Wife hates sex

loads · 04-09-2008

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Originally Posted by iloveoral1985

maybe she should look around on here for a while I know my husband loves that I look at all the guys on here because he's gettin it the first chance we get I just have to spend time looking at Loads pics and i'm ready!

Thanks iloveoral1985. Made my day.

harry_pothead · 04-09-2008

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Originally Posted by edman

Hi
any of you in relationships where you have the higher sex drive & your partner wont give it up?
Its driving me insane. My wife & I have been married for 5 yrs and I'm lucky if we do it every 4 months.
She says its too painful, even though I catch her staring when I get changed. But she gets pissed if she catches me glancing at other girls or if any girl pays me attention. I suppose I'm just not sure how to handle this situation.

Get an attorney.

alex8.5 · 04-09-2008

This may not be a reflection on you has a husband or man. The lady may have issues from a long time ago, there may have been some form of abuse, rape, bad sexual relationship. You might want to suggest counselling, or maybe ask her to discuss this with her doctor. It could also be as simple as hormone levels. Be patient and be there for her. But at some point you will have to decide if a celibate relationship is right for you..

Squirternv · 04-09-2008

either way it's not cool or nice or wifely!!
It sucks, I would not turn a cock like yours down!!

cinnamon · 04-09-2008

Very well said Naughty!!! I can't think of anything else to add.

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Originally Posted by naughty

Edman,Not knowing all the issues here I am not going to label your partner. Perhaps she may be depressed or depending upon her age suffering from the effects of perimenopause. Lack of desire, dryness, mood swings are all part of that. I applaud you for trying to be patient. I do agree that she should realize that even though she may not be feeling it, you are and that out of love and concern for you she might need to be a bit more creative. Sometimes people are so exhausted they cant even think about anything else. COuld that be the problem? For women sex doesnt usually start in the bed room. It may be that you need to make it an all day thing little ways in which you show her you care that may bring big dividends. Maybe I am crazy but the biggest turn on for me would be to see the undeniable signs of pleasure on the face of the man I loved but then that would just be me, right? Let her know that her vagina is not the only place love can be made there are hands breasts and mouths that can do amazing things.

midlifebear · 04-09-2008

Dear Edman:

You know that old canard: Women, you can't live with them and you can't shoot 'em? In your case, I think you're perfectly within your marital rights to shoot her. Life is just too fucking short.

And just in case you do shoot her and you get caught, just tell them that Mr. Midlifebear told you that it was OK and you had my permission.

thickmick · 04-09-2008

get a mortal and bang the hell out of a that turn things round she just needs to be fcuked and dominated the love just getting grabbed and someone sticking it in like a wild man the more you ask are plead it puts them off

be a man get buy a bottle of vodka and a few bottles of wine get her to relax then shag the arse of a

the next day she will be saying do you think we should have another drink tonight lol

are asking for a divorce either way you got your nob end away

cinnamon · 04-09-2008

So this is what should be done to all men with low sex drives as well? Or when impotence set in?

"In your case, I think you're perfectly within your marital rights to shoot him."

Making a mental note....all righty then.

"Midlifebear told you that it was OK and you had my permission."

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Originally Posted by midlifebear

Dear Edman:

You know that old canard: Women, you can't live with them and you can't shoot 'em? In your case, I think you're perfectly within your marital rights to shoot her. Life is just too fucking short.

And just in case you do shoot her and you get caught, just tell them that Mr. Midlifebear told you that it was OK and you had my permission.

HazelGod · 04-09-2008

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Originally Posted by cinnamon

So this is what should be done to all men with low sex drives as well? Or when impotence set in?

No, no, no...there's a double standard at work here. Ladies don't get to shoot the gents. They simply get to phone a Friend.

Yes, that's Friend, with a capital F.

K8 · 04-09-2008

Oh boy!!!

Edman and Hellboy0 - room in that boat for another one please?

I don't have the answer either, though would say to you Edman, you're right to be addressing this now, i.e. sooner rather than later, as it shan't change.

I decided after 3 - 4 years that the relationship with the person you love is more important than sex, if they hate it and won't have it.

Turns out, 15 years down the line, you are still in the same boat but liking the person a lot less, resenting them, feeling as frustrated as anything and also that its not just sex missing now, but intimacy, communication, understanding etc etc.

Basically it's all gone down the toilet!

Please don't waste a decade proving yourself right!

midlifebear · 04-09-2008

Oh, now diaphanous Miss Cinnamon who walks in beauty as the night:

You know I was just yanking chains. And what's good for the goose IS good for the Gander, especially if he's an abusing asshole. Shoot him and bury him deep. Better yet, invest in a log shredder and mulch the roses. They'll appreciate it.

I just don't understand how people, gay or straight, can remain in relationships where both parties do not encourage and nurture one another. The few times I've found myself in a relationship where my mate was resentful about making love, well . . . that's something one should not have to feel resentful about. I cut them loose ASAP and they are now on groveling in their own Hell or making someone else miserable. Basically, that's my point. It's things like my married friends saying "Well, I asked my wife for sex last night and . . ." What? They have to "ask" for sex. Is there no emotional communication between these couples so that they know when they want to frolic like squirrels on slick linoelum? Do they not find one another sexy? They have stuff in common (a bank acccount) but are otherwise sexually incompatible? Yea gods! Life is far too short for both poor Edman and his spooky squeeze. They should part amicably and find other humans with emotional parts that match.

Now, please excuse me. I can't seem to locate the invisible keys to my invisible jet. Also can't remember where I parked my jet. Maybe these are omens of things to come?

cinnamon · 04-09-2008

Now, that is a much better reply. I agree with you.
I thought you said I could drive your invisible jet. Oops

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Originally Posted by midlifebear

Oh, now diaphanous Miss Cinnamon who walks in beauty as the night: ALL RIGHTY THEN.

You know I was just yanking chains. And what's good for the goose IS good for the Gander, especially if he's an abusing asshole. Shoot him and bury him deep. Better yet, invest in a log shredder and mulch the roses. They'll appreciate it.

I just don't understand how people, gay or straight, can remain in relationships where both parties do not encourage and nurture one another. The few times I've found myself in a relationship where my mate was resentful about making love, well . . . that's something one should not have to feel resentful about. I cut them loose ASAP and they are now on groveling in their own Hell or making someone else miserable. Basically, that's my point. It's things like my married friends saying "Well, I asked my wife for sex last night and . . ." What? They have to "ask" for sex. Is there no emotional communication between these couples so that they know when they want to frolic like squirrels on slick linoelum? Do they not find one another sexy? They have stuff in common (a bank acccount) but are otherwise sexually incompatible? Yea gods! Life is far too short for both poor Edman and his spooky squeeze. They should part amicably and find other humans with emotional parts that match.

Now, please excuse me. I can't seem to locate the invisible keys to my invisible jet. Also can't remember where I parked my jet. Maybe these are omens of things to come?

scottish.47 · 04-09-2008

The short solution, divorce her. In reality, I think you just posted this to get some attention. If that is the case, shame, shame on you.

midlifebear · 04-09-2008

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Originally Posted by cinnamon

Now, that is a much better reply. I agree with you.
I thought you said I could drive your invisible jet. Oops

Lady Cinnamon (canela in Spanish): If you can find my keys you can not only fly my jet you can be my designated driver.

christina · 04-09-2008

ya know what u seem like a really nice guy like i said b4, but it also seems as though and i could be way off here but it seems as though u might have some self esteem issues, just a shot in the dark here. i say this because i really dont know that many or anyone for that matter who would stay in this kind of relationship and give her oral and recieve absolutily nothing in return. and i dont mean this mean in any means i really dont im just wondering. and if that is the case get a divorce get ur shit together and find someone and go to town.

Wife hates sex

Originally Posted by iloveoral1985 maybe she should look around on here for a while I know my husband loves that I look at all the guys on here because he's gettin it the first