Is bathing with ya kids abnormal?

sn86 · 05-09-2008

EASIEST SOLUTION:

WEAR A BATHING SUIT!

:) do the bathing suit, then when your son is all clean, you can go take a shower by yourself and you dont need soap scum all stuck to your shorts.

dreamer20 · 05-09-2008

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Originally Posted by sn86

EASIEST SOLUTION:

WEAR A BATHING SUIT!

bigboy_steve I think your brother has just entered the forum.

Kewlbeans · 05-09-2008

Do what feels right to you. I took baths with my mom as a child and it was just a nice time to be alone with her away from the rest of the family. A NICE BONDING TIME, NOTHING SEXUAL. I also showered with my dad a few times. Same thing.

Do what feels right. When your daughter is ready to stop, she will let you know.

All the best

Big Swinging Dick · 05-09-2008

If it's a baby or under the age of four then bathing with the kid is fine in my book.

Preferably bathed by the same sex as the child.

Something about a grown man in a bathtub with a four year old girl makes my skin crawl.

Bathing with a kid over the age of four is inappropriate in my opinion (unless the kid's got a broken leg or something and needs help).

Showering with your (same sex) kids at the gym or something is fine though. It's the whole sitting-in-a-bathtub-for-a-half-hour that is on the pervy side.

Just because you're not sharing a bath with your kid doesn't mean that you're making nudity something to be ashamed of. It's just about instilling boundaries.

When I was six, I still remember a cousin my own age stripping and running around naked at my mother's wake. NOT appropriate.

Dan · 05-09-2008

I have no children, so I guess I can't talk too much, but I was bathed by my dad as were all of my 9 brothers and 4 sisters, until we were old enough to be left alone. That age may be different for different folks. I remember shower with my dad and brothers at the swimming pool, and I have been in the locker room of my gym when men have come in with their male and female children, ages around 4 or so. I have no problem with them seeing me naked, and I'd say their dad's had no problem with it either. One of the dad's was a doctor, and brought his two girls in a few times because they were too young to go into the women's locker room alone.
I vote that you hang out with the kids until they want you to stop, and I'm sure they'll let you know.

SyddyKitty · 05-09-2008

I had to take showers with my mother for far too many years. It's disturbing, so stop around 5 years or less.

CURVEDANDTHICKK · 05-09-2008

I have two sons and I only bathed with them when I had to take a bath and there was no one else at home to watch them while I was in the shower. It's better to take a two year old with you in the bathroom than to leave them alone. My boys were able to bathe themselves without supervision by the time they went to kindergarden. I personally find it very weird (perverted) for adults to bathe with children over the age of 4 or 5. Someone wrote that people confuse nudity with sex. Well remember that eventually all kids do become sexual and considering most boys first sexual feelings and experience happens while bathing then standing in the shower with a 10 year old boy is a sexual act in my opinion when it's not a group or public situation like at a gym or pool.

snoozan · 05-09-2008

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Originally Posted by Big Swinging Dick

If it's a baby or under the age of four then bathing with the kid is fine in my book.

Why four? People keep throwing around numbers and I don't know where they are getting them from.

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Preferably bathed by the same sex as the child.

Why?

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Something about a grown man in a bathtub with a four year old girl makes my skin crawl.

It's not any grown man, it's her father.

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Bathing with a kid over the age of four is inappropriate in my opinion (unless the kid's got a broken leg or something and needs help).

Why four? What, exactly, is inappropriate about it? I'm fine with my son bathing alone as soon as it becomes uncomfortable for either of us, but I don't know at what age it will be. Four seems rather arbitrary.

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Showering with your (same sex) kids at the gym or something is fine though. It's the whole sitting-in-a-bathtub-for-a-half-hour that is on the pervy side.

But why? Have you ever sat in a bath with your child and played with boats and soaped each other's hair? Do you really think there's anything sexual going on with that?

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Just because you're not sharing a bath with your kid doesn't mean that you're making nudity something to be ashamed of. It's just about instilling boundaries.

Right, and it's up to the individuals to set those boundaries. Your arbitrary numbers and responses don't make a lot of sense.

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When I was six, I still remember a cousin my own age stripping and running around naked at my mother's wake. NOT appropriate.

What does that have to do with this topic? Do you think his mother bathed with him and therefore he became a little streaker? Are you kidding me? Kids as young as 2 are old enough to understand that nudity is okay in some situations and not in others.

HyperHulk · 05-09-2008

I personally feel that this needs to be a parent's call. I think most parents have some common sense about this and when the kid gets old enough to start pointing out dangling bits, most parents would end family bath time.

With that said, I did see something that I found hard to process. I was at a caravan park a couple months ago, while camping, and while shaving at the communal showers, a man and a boy who was around 8-10 went into the same shower stall together. I finished shaving, took my shower and came out and then they exited with new clothes. For some reason I kept thinking that kid was way too old to be showering with his dad(?). I couldn't understand why he wouldn't just have his own shower, not to mention the shower stalls weren't that big and they changed all their clothes together. So that one I found to be odd and I couldn't make sense of it.

CURVEDANDTHICKK · 05-09-2008

If you think taking a bath with a child is bonding then you might be a pedofile.

If you think a 40 year old and a 13 year old standing in a shower inches away from each other is normal then you might be a pedofile.

SandraSmithCarver · 05-09-2008

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Originally Posted by bigboy_steve

Hey... people probably read my thread bout my baby son on his way.... im still ecstatic! :)

But this thread is completely different.

Early on I was chatting to my brother about my kids and the subject of nudity and bathing came in to it. Well my brother had a strong opinion on this and said it was (PERVEY) to bathe with your kids and being nude around them. Even though me and him used to live in a nude environment as children with our dad. Now it hasnt scarred me or him as far as I know in any way so why come out with something like that?

I bathed with my little girl. Shes 4 and me or my wife still bathe with her from time to time. Now I know we cant do it forever nor do I want to do it forever. Its something that parents to to bond and relax with their kids. My brother also added that I should not bathe with my son when he is born.... why not? I honestly dont see what is so awful about this.

Many men and women do this with their children. I know there are a selected few on this site that see this as disgusting and immoral. And also there are a few that see nothing wrong with it. But now I dont know what I should do.

Do I carry on bathing with my kid +another when he arrives or is it that bad? What do you think????

A father should NEVER bathe with his daughter, EVER
shes 4 now? thats just not right, there are other ways to bond , you know that right?
I bathed with my baby sons when they were BABIES, until they were old enough to sit by themselves, I always sat in the bath room with them, never left them by themselves, there Dad NEVER bathed with them EVER. A Dad should NEVER bathe with his daughter, thats perverted!

dolfette · 05-10-2008

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Originally Posted by Big Swinging Dick

wow...

i can honestly say that i'm gobsmacked by this.
issues, mate. issues.

dolfette · 05-10-2008

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Originally Posted by SandraSmithCarver

A Dad should NEVER bathe with his daughter, thats perverted!

what a sad statement.
really.

there's nothing sexual about a young child {unless you're a pedo}. they don't see adults as sexual, adults don't see them as sexual.

what about changing her pampers? i mean, dad is stroking her bits with a wipe

how can people twist something perfectly normal, that people have done since the dawn of time, into something sexual?

don't you trust your partner not to perv on his daughter given the chance?

njqt466 · 05-10-2008

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Originally Posted by dolfette

what a sad statement.
really.

there's nothing sexual about a young child {unless you're a pedo}. they don't see adults as sexual, adults don't see them as sexual.

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what about changing her pampers? i mean, dad is stroking her bits with a wipe

I was born early into Generation X. I doubt my dad ever changed my diaper let alone gave me a bath. Do I see anything sexual about a dad changing a daughters diaper or a mom changing a sons diaper. No, of course not!

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how can people twist something perfectly normal, that people have done since the dawn of time, into something sexual?

Because we haven't done it since the dawn of time in America.

don't you trust your partner not to perv on his daughter given the chance?

Dolfette, as has been brought up numerous times already in this thread it seems to be a cultural thing.

Y'all over in the UK seem to have forgotten that a few hundred years ago in addition to some criminals and indentured servants you sent us a few boat loads of puritanical, religious pilgrims. Many of the values, morals, and ethics which some of the American members of this site possess date back to that time period.

IMO bathing with a same sex parent is fine up until the age of 4 or 5 max. After that you are in danger of crossing a line. I see no reason one can't get all those questions about the body in by that age. You should also be able to teach the child how to wash all body parts by then as well Taking baths or showers with a 7 year old is just friggin' weird. Especially if that child is of the opposite sex.

Phil Ayesho · 05-10-2008

Its quite simple.

Your Children will let you know when its no longer appropriate.

If you are paying attention, there will come a time when your child seeks privacy to change their clothes, to take a bath, to go to the bathroom.

This is the very beginning of when children start to se themselves as having sexual parts... and begin to form an awareness of the fact that adults are involved in sex.

The minute your child prefers you not to watch them change their clothes... THAT is the day from which is is inappropriate for you to be naked around your children.

Is bathing with ya kids abnormal?

EASIEST SOLUTION: WEAR A BATHING SUIT! :) do the bathing suit, then when your son is all clean, you can go take a shower by yourself and you dont need soap scum all stuck to