There has to be room for compromise in relationships. We're all different and no two people, however much they have in common, have exactly the same likes, dislikes, interests and predelictions. As you say - forcing someone to do something with which they are not comfortable is not on but both partners in the relationship should be honest with the other about what is absolutely off limits, what they are willing to do to accomodate the other's interests/desires, what each is prepared (or not) to give up.
If, after this process, there is still a long list (from one or both people) of 'off-limits' activities, conversation topics, sexual acts, etc. then it is time to seriously consider whether the couple are compatible.
Sometimes there is nothing more to do but hope there are no hard feelings (sorry, unintentional pun) and move on. |