racism and dating.need some advice

i am a 19 year old black male. i live in cahrleston south carolina so the race lines are drawn pretty clear around here. anyway i just started goin to trident to take business classes before i transfer to a real college and i met this girl. we been dating for a while. she's the shit. i cant stop thinking about her. but one thing, she's white. that shit dont fly with too many people around here. but all the black girls i dated seem immature and complacent. not to interested in somebody whose actually ambitious and way to materialistic. all my childhood friends seem to still be in their childhood, going to jail and sellin dope and shit. i've already been through all that and learned my lesson, jail isnt fun(i still smoke a lil weed here and there though but thats it). but me and this girl (white) i've been dating for the last 4 months have everything in common. plus every black girl i've ever had sex with is excited when they feel my dick in my pants. but once we're naked and they realize i'm uncircumcised the shit hits the fan. half of them say "hell no" and the rest were hesitant. but tis girl doensnt even care. she's just happy that its 10 inches and takes me forever to bust.and when we have sex the contrast from my brown skin to her milky skin turns me on so much. and she aint scared to put it in her mouth. noone in my family knows this,especially my grandma(whose brother was hung when she was growing up in teh 40's) and grandaddy who arent to fond of white people. and i dont know wat my momma would say. and i cant EVEN IMAGINE wat HER parents would say but i'm in love. when we go out in public we get funny looks sometimes but noone really says anything but honestly i dont really care if they do.

i wanna be open with my family and friends about this but i dont wanna feel uncomfortable in my own hometown. and eventually i'm gonna have to meet here family. wat should i do?

There's this term in acting called "blacking up"... :P
You're in a squeeze. Best advice - be brutally honest. Skirting the issue will get you nowhere. If you come off strong you'll get less resistance.

wat is "blacking up" ?

as long as you are happy with your girlfriend, that's all that matters. people need to get with the times and accept that this is the 21st century! i understand that it can be very racially segregated in the south, but interracial dating is all around us and there's nothing that will prevent it from happening! you should definitely tell your family and friends about this girl, even if they look down on you for dating outside of your race. it's your life. live by your own rules. the judgments and prejudices made by others won't bring you down, it'll only make you stronger.

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I know where you're coming from dude, I am now married to a southern black guy and I'm a white british! He is also 15 years older than me, so we had it all against us!

I think the best advice is to live your life, dont let what other people think worry you. You cant forever please everyone. As long as you and your girl are happy and want to be together, that is all that should matter and your families will just have to accept that.

It's not a crime, it may be considered 'taboo' where you are, but so what!

I am also a black guy living in the south, so I understand your pain. Racism is still just as alive and well here as it was 40 years ago. I would encourage you to be careful, but also not be afraid to share the truth about your relationship, because love isnt something you have to hide.

Dude a relationship is all about how the other person makes u feel. Its not about the colour of their skin their wealth or status in society. Also its u that are having the relationship. Not your family your friends or your neighbours. Yes its tricky for you but if she makes u feel good stick with it and if its meant to be it will last.
I'm speaking from experience in being in a mixed race relationship. Fuck em if they don't like it is my advice xx

Try telling everyone. See what happens. DO your best to make it work. Just make sure you dont ge hung or something southern like that.

....Good luck dude.

Try bringing her around and telling your parents that you are working on a school project, see how they react, then go from there?

What NJQT said, except that SOUTH (ie. Miami area) Florida might work.
Haivng moved from central FLorida to California about six years ago, I can say it is REALLY different out here, much more accepting of individual choices.
Dave

Anything goes in California.

What a shame that in this day and age you should have to be concerned about this at all.
I don't have any good advice just wanted to say good luck and take care.