Ever been stalked?

Yes and it was absolutely terrifying and pretty much took over my life while it lasted. I know women get lovecrazy, too, but I don't think it's the same experience when it happens to a guy. I would imagine for guys it's more annoying and/or embarassing (in most cases); for women, it can have much darker consequences.

Yes, and I concur it was absolutely nerve-wracking. I had nightmares quite a few times about it. Mine involved someone who I dated for about a month very casually. I pulled the plug when I felt like things were getting a little too intense and weird. Next thing I know I'm getting phone calls (and hang ups) at all hours, drive-bys, dolls left in front of my door at night (?), "random" appearances at bars I was hanging out in, emails with pictures of me I didn't know were being taken (and after we split up). Was all around the most disturbing thing that's ever happened to me.

Yes, I'm dealing with this right now, but fortunately he's in Holland. I did a parody blog with him for awhile, and he thought we had a personal relationship--which we could have had if I'd wanted to meet him after seeing his picture he sent (but I definitely didn't; he's fat and femme). He once said on the blog that he thought of us as 'being married.' Tried to invite himself to visit me in New York and tried to ruin my vacation to Los Angeles, could not bear it when I said I wouldn't use an internet cafe on vacation. Yesterday called me for the first time even after I had told him on the internet that 'you disgust me' and 'leave me the fuck alone' and had for some weeks stopped answering him on his blog or any others when he'd come writing screaming things at me. I got off the phone with a flimsy excuse, but really hung up right in the middle of him trying to set another time. It's probably something that will work itself out if I'm just completely cold and silent since he hasn't the money to just fly over all of a sudden, but I find it creepy anyway. He simply doesn't understand when I say 100% 'NO!' and even after hanging up on him he sent an email asking me to tell him a good time to call 'so we could talk'.

Somehow, I think being stalked by you would be quite fun.

But I digress... I was only stalked once (or at least one time that I was aware of it). I had a quickie with one particular guy when I briefly lived in NJ. Nothing major, just one session of oral. The next few months, the guy would call me anywhere from 2-3 times a day leaving me messages as if he wanted to get together, plan a wedding and talk China patterns. I eventually had to change my number because it was getting monotonous deleting all of those voicemails. Soon after that, I saw him at a train station and I quickly hid to avoid contact. Ever since then, I promised myself never to cruise rough trade on the train rides back home.

Right now I have a situation i hope doesn't turn into a fatal attraction. But as for a "camping in your driveway" kind of stalker. No. I've never been one to pick men that are prone to being that way.

Have I come off as a stalker to a few boyfriends, probably not to them. But I secretly kept tabs on what they are up to out of curiosity.

Stalking sounds flattering to those who don't feel physically threatened. I think anyone can be open to attack because it depends on the person who is the stalker on how far they will take it, but women are likely to have the shorter end of the stick when it comes to self defense so it doesnt settle well with me.

I think I'm going to sign up for karate and get a tazer.

Yes, and before the term stalker was popular. I was 18 and involved in activities that gave me lots of public attention. Homecoming court, some public speaking, also a drum major in band. I never thought of myself as anything other than busy. The cards, gifts, recorded conversations etc was awful. My parents could not get the school to take it seriously. The girl ultimately tried to kill herself...and I was relieved it flushed her out of the woodwork and was not me or anyone I loved. I had to keep the letters for years in case it started again I would have proof. It took a long time to not look over my shoulder. Don't know what happened to her and hope she never did this to anyone else. Don't even know if she is still alive.