Sharing??? FOR THE LADYS ONLY!!!!!

I have fantasized about a FMF or MFF. But I realized that if I want a girl to do this, then I should be open to a MFM or MMF to make her happy. I imagine it would be a big thrill to be with two girls, so I imagine it would be a big thrill for her to be with two guys. It's just a matter of wanting to fulfill your partner's fantasies. I do think that it would test a relationship. If your partner can be with someone else and still want to be with you first and foremost, then that would feel great.

I read once that swingers are happier and stay together more than non-swingers. I think Jennuine73 and quietguy have healthy sex lives. Sorry, NJQT, I think your (over)reaction is a little close minded. (But I accept that's how you feel.)

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So NJQT thinks it's cool for her and two guys to have sex (i.e. her getting double portions of the pork sword) but not for her man (if she had one) to receive likewise in the pussy department.

I'm not a lesbian nor am I bisexual. I have nothing against these people nor am I looking to join their ranks.

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Very fair and liberal-minded.

Yes, I am and if you had been here more than 15 minutes you would know that.

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Any wonder she's alone? Just a thought.

I'm alone because I have high standards; and unlike you I am not willing to settle for an Asian mail order spouse who can't even communicate with me or my friends and family. Do you let her work outside the home? Or is she just your personal chef, maid; and sex slave?

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Plus she shouts in many colours. We can read, harpy (sorry, meant to say baby) without the black/white-board presentation.

BITE ME Bud! I majored in art and I like colors. I also have a minor vision issue and the standard verdana in grey is difficult for me to read.

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Originally Posted by cloudy_rebel1982 Ladys If you had a boyfriend who was extremly well hung and one of ur girfriends constintly talked about him would share ur boyfreind with ur friend??? As in a threesome......

Has everybody actually read the original post, or has this just become yet another attack njqt466 thread? The scenario he presents is destined to end badly.

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Originally Posted by Audre'sAunt I'm not against threesomes but I would never do any sort of sex act with a girlfriend of mine.

Thank you Audre's Aunt, neither would I. Somehow some people have glazed over that fact.

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I've had several ladies ask if they could share me. Then again, many of my friends are bi and poly, so sharing is quite common.

And here lies the crux of the problem here. I'm not bi, no man I have ever been in a relationship with have been bisexual.

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And if a person is not bi or poly, and would not share, I'd just conclude that we are too incompatible.

Exactly! Chances of you and I meeting and having chemistry are probably slime to none. We are just different types of people. That said I don't appreciate you and others making me out to be some sort of 18th century sexual prude. Nothing could be farther from the truth.

[quote=Jovial;1344388]I have fantasized about a FMF or MFF. But I realized that if I want a girl to do this, then I should be open to a MFM or MMF to make her happy. I imagine it would be a big thrill to be with two girls, so I imagine it would be a big thrill for her to be with two guys. It's just a matter of wanting to fulfill your partner's fantasies.

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I do think that it would test a relationship. If your partner can be with someone else and still want to be with you first and foremost, then that would feel great.

I don't like testing relationships. Good ones are too hard to find. A 3some with strangers is your best bet.

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I read once that swingers are happier and stay together more than non-swingers. I think Jennuine73 and quietguy have healthy sex lives.

I don't doubt that they do; but the fact I choose monogamy does not make me close minded. Sorry, NJQT, I think your (over)reaction is a little close minded. (But I accept that's how you feel.) Grrr, I reiterate. Read the OP's original post this is not a healthy scenario.

Nope.

I want one man to myself who wants me all to himself.

Sex to me is about connection, a physical expression of love. I neither desire to nor want to be with a man who desires to make an extra connection outside the pair bond.

I can sort of understand the triad because you are still in a commited relationship. But to have someone flit about the edges is a different story.

Someone asked earlier "what if it wasn't that serious a relationship?". My answer to that is he could do as he liked because I would already be out of it.

NJ, you are still overreacting.

It's not a healthy scenario for you.
That is your opinion rather than absolute fact. You could have expressed your thoughts on this just as well without jumping down the OPs throat for having asked. It was just a question. The OP isn't going to lay in wait to try to have a threesome with you and your next lover. Relax.

uh, show me were I said I was speaking for everyone? I presume I am speaking for myself since he asked what ladies thought. in fact he asked for ladies only.

or that your lecture about monogamy is even relevant, given that you criticized someone else for jumping to conclusions that it's an ownership issue. I simply clarified that it's an intimacy issue for me, I don't think I have to share everything with my best friend to get off or for my man to get off. Some of us women have more demanding sexual appetites and sharing would be a moot point, I'd feel jealous and that isn't an emotion I'd want to have to navigate w/ my best friend. If that boyfriend didn't last, I'd want my frienship with my best friend to remain intact.

dude. mellow.

Wouldn't it also unconsionable to surround yourself
with so called "slutty friends"?
That's not how I describe my real friends.
At least the ones I respect anyway.
cigarbabe

Hahahahahaha!
Very Funny! Harpy!
I don't see where anyone is picking on you.
C.B.

In your earlier comment where you said "I don't know if it's ownership over him that is the issue. It's the intimacy that cannot be recovered or that you are distracted with another woman in the room. Also not just a stranger, a friend?", you did not specify that you were only referring to intimacy in your relationships, not everybody's relationships. Your comment was in general terms and did not specify yourself.

If you said something like: "I don't know if I could recover trust and emotional intimacy with a partner after a threesome. Perhaps others can enjoy threesomes and retain or build intimacy, but not me.", then you would make it obvious you were speaking only about your experiences. It would also show that you can accept that somebody else's needs and experiences may seem very different from yours. And that their life choices, while different from yours, are valid for them.

I don't assume that what is true for me is true for everyone else. I try to make it clear that I speak only from my own experiences, intentions and needs, and that I don't project that onto others.

I had a girlfriend that loved to show me off to her friends.

One in particular used to be allowed to suck me.

It was fun for a while but her friend was 'Queen of the Cocksuckers' and I obviously loved it. The girlfriend did not like that.

It all ended in tears.

[quote=njqt466;1344404]Just got 3 responses to that little tirade:

1) Why do you continually jump to erroneous conclusions (your posts are peppered with you presenting mere opinions as facts). It appears to you that if you are a female Asian with a Western male you must, therefore, ipso facto have been purchased or otherwise procured via mail-order - food for thought, all you readers of Asian extraction, but wholly incorrect in this instance. Consequently, those children of such mixed races must number a mail-order whore for a mother and a pimp/punter for a father. I hope that lies well with the Board Members of mixed Asian race and those in mixed Asian race relationships.

2) Could it be that the anger you exhibit so regularly is born of sexual frustration? One wonders why?

3) I wouldn't bite you with a mouth full of Listerene and a Rabies Clinic on-hand.

See, this is what I envisioned happening from the OP.

LOL
Um, YEH!!!
I could NOT take seeing another girl suckin my mans dick!!!!
HELL NO

but, im sure it was fun for you