Girlfriend potential or just friend?

Jesus. I was all amped up to seize the day tomorrow until you said that 36DD.

I'm with NineInchCock_160IQ on this one. There are a lot of ways to make pretty innocent physical contact and gauge the reaction. Put your hand on her shoulder. Put your hand on her forearm when you want to draw her attention to something. Helping her on with her coat is a great way to be making some contact. And when you make the contact, gauge her response. Does she flinch and draw away, or look at you, or smile, or what? And at some point, you'll be close together and you'll catch her looking at her (or she'll catch you looking at her), and you'll probably have a pretty good idea of whether a kiss is in order.

36 - I love you, but this poor guy needs to get LAID with a hot girl he is crazy about. lol. How could you say such a thing? If she is wanting him to make a move after she has put herself out there for him to do that and he doesn't out of being polite and she walks away, then what? Young love (lust) is such a tricky thing. I would rather try something and know "well THAT didn't work out" and know rather than be tormented about thinking "what if".......
Amp. I am happy you finsd this girl hot, interesting, funny, wonderful company but in the off chance things don't work out with her, then that frees you up for a hotter, better, funnier, smarter, better girl. Believe me, the will be there and you will find them. : )

I'm sorry...I just sometimes think people are too impatient and want to force things to go according to their time lines. If you feel you are ready to make a move then go for it. I'm just saying that the moment will present itself...you will know what is right for you.

Oh yeah? Well I need to get laid too, but I am willing to wait for when it is right and I'm not going to rush it...so there...take that...Now will the time just hurry up so I can get laid? Aaauuuggghhhh!

Seize the day tomorrow. But seizing the day tomorrow can mean one small step. Put your hand on her shoulder. If the opportunity presents itself, put your hand on hers. But do something.

You can do this with style and class, and if you start getting signals that that is not the direction that she has in mind, you haven't gone so over the top that you've destroyed the relationship. You may wind up in a perfectly good friendship with a woman who may have friends that she can recommend you to in good conscience.

to36DD-No, that's half of the problem. My time-line has never worked, so now I'm having tons of trouble figuring out when the time actually is. I feel like I've wasted every minute of my life the last 5 years, and she's making my heart race constantly. I just don't want to fuck it up once more but not doing something about it. I am a daydreamer. I've never been a man of action. I feel I agree with what a lot of the previous posts from guys said. I'm more scared of saying "what if?" one more time then I am of her simply telling me she wasn't interested in me in that way. I don't understand why she'd go through all this trouble to get me around her if she didn't want to see if some sparks could fly.

Then I'd say you are ready to make a move...if the thought of not making a move bothers you more than being rejected then you are ready...good luck, really...now go get her!

...and do let us know how things work out, and know that we are all rooting for your happiness and success.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ampblaster Girls these days just don't have that innocence and don't respond to guys the way they would have back then, I'm assuming. Yes, you are correct.

[quote=goodwood;1138410] Do you ever greet her with a kiss on the cheek and a hand on her lower back as you gently do so? That will work, it will give her pause and allow her to see you as more than a friend Good luck and keep us posted.

[quote=NineInchCock_160IQ;1138417]I'd say she's interested. Just make a move. Do you really value her friendship that much? Try to hold her hand, establish some physical contact, put your arm around her, hug her... you'll probably figure out by her nonverbal cues where you stand after you do some of that stuff. I know you're still young and don't have a lot of dating experience, so you might have to just try and kiss her if all else fails. Just don't make the mistake of being too spineless to ever make a move. You'll regret that forever. Embarrassing and awkward deflected kiss? That you'll get over. Have some balls and go for it. Sounds like you could be in for a really rewarding relationship.[/quote] That's sound advice take it!

You know, on reflection I had one more thought on this. You may be completely wrong about thinking that telling her that she has beautiful eyes would make you look like a sap. Does she have beautiful eyes? Would you mean it if you said it?

She may not ever have had anyone tell her that for fear of looking like a sap. The most beautiful woman I ever went out with did not go to her high school prom. No one asked her. They all thought that she was impossibly pretty and wouldn't possibly go out with someone as ordinary as them. They were wrong. She would've gone out with a decent guy who treated her well, and they would've had a good time, just like the other human beings at the prom.

And sometimes the 'feisty ones' have a weak spot for someone telling them something like that... if you mean it, and the time is right.

That's a good point Lampwick just made...just because a girl is beautiful doesn't mean she always hears it and even if she does, it only means something when it comes from someone who is sincere. Also, sometimes the feisty ones aren't...they are just hiding behind that image because they are softees and afraid of getting hurt...I should know...been there.

Yeah, don't get me wrong. I think she's gorgeous. My issue is that she probably has to deal with 5 or 6 guys trying to get in her pants that way on a daily basis. I'm not one of those guys and I don't want to come off as such.

If you are sincere you won't...it's that simple.

ampblaster, have your ever drank alcohol on a date with her? This was the kind of thing I was getting at in my thread Alcohol and the Dating Game. If you both got a little drunk I'd think the sex would happen and this wouldn't be an issue.