Education Needed!!

Originally Posted by RonsGirl

The adulterer-to-be and OP here...

Thanks for all the advice. About the adultery-to-be: I have been married for almost 20 years. My husband is a nice guy with zero libido. If you take the average sex life and match that to mine, I've had sex with my husband for about a year out of 20. If it's okay with you... I would like to know what it feels like to be a woman again and to be desired by a man. Especially by a man that knew me before I became sexless and numb. I am in my 40's now... how many opportunities do you think I will have to feel loved in this way again?? Maybe, just maybe, I'll be filled up enough to handle another 20 year dry spell. What do you think? It hasn't happened yet. Should I slam the door on this chance to feel again? Put away my desire and pretend I didn't just wake up from a long, dead slumber? I aplogize if I sounded like it was only carnal sin I am interested in, but I want to rediscover the person I left behind and in the process it would be nice to please a man that has kept me alive in his heart for so long. Maybe I'll act on a concensus, so be honest with me. What would you do other than throw away a 20 year marriage?
PS: what, pretell, is an OP?

Originally Posted by RonsGirl

You know what? I really appreciate every word you said. You took a fair amount of time to write this and I will read it a few times and think about what you are saying. I don't want to hurt anyone, myself included. And I don't know if my marriage will remain intact. I don't even know if I want it to. I only know one thing: I can feel again. I never knew I was this unhappy until this connection to the past was made. I had made the choice to put away any notion of passion and to find fullfilment with a good man in a good life. But until you experience something, you don't know what you are missing. I never went looking for anything... it came to me, so really, this whole upheaval has blindsided me. As did the passion that erupted between us. Like I said, nothing has happened yet... and yes, you are right, no one has the right to judge me. I have NEVER done anything like this post in my life. I never really even looked around much because I thought this was sort of just that... an educational site. A support group. An organization. I never expected to find a lecture on morality, although it shouldn't surprise me. However, looking around since posting this, and seeing and hearing the overt sexuality presented here, I am surprised that there is such said morality. I don't know what possessed me... this is not really my thing. I'm completely out of my comfort zone, but now that I'm here, I may as well learn something. And from your post, I will take notes! Just in case... you understand. Thank you!