Why Can't You Be Gay?

These thoughts tend to sum up my feelings on the matter. I personally feel that gay men who seek out straight men and then try to coerce them into sex give gay men a bad name. While I understand the temptation of the forbidden or the unavailable (e.g., the virginal woman, the married/attached women or man) I feel that boundaries must be respected.

If a straight buddy approached me and explained that he was feeling curious and wanted to consider some exploration with me as someone he trusts, that would be something I might consider (and then only in rare situations). Chasing straight men for the sake of chasing straight men is bad karma. I wonder how many gay men who do this are really just seeking out masculine men, regardless of their orientation?

Converted no, but made to think it's OK perhaps? In many Latino cultures, only the bottom guy is thought of as gay. So for them getting a blow job or screwing some guy in the ass is OK as long as they are the one getting blown or doing the screwing, not the other way around. So to some extent I'd have to say what is OK sexually is learned and not totally biological brain wiring.

I have found a large percentage of men (particularly in their late teens and early twenties) have periods, even if its only a half hour, when they are horny and curious as the same time. If you like to sleep with straight guys, and I do, you need to recognize when a guy is in this state, have the guts to act on it, and be prepared to often never talk about it or indicate in any way that it has happened.

As far as converting straight guys, to my knowledge and experience, it can't be done any more than gay people can be converted to straightness.

Exactly....but most people are bisexual.


So true...

Ah yes....spectrum it is...another intelligent human being who has kept up with his reading. I think everyone is bi...for the most part...the rarest cases have a completely gay man and a completely straight man...not many of those exist. Most people are "BETWEEN" the 1 and 10 on the scale of 1-10 (1 being completely straight and 10 being completely gay) on the spectrum. However, we generally choose to establish an identity based on our comfort level, not our attraction.

hot sex is great,
hot sex with people comfortable with their sexuality.....priceless...

what i mean is, if a guy wants a guy, but wants a girl...well just get both in the same room! i dont feel the need to be labled "gay" or "straight" really applies...like you said "fun-buddies" why does everyone need a lable

Why waste your energy on someone you know you'll never have because they are straight or just simply not interested. Move on, life is too short.

I much prefer married bi guys they make great bottoms and are also great cock suckers

"gay" "straight" whatever...im saying that if a guy and a girl are getting it on and another guy comes along and enjoys both the guy and the girl...more the merrier! "conversions" are so finite....can't a man enjoy just having sex, without judging himself as gay or straight....like the rating on this site...100%straight...90/10 etc...i have no interest in other women, but i think i would really enjoy being with guys that are into each other...do they have to be gay? bi? how bout just out for some safe fun!

I do like the way you think...are we related???? Listen to her, she speaks the truth.

you're right, not all straight women are lucky, and we don't always land the hot straight ones either. take me for instance... for some unexplainable reason i am ALWAYS attracted to the gay ones. and especially since i'm in LA, you never know who could be gay and who could be straight either. it makes me sad when i find out one of my crushes is gay because there's no hope for me to get the gay ones to become straight. so that's why i just stopped hitting on men in general.

Isn't this a dangerous thing to attempt? I mean, gay men have lost their lives in this pursuit. It seems an extreme thing to risk one's life in pursuit of an orgasm.

i agree

This has happened to me a lot too, even in the rural area where I grew up! (Yes, there ARE gay men there, too... and I seemingly was attracted to every one of them! )

It seems im attracted to the Bi-Sexual ones and I really HATE to SHARE!!! WTF???

i'm not alone hahahaha... for the longest time i thought it was just me who happened to fall for the gay guys!! you know the feeling too... they're just so charming, aren't they?