the "is there something wrong with this" question and answer going around here, is all about. Of course it's normal. Why? Are you thinking he might be disturbed? Are you thinking he might be gay? He's 14. It's totally beyond normal. In fact, don't even discuss it with him. If he wants to look, let him. I mean, if you're in a locker room or something with him after swimming. Don't tell him to look, but if he does, just ignore it. Now, if he's there obviously starring and making a scene, then you'd say something. But if you can help it, don't ever say anything. It can be emotionally scarring, and you don't want him to feel ashamed. He's simply checking out the equipment. I also don't know how large you are. You could be a walking freak show. lol. Anyone would look.

To the person who said that you could make sexual jokes to him about penis size, etc., that is NEVER appropriate. I know people do it, but to encourage that is just beyond weird. The less a parent starts getting sexual dialog going on with their child, beyond the basics of biology, you're getting into a relationship that is not appropriate.

Just leave him alone. Let him look. He's not hurting anyone. He's curious. It's normal. End of story.

I have a teenage son and I must say that I would far rather he stare at his dad to check things out, than worry about whether he is normal/the "right" size or whatever. You are obviously a good and caring parent and as far as I am concerned, it is perfectly normal. You seem to have an honest open relationship and he is a lucky boy that he has you to talk to and "to compare with". Hope you and your boy have a great summer Starboy.

The best advice is to not take any at all... especially from a message board.

You know the difference between what's 'right' and what's 'wrong.' Let your moral instincts guide you.

Kids are kids. Period.

I never meant to imply that I think its wrong.
It reminds of of Joe Simpson, he went on Time Magazine and said his daughter singer Jessica Simpson had a nice rack, big boobs. I found that very distasteful. The same if a father went on a website and bragged about his son's penis. I have never seen my dad naked, I love him dearly, he loves me, we have a great relationship, but the nudity thing of looking and stuff not with him, now I was 14 when I started showering in the gym with men, WOWSIE, yes I looked and thought hot damn one day...... I am still saying one day! LOL

Bravo, very well said !!!

^^ incest freak digging up all the incest threads from the basement ^^

Well said, this is actually an important topic, our U.S culture is only very recently in the history of our planet trying make common nudity even more of a taboo, this is insane and dangerous, our girls already have such body complex issues these days and now studies show it's happening to boys more and more too. The simpler days when same-sex family members and others more commonly shared bathroom, skinny dipped, didn't freak to change in same room and otherwise see each other naked regularly were much better times to grow up and those days can return if more dads loosen up and stop acting weird about simple same-gender nudity etc.