Is bathing with ya kids abnormal?

dolfette · 05-11-2008

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Originally Posted by snoozan

Actually, my son gets in the tub with me all the time. BTW-- I'm female, not male, so I'mthe opposite sex of my child. If I'm in the bathtub, he gets in with me because it's fun time to him. I don't think you who are so against this practice understand that 3 and 4 year olds can be quite oblivious to nudity and sexuality and all this other stuff you're putting on them. Kids like baths. Kids like to have one-on-one time with mommy and daddy. There's nothing all that complicated about it.

As far as washing, a 4 year old isn't capable of bathing him or herself well. Washing a child's hair properly is something that parents have to do up until and possibly into the early school years. Rinsing off and washing the body properly, making sure to get soap everywhere isn't something a 4 year old can do him or herself. It really is a lot easier to be in there to help than stand outside and try not to get your clothing wet.

I also want to say that if you don't have children, you're simply not going to get it. The intense parental bond as well as the understanding of where children are/should be developmentally isn't something most of you really understand. I don't think you all remember all that well to when you were 4 or 5, and if you don't have kids you don't realize how young and how much toddlers still need help from their parents. Many kids at 4 and 5 still need help cleaning up after going to the bathroom.

When a child squeals with glee and jumps in you probably know the answer.

mine are exactly the same as yours.
were it not for my dislike of being cramped, both of mine would get in my bath together. lol.

and you're right. leave a long haired child to rinse their own shampoo and you'll regret it.

retracted · 05-11-2008

Why do you have to be in the tub with someone to wash their hair? If you were washing your invalid parent's hair, would you get in the tub with them too?

dolfette · 05-11-2008

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Originally Posted by retracted

Why do you have to be in the tub with someone to wash their hair? If you were washing your invalid parent's hair, would you get in the tub with them too?

you don't. that was merely in response to someone's post about leaving a 4y/o to wash totally unsupervised.

retracted · 05-11-2008

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Originally Posted by dolfette

you don't. that was merely in response to someone's post about leaving a 4y/o to wash totally unsupervised.

Thanks for proving my point that a parent doesn't HAVE to be in the tub with their child to wash their hair or wash the rest of them. Not once did my mother or father get in the tub with me (yet I didn't turn out to be ashamed of my body). One of them always just kneeled outside the tub and washed me and, later when I was a toddler, sat on edge of the toilet and supervised. At a certain point (around five) I didn't need supervision and they left me in peace to wash myself (after filling the tub to make sure I didn't burn myself with the hot water). When I had to wash my hair, it was also done while one of them was outside the tub. And now that it's been shown that a parent doesn't have to be in the tub with their child to wash them, someone may want to explain why they WOULD get in the tub with them as if getting naked with their child is the only way they know how to bond with said child. I've bathed kids too and never got in the tub with them. Maybe, unlike some guys, I never want to risk getting accidentally kicked in the balls during the splashing that kids love to do.

christina · 05-11-2008

its really not a big deal, i dont mean to like make nothing out of it or anything but its just a bath its not like u get off from it and parents all over the world do this. When my daughter was a baby i sat in the tub and bathed her all the time i found it better then trying to do that sponge bath crap that the nurses show u lol. i keeps them warmer IMO and its more relaxing.

DC_DEEP · 05-11-2008

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Originally Posted by retracted

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And now that it's been shown that a parent doesn't have to be in the tub with their child to wash them, someone may want to explain why they WOULD get in the tub with them as if getting naked with their child is the only way they know how to bond with said child.

Why they would? Maybe they want to.

Now that it's been shown that a parent doesn't HAVE to be in the tub, maybe you want to explain why you are so adamant that no one does. If you don't want to, that's fine. Why do you even give a flying fuck whether or not someone else does?

There were lots and lots of things my parents didn't HAVE to do for me, but did, anyway.

Mademoiselle Rouge · 05-11-2008

My daughter doesn't even pay attention to my body in the bath. It's not a sexual thing to her. She's always seen me naked, with or without pubic hair, nipple rings, etc. She might point and ask a question and i answer it and we talk about something else. It's very matter of fact.

dolfette · 05-11-2008

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Originally Posted by retracted

Thanks for proving my point that a parent doesn't HAVE to be in the tub with their child to wash their hair or wash the rest of them.

no, but sometimes a child WANTS to get into the tub with their parents

retracted · 05-11-2008

As long as it's what the kids wants and not what the parents wants because they just want to have their way. Although, after a certain age, it's not good for the child. The child would probably like to eat chocolate for every meal too but just because you want something doesn't mean you should get it.

larkyman · 05-11-2008

[FONT='Arial','sans-serif']In most of societies the mother oversees the health and physical development of both girls and boys, while for the father are inherent to ensure material comforts for the family. It’s normal for the mother to see partial or full nudity, when she execute hers duties or if she estimate that it’s important for their hygiene or health, independently of the level of physical development.[/font]

retracted · 05-11-2008

That's nice, larkyman, but this thread is about a guy who loves to sit in the tub with his four-year-old daughter who apparently isn't either physically or mentally handicapped and thus should be able to sit up in the tub without help.

Aquwin · 05-11-2008

I believe its ok to take baths with your own kids till their like 2 or 3

Mademoiselle Rouge · 05-11-2008

my daughter isnt anywhere near being able to bathe herself at 6. She can do a few things if im right there prompting her the whole time. But she gets rather frustrated.

My mom quit helping me bathe way too soon and never really taught me proper hygeine habits because of her modesty.

I have no idea how parents have kids that are bathing themselves by 4 or 5 years old. Hell you have to stay on top of your teenagers about how to properly brush their teeth.

So i think 90% of the responses are from people who don't have kids. I never thought i'd still be helping my child bathe or clean up sometimes at the toilet by now. Sometimes things arent how we planned or thought they would be because we didnt have any kids when we were coming up with these ideas.

boynextdoorkpt · 05-11-2008

Those of you that are actual parents, what age do you think it is inappropriate for an opposite sex child to see their mom/dad naked?

Mademoiselle Rouge · 05-11-2008

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Originally Posted by boynextdoorkpt

Those of you that are actual parents, what age do you think it is inappropriate for an opposite sex child to see their mom/dad naked?

I wouldn't call it an age but more like a stage. A child like mine was definitely curious about my husbands crotch looking different in his underwear when she was about 3. He felt that was the age to stop being where his bulge could be seen by her.

My mom said by the time i could talk she felt it wasnt a good idea to see my dad naked. He wasnt comfortable with it by that point either.

My mom seperated her male/female grandchildren from the bath when one of them started to be way too preoccupied with the other ones body parts.

Is bathing with ya kids abnormal?

Originally Posted by snoozan Actually, my son gets in the tub with me all the time. BTW-- I'm female, not male, so I'mthe opposite sex of my child. If I'm in the bathtub, he gets