relationships should not merely be catagorized by the sexual limitations of it. If you're partner does not like it, Then do not re-hash the thought of it to them until they are a willing participant. As long as the other person is willing to do something and does not feel forced to do it, then i promise the whole situation is going to turn out way better. So don't push it, if they dont want it. I personally dont really care either way...if she wants me to i will and if she doesnt, then i dont. For the men---- Make sure the woman is OK with what you are doing to her... NEVER EVER force anything on her that she doesnt want to do even if it is a desire for you. Just because she wont do it now doesnt mean she wont later so hold your horses, it could make things ALOT better in the future