What do you all think...

sugarandspice · 02-26-2008

I met a guy on the net and we went to movie.
We had a few things in common and we were supposed to get together last Friday night and work on one of my businesses and have dinner.

Friday came and I was having a lot of inflammation in my neck from therapy and had to keep it iced and thought I needed to go to the hospital and get a Toradol injection.
The ER visit wouldn't really take that long since they know me.
I needed a driver and it should have only taken 45 to 90 minutes.

So I asked the guy to take me to the ER and hang with me .
He didn't want to.

In the past and present men treat me very well and would take me to the ER and hang with me .

I guess I didn't realize what a hassle it would seem like to him but we could still see each other and talk while I was waiting and whatnot. I thought it was reasonable.

I am trying to see if I am a little spoiled by very kind friends who are not the norm or if this guy is a "fair weather " friend.

Almost everyone who knows me has been to the hospital with me.
I am very blessed to have wonderful friends.

I am trying to decide how I feel about the Fair Weather Guy.
I thought maybe he considers me a potential convenient piece of ass since he acted like he really liked me but couldn't hang out with me in the ER.

I want feedback because I want to know if maybe my expectations are too high or if I am right and should not lower my standards.
I set my standards by what I am used to.

My medical needs have intruded on my dating before but they always just went along with it. Am I a little spoiled or is this just how anyone treats someone they really want to build a friendship with?

What do you think?

Mr. Hardcock · 02-26-2008

Me personally I would have done it just because it's the nice thing to do. You needed help, he didn't want to give it, sounds like an ass to me.

ranredd · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by sugarandspice

I met a guy on the net and we went to movie.
We had a few things in common and we were supposed to get together last Friday night and work on one of my businesses and have dinner.

Friday came and I was having a lot of inflammation in my neck from therapy and had to keep it iced and thought I needed to go to the hospital and get a Toradol injection.
The ER visit wouldn't really take that long since they know me.
I needed a driver and it should have only taken 45 to 90 minutes.

So I asked the guy to take me to the ER and hang with me .
He didn't want to.

In the past and present men treat me very well and would take me to the ER and hang with me .

I guess I didn't realize what a hassle it would seem like to him but we could still see each other and talk while I was waiting and whatnot. I thought it was reasonable.

I am trying to see if I am a little spoiled by very kind friends who are not the norm or if this guy is a "fair weather " friend. To me it doesn't seem like it's a matter of right or wrong or spoiled. I would feel that you're spoiled if you're upset that he didn't want to go to the ER. I mean, it truly is his decision if he wants to go. To judge him on his decision seems kinda set-upish.

Almost everyone who knows me has been to the hospital with me.
I am very blessed to have wonderful friends.

I am trying to decide how I feel about the Fair Weather Guy.
I thought maybe he considers me a potential convenient piece of ass since he acted like he really liked me but couldn't hang out with me in the ER.

I want feedback because I want to know if maybe my expectations are too high or if I am right and should not lower my standards.
I set my standards by what I am used to.

My medical needs have intruded on my dating before but they always just went along with it. Am I a little spoiled or is this just how anyone treats someone they really want to build a friendship with?

What do you think?

Considering I have been one of those guys/friends that would pretty much do ANYTHING on a date, I'm speaking from experience. When you're on a date and a person asks you to take them different places for things that have nothing to do with you, it is innocent. Only problem is that if the person is basing hanging out with you or only wanting to continue seeing you if you are doing stuff for them, then that's a little spoiled. If he doesn't do something, you shouldn't react to him and judge him and feel like you don't want to see him, because after all that doesn't mean he doesn't like you or anything like that. And just on the other side of things, you should ask yourself if you'd do the same. If so, then again, it's their decision but doesn't make or break the person.

ranredd · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by Mr. Hardcock

Me personally I would have done it just because it's the nice thing to do. You needed help, he didn't want to give it, sounds like an ass to me.

Yeah it's one thing to be nice, but then again it's a double edged sword. If things were to come back around, and she said no to him after he did something for her, it would have been HIS decision to do something nice. If she doesn't want to, then she would just say I don't want to and that he was being nice.

I guess that's where people get the expression that nice people finish last.

Mr. Hardcock · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by ranredd

Yeah it's one thing to be nice, but then again it's a double edged sword. If things were to come back around, and she said no to him after he did something for her, it would have been HIS decision to do something nice. If she doesn't want to, then she would just say I don't want to and that he was being nice.

I guess that's where people get the expression that nice people finish last.

Yeah, but she needed medical attention. That's a different story, imo.

midlifebear · 02-26-2008

If she needed medical attention, doesn't she have someone close to her who would make a much better companion to take her to hospital: "Oh, wait love. Before we jaunt off to the Four Seasons would you mind terribly, darling, stopping by Bellevue so I can have my blood's lithium salts adjusted. You're SUCH a doll. Kisses, and all that!"

Mr. Hardcock · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by midlifebear

If she needed medical attention, doesn't she have someone close to her who would make a much better companion to take her to hospital: "Oh, wait love. Before we jaunt off to the Four Seasons would you mind terribly, darling, stopping by Bellevue so I can have my blood's lithium salts adjusted. You're SUCH a doll. Kisses, and all that!"

I think it would be pretty shitty of someone if I asked if they could take me to the hospital, and they said they didn't want to and asked if someone else could do it.

ranredd · 02-26-2008

You actually make a good point. Considering it is the hospital. I guess I'm just coming from prior experience with EVERYTHING ELSE. LOL It's like being in a bad movie. You want a normal date and at the end of the night your taking a cab home because they wanted to stop by a couple places and random events happen with your car being totalled........ and then they say, "You could have said no"

Mr. Hardcock · 02-26-2008

Now coming form a standpoint where this was supposed to be a date, and he's a man, she's a woman, getting ass is a possibility. You would think he would do all he can for brownie points. If he's that kinda guy.

sugarandspice · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by midlifebear

If she needed medical attention, doesn't she have someone close to her who would make a much better companion to take her to hospital: "Oh, wait love. Before we jaunt off to the Four Seasons would you mind terribly, darling, stopping by Bellevue so I can have my blood's lithium salts adjusted. You're SUCH a doll. Kisses, and all that!"

haha very funny....
I am actually a fan of yours but I am being serious.
Once I got the injection the swelling would have gone down and we could go on with our evening.
I have had to do things like this before and it wasn't a problem.

ranredd · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by sugarandspice

haha very funny....
I am actually a fan of yours but I am being serious.
Once I got the injection the swelling would have gone down and we could go on with our evening.
I have had to do things like this before and it wasn't a problem.

It's never a problem with the possibility of sex in the near future. lol :-)

It must be great being a woman........... lol It's like being a fraternity and the men are all lowly pledges

lonestar692000 · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by sugarandspice

haha very funny....
I am actually a fan of yours but I am being serious.
Once I got the injection the swelling would have gone down and we could go on with our evening.
I have had to do things like this before and it wasn't a problem.

Gillette · 02-26-2008

Personally I think a hospital visit, however brief, is a bit much for only your second meet.

Did he know all the details that you're sharing with us now? Was he rude in the way he declined?

How do you know he's not phobic about hospitals or illness? I know plenty of men who say the only way they're going into a hospital is unconcious.

Gillette · 02-26-2008

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Originally Posted by lonestar692000

I probably would have hung...but I am curious how Toradol would reduce swelling of any kind considering it's a non-narcotic analgesic and not an anti-inflammatory medication. But then again, I don't purport to be all-knowing in the field of pharmacology.

Ketorolac tromethamine is a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) that exhibits analgesic activity in animal models.

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lonestar692000 · 02-26-2008

My bad. You win.

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Originally Posted by Gillette

Ketorolac tromethamine is a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) that exhibits analgesic activity in animal models.

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What do you all think...

I met a guy on the net and we went to movie. We had a few things in common and we were supposed to get together last Friday night and work on one of my