What do you all think...

mem0101

If I got the story right, I would not want to have my second date be at an Emergency Room.

Am i the happy loss
Will i still recoil
When the skin is lost
Spare us the cutter
When routine bites hard
And ambitions are low
And the resentment rides high
But emotions wont grow
And we're changing our ways,
Taking different roads
Then love, love will tear us apart again
And I’ve got this idea, I’m a foreign correspondent
And I hear the lines are all engaged
But that’s love, love, love, love, love that it is

The Greek Dude

Some people don't view "waiting in the hospital" as a good date; the idea of you needing regular medical treatments could scare him off. If I were you, i'd try to find someone that's a little more understanding to your situation.

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sugarandspice

Well, I have ended up in the ER on dates and they were all so caring and kept me company.
But those guys were crazing about me.

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invisibleman

Well, maybe he is afraid of hospitals. Or afraid of getting germs.

My sister hates hospitals but she took me to the hospital once and stayed.


BUT if he is consistently not wanting to go to the hospital with you. He is not the guy for you long-term wise. If I could not depend on a man to go with me to the hospital. This would be a serious red flag as far as a long term relationship. He would be just a friend.

retracted

I wouldn't have had a problem taking you to the hospital but some people (male and female) wouldn't do it for the reason that they don't want to think they're wasting their time with either a drama queen hypocondriac or someone who might be dead in six months. Sounds stupid I know but there are plenty of people like that. They don't want to date "damaged goods".

retracted

My first post was made after I read only the original post by the OP. Now that I’ve read the entire thread, my opinion has changed drastically. OP, you’re an example of what is wrong with people these days. You think the whole world revolves around you and your little issues. There are so many things that are wrong in this fiasco so I’ll list them right here and maybe you’ll take this information and use it to better your relationships in future.

1 – The fact that you are so well known in the emergency room and can be waved ahead of others (remind me never to go to THAT hospital) is a major red flag to me. Why? Because you obviously spend a lot of time there and, quite frankly, neither I nor most people would want to be with anyone who’s on a first name basis with any kind of medical emergency people. Seriously, are you one of the Olsen twins?

2 – You say this injection thing happens a lot. Well, I get migraines a lot and, like most people who have a physical ailment, I know when it’s going to happen beforehand and so I would have canceled the date or else done what I had to do to get rid of my ailment. You should have not done what you did to get the sore neck in the first place on the day of a date or else gotten the injection during the day. Not waited until your date showed up.

3 – Don’t get me started on the fact that it sounds like you’re addicted to these injections. You look down on the guy because he smokes pot (I refuse to date drug addicts myself) yet you’re regularly shooting up?

4 – This was supposed to be a second date. The idea of dating is to get to know the other person. Have fun. That means putting your best foot forward. It certainly doesn’t mean dragging them to the emergency room and subjecting them to your issues.

5 – As others have said, it sounds like you were testing this guy. Now that he didn’t want to spend all night at the hospital, we’re supposed to think he’s a jerk? Sorry. You’re the jerk. Again, you say this happens all the time to you. Then you ought to be used to waiting around in hospitals. Take a book with you. Read. Learn something. Instead, you expect whoever you set your sights on to drop everything and run to your aid even though it happens all the time with you and so you should be able to handle this situation on your own. You’re not a child.

6 – Did it occur to you that maybe all your friends weren’t ill and that they were actually just sick and tired of being at your beck and call 24 hours a day and didn’t want to take you? I mean, what’s the likelihood that they ALL would be sick when you called on them?

7 – You say that all the guys you went out with before have been more than happy to change their plans at the last minute and play nurse maid. I don’t buy it. Sure, you probably forced them to get caught up in your little drama at first but they got wise and dumped your drama queen ass. And the fact you’ve gone through so many guys, ought to be a red flag too that you’re doing something wrong. Especially if it’s true what you say about them being so great.

8 – You also say that you do all these nice things for people. Sounds like you’re keeping score. Another red flag. Yet what have YOU done for HIM? Or is him being in your orbit supposed to be enough?

9 – Nowhere in your posts do you say that you wanted him with you because YOU want to spend time with HIM. It’s all about you needing a ride (get a taxi, that’s what they’re for) or keeping you company in the emergency room that you’re supposedly not going to be in long anyway (talk to one of the other patients instead of being in your own world for a change). Sounds like you treat the men in your life as total doormats. They’re only put on this earth to serve you. That’s the impression you give here. And I bet, considering everyone makes themselves come off better than they really are in these kinds of things, you’re actually a lot worse and your victims are a lot more long-suffering.

10 – Your obvious sense of self-entitlement comes through loud and clear in your posts. No wonder men leave you. And you have the audacity to call people “fair weather friends” just because they don’t drop everything and be your personal assistant.

I don’t mean to be insulting but it’s people like you who really piss me off.

cmore925

I would have gone to the ER with you. You are very pretty and your body is bangin'. There is a possibility of me getting some. I'm there with you side by side.

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pete1606

Try taking a cab or a Ambulance? I hate freeloader U hardly know the guy!

sugarandspice

yes, I know you guys can be selfish and lazy.
But if you thought the girl was worth it you wouldn't hesitate.

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Northland

It is my belief that you should have postponed your date to another day or time. He may have bad experiences with hospitals and/or painful memories. Perhaps he watched a friend or family member die there-it happens. Perhaps he had been the victim of the overnight stay in an emergency room for some minor medical situation. I have a friend who has Lupus and needs injections occasionally-she knows the staff and is a nurse. She can be out in less than an hour or held hostage there for several hours. To expect an internet honker to do this on date number-2, seems a bit much.

Lastly, find some gratitude in learning that he would react this way. Better you learn it early on than when your water breaks and it's time to get to the hospital to shoot out the baby-you'd be forced to rely on the kindness of the homeless crack addict hanging outside the ER to hold your hand then (as he went through your purse for cash and other things).

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Us guys are selfish and lazy? BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

Look in the mirror, honey.

Again, your sense of self-entitlement and self-involvement shows no bounds. Just because you're supposedly hot (which is debatable by the way), you automatically assume that every person on the planet with a dick should drop everything and be at your beck and call 24/7. Fuck that shit! No wonder you're alone and your friends deserted you. Again, you say this happens regularly. In that case, you should damn well know how to take care of the situation yourself. After all, you told the guy you wouldn't be in the ER long because you know them so well that you're going to get waved ahead of other patients. So why the need to have not only a chauffeur (cheapskate, pay for a taxi) but also a nurse maid to hold your hand (learn to amuse yourself). You're a grown woman. You're not a four year old or a retard. Deal with it yourself. We're not all here to serve you, Princess.

njqt466

Invisibleman that's your sister, no matter how much she hates hospitals, she loves you; you're blood. Anything less from her or any other sibling would have been unacceptable.

This is just some dude she met off the net. He didn't sign up to be her taxi service. He wanted a 2nd date to get to know her better. A hospital ER is NOT the way to do that.