Having a small-ish penis didn't really bother me until...

Oh and by the way, size can have very little to do with whether a woman can orgasm vaginally or not. Mental hang ups or physical problems are the usual culprits when a woman can't orgasm vaginally.

And women who don't orgasm vaginally can get quite hung up about it.

Your ex girlfriend was probably feeling twice as inadequate as you were.

Yet you badgered her to death and she only fessed up because of an act of God?

Please take some time to learn some psychology and learn how to be nice before you get into another relationship.

I'm the biggest she's had however my insecuritys lye within performance mostly because I just want to be the best lover she's had. Sometimes I doubt myself too damn much.
my wife loves the way I make love to her she loves my cock she is always bragging and showing her friends pictures. I just need to learn to love it as much as she does 100% of the time. LOL

With regards to penis size, I found this on

Facts about penis size

It would appear the Kinsey graph is still fairly accurate.


Average penis length


A non-erect penis usually measures between 8.5cm and 10.5cm (3-4 inches) from tip to base.

The average figure is about 9.5cm (3.75 inches), but this kind of precise measurement is rather valueless. Many factors can cause a temporary shrinkage of two inches or more, for instance cold weather or going swimming, so you needn't worry if you happen to fall short of the average figure.

Of course, it's true that some men have big penises and some have smaller ones, just as some men have small feet and some have big feet, but the measurement is not - repeat not - an index of virility.

Most people think that a tall man will usually have a large penis, but this is not true. The distinguished American researchers Masters and Johnson measured the penile lengths of more than 300 men.

• The largest organ was 14 cm (5.5 inches) in the flaccid state. It belonged to a slim man who was 5' 7" tall (170 cm).
• The smallest penis measured 6cm (2.25 inches). It belonged to a fairly heavily built man of 5' 11" (180cm).

It's also worth pointing out that there is no correlation between penile size and race.

Average size of erections

We've talked about the length of the penis in its ordinary non-erect state, but how long should it be when it's erect?

Interestingly, most penises are very much the same size when erect.

• The man whose non-erect penis is smallish will usually achieve about a 100 per cent increase in length during sexual excitement.
• The man whose non-erect penis is on the largish size will probably manage about a 75 per cent increase.
• This means the great majority of penises measure between 15cm and 18cm (6-7 inches) when erect, with the average figure being about 16.5cm (6.5 inches).

So you can see that even if a man has got a 'small' penis, he's got a built-in compensating factor that will bring him up to about the same size as the guy who appears to be 'better equipped' in the shower room.

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Gotta agree with HM. Your attitude towards women should concern you more than the size of your cock.

You went to great lengths to describe your sex life which included multiple partners and then called the love of your life a slut because she bedded 15 men. I'm confused as to how the very behaviour you displayed before you met "the one" is different than hers. Feel free to explain.

Of her fifteen previous partners, 12 probably fell within the "average" range, and of the remaining three, perhaps two would have been small and one big, or vice versa. That's just the stats.

More important is your attitude, as pointed out.

She is not a size queen or she would have dumped you by now.

So your attitude to making love with her is more important than you measurements.

It doesn't sound as if you are both built such that you are going to make her pass out with your size, so you need to deal with that. It seems that she has and doesn't need to have that. It's your issue, not her's, so you deal with it and stop looking for excuses to pin on her.

Finally, I think that it is the ultimate in male sexual maturity to get to the point where you are not jealous of a partner's previous lovers, but rather to hope that she has enjoyed a good life and not been emotionally hurt.

Actually I quite like the fact that most women have had bad sex, it means that if you take the trouble to be good, you are appreciated.

But yes I've personally known several women who have complained and bitched about a dude's "huge dick" and how painful and how terrible it was yet when I talked to them they were still fucking them. Oh yeah and they equally complained what assholes they were. WTF???? Sorry that bit in your story just reminded me of this phenomenon.

I've been where you are dood, and honestly it is all in your head. If you're like i was you probably have some self esteem issues that have led up to this. I think you need to take a look inside and really get to the root of the problem. You obviously feel that if a woman thinks your cock is too small she will dump you.

That being said, if you're a good guy and treat a women the way she likes to be treated your dick size won't matter. If a women DOES feel that way, you have to ask yourself if that is really someone you want to be in a relationship with. There are SO many people in this world man, you will definitly be able to find a women who is everything you want and is satisfied with you as you are.

Also, 6x4 is NOT small. Obviously this is something that has been on your mind for a while and other people making comments seems to have made it worse in your mind. If someone would have said my dick was skinny but long, i would have told them that i at least got length! You gotta hit back for stuff like that.

My best friend was hung like a horse when we were kids and i developed the same thing you did. But here's the thing, his GF of 5 years dumped him because she just couldn't take his cock anymore. The last year they were together he only got head and handjobs, no pen because it was too big. He's around 8.5". So funny how sometimes the grass is greener on the other side. He told me he would rather have had a smaller dick then loose is GF.

The LAST thing you need is surgury dood. What happens if something goes wrong? You could honestly loose your dick altogether. And THEN what? All it would take would be a post op infection. I'll seen guys who have it thickened and honestly it doesn't look natural.

If you don't find the root of the problem, it doesn't matter how big your cock is you're always going to have the same feelings. It's like those people who have plastic surgury and then still feel the same on the inside.

From this message board post I can tell that you are a kickass person. Thanks for investing in that reply.

Hey man,

I'll try to impart some useful advice without gettin' preachy, if that is possible. Fuck it, I'm gonna preach as your virtual mentor here, as a qualified pimp who's been around a while and made plenty of mistakes (and learned from them)

First quit sweating about what your lady did or did not do before she met you. THIS is cardinal rule number one. Trust me...this is FACT and the ladies here will back me up.

Second,if you are in a healthy and loving relationship, and she's giving you plenty of ass, you should be stoked about that. It's what most people in this life are after with their partner. If you got it, keep it rolling and make her fucking happy not just in the sack but also in other aspects...do nice things for her, treat her with respect and love and by all means give her lots of good boning, she'll return in kind and you guys will live happily.

Third and REAL IMPORTANT: Just forget about what she did before. You don't want to know the truth. In fact, if she did sleep with dudes of different size and skill and she's with you, there must be a good reason for her being with you now, right? One, your dick is making her perfectly happy. Two, she has some experience elsewhere hence she does not need to explore that again cuz she's made a choice and is happy with YOU dude.

It is bad, bad, BAD for you to dwell on past experiences of hers...NOTHING good comes of it, it will eat you up so just fucking STOP. Be glad/happy/rejoiceful that she's the one and you are happy with her, and she also chose YOU. And by all means don't fuck it up by perstering her about her past cuz I GUARANTEE that will only piss a woman off BIG TIME and have a greatly negative impact on your relationship.

Finally, mix up your repertoire more. Use some cool sex toys together...get her into ass play, become the world's number 1 cunnilinguist (sounds like you're on track for that), and YOU be the one to open up her to new/better/more sexual experiences which rock both your worlds. There is so much to do beyond just fucking Bro! So step up and be the MAN!

And, from possibly the horniest man on the planet (me), remember that a relationship is WAY more than sex and dick size.

My word is gospel truth!

You sound like kind of a Dr. Phil type. That guy is such a douche.

You are getting a great big HELL YA for this!

High Five o/\o

...OB

I consider the size of a guys persosnality before I evaulate his penis size. To me that is more important. Maybe I don't crave big men because I am so big myself.

The difference is I am not a douche, don't have a stupid regional accent, have plenty of hair, and I don't pretend to be a Dr. I also don't get paid millions to be on a dumb-ass daytime TV show

But I guess any advice giver has to speak with some authority, as I have. So take it for what its worth. or not

the good folks here are kind enough to give you a little guidance, since you asked. Not looking for thanks, but I don't really appreciate being compared to a douche

Later

It's different for men and women. You are a woman so you can't process that.

Men have one great gift to give in their lifetime and a woman has two.

I think that if you polled 100 random people of varying demographic profiles you will find that the majority of those folks will think that if a girl sleeps with 15 people before she is 27, then that is considered pretty slutty. She didn't even really enjoy the sex. She never had a vaginal orgasm (or any orgasm for that matter) with any of those guys. She got fucked about 50 times and not once did she orgasm. S.L.U.T.

It easy to elimate the whole being compared to a douche thing... stop acting like a douche and the comparisons stop.