So I got pushed away because I look gay…

Cheers Lito,

Sorry to hear of yr dilemma.
I agree with Slant..
Also i suggest you give her a weekly call for say about a month/give her time to re-think
Verbal/dont actually see her in person, and see what the end result maybe.
If she is craving for you it may happen, otherwise i feel, just sign right OUT of her life, she can continue letting her friends'? dictate her partners..?? Immature Girl.
Let her pursue her Medical carerr with her friend,s'doubt she is going to find the right" person for herself with that attitude, at her age?
-lucky escape-is right,forget about the Great Sex you had just a one off..so..-
Great Sex can happen with anyone.-
enz
--well i hope you havent woken up and changed your mind re dumping her/but if you have..will send my thoughts anyway
just DONT giv ein for a month or so.. (if she is still interested in you).........MAKE her Beg.. for you ..you call the shots at this stage..?

The reason why I gave the advice that I did was for Lito's benefit. I have had situations that were kind of similiar when I was single.....not exactly....but it reminded me of it. One example in particular.....I had met a guy at a party and he and I hit it off.....and our relationship was going a lot like Lito described.....then one day he broke up with me because of my weight.....he said he just couldn't see his self with a fat girl. And he just didn't think it was that big of a deal for me to be able to lose some weight. I just remember that it devastated me. He had never mentioned my weight before...... Anyways I dealt with everything as best as I could......I think I gave him a week.....and he was back at my door begging me to take him back......telling me that he had made a mistake.

But it was my choice to have anything to do with him anymore. I knew that he didn't like my weight. So I was able to tell him that we would only be friends from that point on.

I just like to give people a chance to make things right. It helps for there not to be any hard feelings later on down the road.

And also it would help Lito with being able to deal with this situation a lot better......


Obviously the girl has some kind of problems......at least Lito is getting a head's up on them.

Yes, I was impressed about the lady being a medical doctor too.

Dump the bitch.

Of course the other option is to convince her you are not gay... perhaps that impression was b/c you "took it slow". Tell her how horney she makes you and that you have to have her. It can be a secret. She doesn't have to tell her friends. You can be her fuck toy. Be rough with her. Fuck her hard! .... uhhhhh.. never mind, doing that would be about as shallow and mean as not dating someone b/c they "look gay".

Buddy, At the risk of sounding like a CLICHE, If her deciding whether or not to date you, and ignoring ALL the GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOU, as well as the GOOD TIMES you two have shared, depends upon what her FRIENDS think & say about you...well then my friend, she is NOT worth your time and effort. You deserve BETTER!!!

I wish you luck and keep your head held HIGH, there IS someone out there for you, it may just take time to find the RIGHT ONE, because IF she was the RIGHT ONE...She would have NEVER mentioned this to you, and hurt you the way she did. She would have went with her HEART, NOT with the FOOLISH opinions of her SO CALLED Friends.

Be Strong, and Be TRUE to yourself !!!

I wish you all good things that you wish for yourself!

My Best,

G.

You missed the whole point of his post. She knows he's not gay. Fucking her rough is not the issue.

She's worried about what her friends will think.

women lie, but if she is telling the truth she doesn't love you that much... friends would not talk or care who is ur partner...

Well, at least you know what kinda woman you were involved with. You REALLY are blessed to know that that girl was a package deal...you are not sleeping with her...you are sleeping with her friends' opinion of your sexuality.

YOU DEFINATELY DO NOT WANT TO CONTINUE WITH ANY WOMAN THAT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL WEIRDED OUT...AND WILL CHOOSE HER LOVERS OVER WHETHER THE FRIENDS THINK THAT "IS HE GAY?" What kinda of bullshit is that?

Man. I wish I could be there to meet your "girlfriend". I would tell her to go fuck her friends. Sleep with them.

Some beyotches you don't EVEN want to consider continuing anything with. She was a waste of your time. I would tell her to stay the fuck away.

I bet she listens to Ann Coulter. What a cunt.

Well, I'm in another country, so I may have mistranslated something here. She graduated in medicine already, and is now going through residence (don't know if that's the term in English) =D

All in all, thanks for the support and replies. It's actually comforting to be here, I mean it. My big thanks!

EDIT: btw, I'll have a definitive conversation with her tomorrow, after work. I'll post the results here. My intention is to just end it all and get my borrowed, precious books back.

She's just as much of a homophobic bigot as her friends. Worse still is the fact that she is ruled by them. I suggest finding someone who is not owned by a prejudiced, shallow group of persons. Goodluck Lito.

It sounds like her friends are more important to her than her own happiness. These kind of people can never make decisions on their own without "consulting the jury". Forget her, you are going down a hard road my friend. Her friends will always be in your business. You can find a better woman.

It's the 1% that did it.

But, in all seriousness, not cool of her.

If she was telling the truth about thinking you acted/looked too gay AND it was her first orgasm with a man, then surely she'd still be willing to meet you for sex without her friends knowing.

And that's acceptable behaviour from her, is it - to only want him as a secret fuck buddy so her friends won't tease her. He should be OK with that, should he? From what I read the guy has feelings for this girl, or at least did, why should he accept being treated like some sextoy she keeps hidden in the cupboard?