So I got pushed away because I look gay…

Ok, 4 hours later... my slow mind processed the whole incident, and alas, confusion became anger.

There you go. I'll go to sleep now, and send her on her way tomorrow morning... screw it =D

Walk away...

send her a copy of the song Skaterboy by Avril Lavigne

Just tell her that since you've been with her you have become gay.

Oooh thats a low blow....i like it

Yeah, you don't want to be with a girl that cares that much about her peer's opinions unless you want to have a relationship with her AND her friends. Soon enough, her friends will find out that they can dictate your relationship with said girl... and nobody wants that.

I know it sounds harsh, but find a more independent and mature girl.

No wonder she'd never had an orgasm with someone...

She was probably waiting for her friends' permission

I also like that "since I met you I've turned gay" answer lol.

But basically, she's not worth your time, you'll find someone else. Maybe you were mostly in love with her body/looks; more than her mind which she needs to have made up by other people.

She sounds like a strange person, and someone you should avoid. There's nothing wrong with a guy trying to look his best, but obviously not to an extreme where he looks effeminate and over the top; unless that's the look you're trying to achieve, which in your case does not sound that way at all.

Some people say Ryan Seacrest looks gay, is gay, is effeminate looking, and I don't think so. To me, he's a good looking guy who takes care of himself. I've seen pics of him when he's not all fixed up and he still looks good.

Wow, man, that really sucks, but it says way more about her than it does about you. Like that she is (in the words of the departed Bobs) a perverted fucktard?!

She's a loser, with all kinds of emotional issues you really don't want to deal with later.

Mourn the loss, get over her, and get on with your life - with someone who has a little more self-esteem.

And don't waste any anger on her. It drains you, and solves nothing.

Wow, Lito,

I hate it that you are having to go through something like this. You have every right to feel hurt. And I know I wouldn't blame you if you never ever spoke to this woman again.

What she did was wrong. But she is the one that is going to have to live with herself and her actions. Sounds to me like she is the one missing out on a great guy. Her loss.


One nosey question though.......is there a chance that maybe this woman has committment issues (she has a fear is committment) and you two were getting too close and she kind of like freaked out.....pulled away.....talked to her friends......who were jealous of you because they want your woman all to theirself......so they tell her that they think you are gay and for her to dump you......and she is still so freaked out and emotionally fragile she breaks down and tells you that her friends think you are gay. And she doesn't mean to hurt you.......she is just all freaked out because she hasn't ever felt so close to committing herself to anyone.

I would give her one week.......and if she hasn't come back to you on her knees telling you she was sorry and that she made a mistake listening to her friends.....and that she won't ever put anyone over you ever again...... If she hasn't had a mind change in one week.......I would just forget about her and move on.

This is what I would do........this is what I did......when I was single. I always gave everyone the benefit of the doubt until it was proven otherwise. People make mistakes. Give her one week to apologize. And you can decide whether to get back with her or not.......if she comes to you begging your forgiveness.

That's my opinion and advice.

That is so funny, because I always thought looking gay was a huge compliment.

I usually agree with a lot of your posts, kadtxgrl, but I have to disagree with this one. At her age and level of education, that kind of behavior is definitely a red flag, and indicates a lot of deeper issues that most likely won't go away.

I am impressed, though, that she's a medical doctor at the tender young age of 27. That's REALLY young for an MD.

I agree with kadtxgrl....don't act in haste tomoorow....give her a week to think things over.