How to deal with being a 31-year-old male virgin

dolfette

chill.

that's my advice.

usually i'm brutally honest on this ste but there's nothing to be brutal about here.

what matters more?
popping your cherry?
or losing your virginity to a woman you really care for?

if it's the first then just go for it.
start hitting on women.

if it's the second?
stop thinking about yourself as a virgin and start thinking of yourself as a man, a potential lover, a human being.
start meeting women and dating...no need to pre-warn them on your first date.
just get to know them and explain when the issue arises.
no woman worth knowing will think less of you.
most women would feel flattered that you want them to be the one.

bguy

Thanks for the different perspective. Yes, I'd ideally like to find a really special woman that would be understanding and feel flattered. But I'd hate to lose someone special that would find it unattractive when it came up. Frankly, I don't get the impression that "most women" would feel flattered. I mean, how would you feel if you were dating a 31-year-old divorced guy and once things started to get to a sexual point, he told you he's a virgin? Would you really feel flattered, or would you be thinking 'What's wrong with this guy?'

dolfette

if he told me that his wife had some kind of sexual issue and the marriage was never consumated?
i'd think he must be very kind to have let the situation continue.
i'd think he must be incredibly faithful to have never strayed in all those years.
i'd think that in a world full of liars, users, players and arseholes this guy is really rather special.


or you could choose not to tell them at all. if you've read up & watched lovers guide then i doubt she'd notice.
some of the best sex i ever had was with a virgin.

bguy

Wow, thank you for that perspective. There really are different ways of looking at things. I feel a lot better about myself. My mind knew those things were true, but my emotions were getting the best of me.

Lng_1

Might I suggest a word of caution... "DON'T MARRY THE FIRST PERSON WHO LAYS YOU."

Make sure you know the person and are not just "grateful" or "aroused" by the idea that she took your virginity. In fact, there are many women who would think it an honor to take a guy's virginity, especially at age 31. Good luck.

danny8x7

youre puttin the pussy up on a pedestal




...i had to

THEDUDEofDestiny

you know how i know you're gay?

stacy1185

"because you like coldplay."

LOL

I need to be myself.
I can't be no one else.

Mr. Hardcock

Hey...I like coldplay....

What's this? Oh...just my package.
Yep, God delivered it, I signed for it.
World keeps on spinning.
(7" x 6", if it's racking your brain and you are just dying to know.) (No camming for guys, sorry fellas!)

" What a beast!"
- Super_Crayon

Smooth88

This topic was good now its become stupid.

Message to TC. Don't become to emotional when you penetrate for the first time. Just relax and take it easy.

By the way this is coming from a 19 year old virgin lol.

Sign: Scorpio
Height: 6'1 Weight: 235
soft: Length: 6" around 5.25"
hard: length 8.5" around 6"

blondstranger

If she's a real woman and she's right for you then you'll be right for her, just the way you are. In fact, I think you're a breath of fresh air in a really complicated world. Oh how I'd love to find such a gentleman...

On another note, I think you might have been able to get an annulment (sp?) since your marriage was never consumated... but I may be wrong on that.

I don't cam but thanks for asking...

ZOS23xy

I'd go for the annulment. It wasn't like the two of them were so isolated they didn't know what sex was. This kind of story crops up infrequently.


Its worth exploring if she is trying to collect money from you.

I'll also go for that cute Stacy too.

I am not an expert. This is the internet. No one knows you're a dog.

Don't hate me because you're You.

Everybody stereotypes.

Are we here now?

lustlover07

line starts behind me

roger_dodger

At first I thought this was a sad story and I felt bad for you. But now that I read the other posts and pondered your situation, I'm sort of envious. If you are as cool and caring as you appear to be then you will have no problems finding a good girl when your ready.

Be confident and go out there and make it happen. Thats how people lose their virginity in high school, why not at 31.

Sex is an awesome thing, but its not anywhere close to the most important thing in life. Just be yourself. Make some small adjustments to better believe in yourself. You can do it!

Keep on keeping on!

mrniceguyinfl

I agree.