The Top Ten Requirements For Becoming A Great Lover.

cinnamon · 03-27-2008

I found this on my favorite web page and wanted to share.
After reading these, do you have something extra to add or do you think this article is crazy? Please do discuss.

1. Defining great sex is individual and relative. It varies from person to person. Therefore, there is no such thing as a "perfect lover" who can jump into bed with anyone and give them an unbelievable night of unparalleled sexual pleasure. These kind of super lovers are a figment of someone's imagination.

2. A great lover isn’t someone who always does it right, has a gigantic penis, is always in the mood, can raise an erection on demand, can maintain an erection for 5 hours straight, and has the endurance of a marathon champion.

3. A great lover is someone who is attentive, responsive, creative, and communicative.

4. A great lover makes each lovemaking experience special and memorable.

5. A great lover makes their partner feel sexy, loved, and desired, and makes sure they are satisfied every single time.

6. A great male lover isn’t dependent upon only his penis to pleasure his partner. His penis is just one weapon in his sexual arsenal.

7. Great lovers do not allow themselves to fall into a predictive pattern of lovemaking.

8. Great lovers have an open and curious attitude toward sex. They are always willing to try something new or learn something new about sex.

9. Great lovers possess the intention, desire, and know-how to always keep the flames of passion alive.

10. We can learn to thoroughly pleasure our partners to a degree that most people think exists only in fantasy. It takes some experimentation, some patience, a lot of communication, and a lot of practice. The secret is to learn how to make love to YOUR PARTNER! Great sex is individual, remember? Being a great lover is all about learning how to love YOUR PARTNER the way they want to be loved.

cinnamon · 03-27-2008

Okay, I am looking for Phil to place an answer on this thread. And who knows maybe even Mr. Crabs (aka Driftwood).

HazelGod · 03-27-2008

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1. Defining great sex is individual and relative. It varies from person to person. Therefore, there is no such thing as a "perfect lover" who can jump into bed with anyone and give them an unbelievable night of unparalleled sexual pleasure. These kind of super lovers are a figment of someone's imagination.

Here I was thinking the reason I couldn't see myself in the mirror was because I'd become one of the undead.

cinnamon · 03-27-2008

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Here I was thinking the reason I couldn't see myself in the mirror was because I'd become one of the undead.

HazelGod , I say this in a southern drawl....YOU IS SO GOOFY BUT I LOVE YA. You know how to make me smile, dude. Your wife has her hands full with you.

HazelGod · 03-27-2008

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HazelGod , I say this in a southern drawl....YOU IS SO GOOFY BUT I LOVE YA. You know how to make me smile, dude. Your wife has her hands full with you.

Aw, shucks...thanks, love! Now ah feel all bashful-like...

In all seriousness, though, what I believe makes one "good" or "great" has less to do with physical technique (although that's a crucial component) than with the ability to really listen to or read your partner's body language and responses.

Believe me, what most women consider good sex not only varies from girl to girl, it can change from day to day for the same girl. Sometimes, I'm listening for her cues to follow...other times, I'm hearing that she's following my lead...and sometimes, I'm telling her what she likes regardless of what she might think she wants.

ZOS23xy · 03-27-2008

My wife thinks its because I'm very patient, I listen and I don't talk to her tits. Early on in our relationship, she said some guys would just focus on her cleavage and just chatter away. For a while she thought I was gay because I didn't do that (no, a hearing loss made it a requirement to be very attentive).

Catchoftheday · 03-27-2008

Do they mean making love or do they mean sex I think they should make up there minds or do we think the two things are the same

Drifterwood · 03-27-2008

Blah blah blah

The survey makes the usual women's survey flaw of making it relative to the other person's performance. So it's pooh.

But, because I am so lovely

Good sex happens when people know what they are doing.

Great sex happens when people are emotionally in tune.

Perfect sex happens when you combine one and two.

I don't think that it is any more complicated than that.

cinnamon · 03-27-2008

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Blah blah blah

The survey makes the usual women's survey flaw of making it relative to the other person's performance. So it's pooh.

But, because I am so lovely

Good sex happens when people know what they are doing.

Great sex happens when people are emotionally in tune.

Perfect sex happens when you combine one and two.

I don't think that it is any more complicated than that.

Think_Kink · 03-27-2008

Not going to read it.. cause I know it's a crock of shit.

cinnamon · 03-27-2008

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Not going to read it.. cause I know it's a crock of shit.

MMMM, well can't bat a 1,000 with every new thread. But I try.

transformer_99 · 03-27-2008

Is there a top 10 for lousy lovers ? I figure in the first bullet point, if a "great lover" is a figment of one's imagination, then lousy one's are too ? And if how one rates as a lover is based upon another's imagination ? Well it goes back to "being accountable and responsible" for your own ejaculations/orgasms ?

yelims · 03-27-2008

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A great lover isn’t someone who always does it right, has a gigantic penis, is always in the mood, can raise an erection on demand, can maintain an erection for 5 hours straight, and has the endurance of a marathon champion.

Then I'm not a great lover.

cinnamon · 03-27-2008

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Then I'm not a great lover.

Oh, you have the physical part down, now what about the rest?

yelims · 03-27-2008

What is a great female lover? In my limited experience, one who loves a lot of cunnilingus. If she is wild about that, she is wild about everything.

The Top Ten Requirements For Becoming A Great Lover.

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