How do you define your sexuality?

[quote=njqt466;1312697]Luckily no one cares what you're view of sexuality is. Pansexual is very accepted here, as is the other types of sexuality.

I deem myself 100% straight but I guess it could also be 99 - I haven't felt attracted to a man yet but I think the male body is awesome and have a good deal of respect, curiosity and openmindedness when it comes to my own gender. I'm not at all uncomfortable with gays and bisexuals and am more than happy to get comments and such from them. I can see when a guy is good looking or when he has a nice cock and I don't mind calling that like it is. I'd also be fine with doing say an mmf threesome - not that I'd want to touch the guy per se but I'd be totally at ease with the situation. So while this isn't gay behavior as such, I do realize that I'm far easier with other men and their sexuality than a lot of purely straight guys are.

I put 99% gay and 1% straight because I really dont like labels. But in saying that, I know what I do like. I can say that because I do have a daughter so I must have been with a women somewhere down the road. I also put it that way because I don't hate women(not even the ex-wife even though I'm pretty sure she hates me) and I can appreciate a woman's beauty but just don't want to sleep with them.

I listed myself as 90% straight and 10% gay because I am more attracted to men. But I have a curiosity about women, I think I could get into that, of course it would be more fun with a man involved.

I'm a repressed bisexual. I've slept with two women and liked it, but probably not enough.

I'm 90% gay because I fuck guy's asses and suck their dicks, The 10% covers the bi thing.

I put my percentages at 70/30. I have a boyfriend and have had sex exclusively with men with for the past decade-plenty of men, as it happens. However, I only watch straight porn and in my early sexual days slept with women and enjoyed it.
I also like eating pussy, big breasts and have begun to fantasize a good deal about having sex with women-that straight porn I'm watching is working.
I think it's all good.

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When I was a teenager, and even in my twenties, I tried to convince myself that I was straight. Later, in my mid to late twenties, I did my damndest to convince myself that I was bisexual. Somehow, I came to my senses in my thirties: I cut the crap, and accepted that I REALLY like men--everything about men: cocks (obviously), faces (esp. eyes and smiles), hands, feet, hairy bodies, the sounds of a male voice, the way men move, the shape of their butts, and so on and so forth.

Here's what kept me from embracing this reality when I was younger: I had bought into the notion that as long as I behaved like the typical "straight guy" in just about every situation (naturally, not pretentiously), even though I fantasized about (and was having sex with) men, I couldn't possibly be a true homosexual. In other words, I wanted to correlate certain so-called masculine traits I exhibited with being heterosexual or bisexual. I was fucking around with guys, but I wasn't effeminate, so I refused to classify myself as "homosexual."

Now that seems ridiculous to me. And I believe that until our society fully recognizes and accepts that your average, everyday guy-next-door might actually be attracted to other men, regardless of how he looks or behaves, a sizeable percentage of homosexual men will continue to hide their true sexuality and live two lives--and many will remain fully repressed behind a facade of heterosexuality simply because they don't want to feel rejected by those who make up the majority (and there are still so many who shun the notion of homosexuality--just think about the place where you work, or the couples you see at the park or beach or mall).

How unfortunate, really. And how unnecessary.

It is so interesting to be 100% straight and actually feel like an outsider. So many of us were taught this binary view of sexuality as children, that to see so many men who, while basically straight, still admit at least curiosity, is fascinating, because I have not the slightest interest in men's bodies at all, or even in male sexuality, but I just lose it around women at the slightest provocation -- their bodies, their scent, their mind, the way they touch me, everything. I seem to fit this sexist, homophobic stereotype of the "masculine" straight man, and yet around here, I'm a complete weirdo! I love it! You guys rule.

swallow and straight do not normally go in the same thought process

My introduction to sexuality was thru a quasi-molestation by some older boys during my "tweens".

So, my first two years of sexual experience were with the same sex. My first 20 or so orgasms were with a dick in my ass and, usually, one in my mouth.

I use the term"quasi" because of the BIG SECRET that most folks don't speak about regarding this kind of molestation... that is, that a lot of molestations of adolescent boys occur over long periods of time (i.e. are not isolated events) that most victims are willing to travel to their molestors, and that their molestors do not 'threaten' them to keep them from telling... you don't tell for two reasons. 1 you don't want anyone to know and 2, you don't want it to stop.

I never really had any problem dealing with the fact that, to a large extent, it happened because I liked it. I liked everything about cock. But then, I had been "imprinted" with it. Unlike a lot of "willing" molestation victims... I accept my own culpability in what occured... and, really, I would not give up those formative experiences for anything.

I was almost shocked to find out, by the age of 15, that I was really far more attracted to girls. As much as i enjoyed sucking a cock, it was girls that I wanted to cuddle with and kiss and fall in love with.
I realized at some point that, for me, the guy thing was purely sexual in nature... just the animal pleasure...
Not that I could not fall in love with a guy... it just never happened...
Unlike men 'born gay'.. I did not have the built in wiring for attraction to men...

Still... there was that imprinting....

I had several other sexual experience with guys over the following years... as I predominantly dated girls.
And eventually married, at which point my gay experiences ended.

12 years later, As that marriage started to decay I had a couple MMF experiences, that included plenty of male male action, that were probably the most fun I have ever had, sexually...

But then I met another woman who was and has been the light of my life ever since... and I am all for her now.


Yet... there is still that early imprinting... I still fantasize about cock... I love gay porn every bit as much as straight porn...

however- if I never touch another guy again as long as I live i'm fine with it.

My early experiences made me a more tolerant and understanding person... enabled me to appreciate the homoerotic as well as the ordinary variety...made me an early advocate for gay rights.
It makes me, I think, A better lover to my woman.. and gives me compassion for a wider spectrum of human variety.
And it satisfied a curiosity that, otherwise, might tempt me had I known only women my whole life.

My research into history, particularly pre-christian history, and what I have learned of other men's experiences has drawn me to the conclusion that, for men to have sex with men, even starting from a very early age, is the most natural thing in the world.
To some degree, every guy likes sex, and every guy likes cock.

The very first time I felt a cock shoved into my mouth, it felt like my mouth was made to fit around it.

That's why I came back for more.

I prefer women... but I entirely understand homosexual attraction.

Bayonet,
this is an honest, well thought out, self reflective evaluation. Thanks for posting this.

I didn't notice any attraction to men until I entered high school. Previous to that, I was a typical competitive boy with other boys. But in HS gym, specifically shower room, I couldn't believe how all guys really are *not* the same! Suddenly, I no longer wanted to compete! I dated women exclusively until I was in my 30's. I went to a few gay bars and had a few "I wish I could forget" mm experiences in college. I have never seen a gay (or any!) bar I liked. There was a lot of fear and uncertainty persuing anything beyond bars. Fear of discovery, the stigma that if you take cock up the ass you may be less of a man, fear of disease, ah, and all the labels.

You can see from my other posts how the total number of men I have been with I can count on 2 hands. None of it really spectacular, mostly mechanical sex. Now, I am not actively looking but still miss the connection; same things you talk about liking in men. I'm at the point now where I wonder if a mm relationship is even possible with me and I'm not looking for a mf one either although I find women seem to be more outwardly friendly with me whereas most men will avoid my glance. I just don't want to play the dating games.

I liked how you talked about classifications. I tried doing the gay political stuff when I was younger but couldn't see myself as an activist. I don't remember really "fighting" any particular label. I just never felt comfortable in any. Because I don't really fit into any classification (str8, gay, bi), I looked at Androphilia as a possible way to "fit it" but I can't force myself to do other things that men traditionally do just so I can say I now belong to a group of men who call themselves Androphiles (not that there is anything wrong with that!) . I have a couple of real good friends, male and female, but I'm not too sociable otherwise. There is always something to do around your own home that makses for a damn good excuse.

I think that most of our society is coming around to accepting the fact that there can be exceptions to the "traditional" family but heterosexism will always be with us. It's just the way people are. It is what they identify with and what they are use to and it is easier to relate to others who also have a family with 2 1/2 kids.

Ditto! Got to have a big juicy dick in my mouth, no pussy for me!

Asexual - No way.

Heterosexual - No such creature.

Bi-Sexual - Not even sure what that means.

Homosexual - As repressed as the self-proclaimed Hetero.

Sexual - Yeah, that's the one.