Bad Break Ups Often Lead to Depression and Stalkers

Okay, I can make exceptions, especially since you tried to break up in a more traditional fashion. You seem to have hooked up with a looney tune. Do you do that often?

Actually I was referring to my ex-bf who broke up with me via e-mail after 12 years. He didn't call me, he was just chicken shit.

WOW. TWELVE years and an e-mail? What a piece of shit.
Me hooking up with looney toons? Yup. Every time, every time.
The hot ones are always the craziest. Actually, did almost marry a not super hot one, but she was a nut case too. I will post that pic in my gallery.

1. When you break up with a person, how do you do it?
   If it's a serious relationship, I tell them. If it's not, I might not.
   
2. Do you have a standard technique?
   No. I usually just tell them the truth. I try not to get too emotional (crying, etc.) but it's hard.
   
3. Does the technique vary depending on certain variables, such as duration of relationship, cheating (by either of you), or something else.
   Yes. If it's a casual relationship, then it most likely ends with no real explanation. If it's a deeper relationship, then I try to end it amicably if possible. I don't like making stalkers or enemies. Life's hard enough as it is!
   
4. Do you plan the break up or do you just blurt it out over the dinner one night at home?
   Not really. I can pretty much tell when the relationship is tanking. I try to be fair but it's hard. Especially when I'm feeling hurt.

I recently ended a relationship with someone. We were friends for a couple of years before things escalated. He was divorced and very emotional about it. In addition, it was my first time to date someone outside of my race and both of us had friends that were less than supportive.

He started acting strange after we had sex. I guess I should have know something was up when he went to sleep in a fetal position. Afterwards, he ask me probing questions if I hadn't called in a couple of days. I just chalked it up to him feeling vulnerable. I did try asking how he wanted us to be and even told him that I wanted him but I never got a straight answer.

Even though we still talked on a regular basis he made excuses about getting together. In addition, he began to repeatedly ask about how I was doing even I hadn't given him any reason to. I really hate being given the hot and cold treatment so eventually, I got really frustrated and just stopped talking to him.

I still care for him but I could stay in a relationship that seemed to have no direction. I know I was wrong for not telling him why but I was really hurt by his behavior.

I had this situation where my gf that I broke up with refused to break up lol. I know this sounds crazy, but she went on for weeks like we were still going out and stuff, only not arounbd me, but to others, etc. She did harass me on the phone, etc, until she finally layed off. I sorta felt bad after that...

Who said anything about shame? I clearly stated that if I had been involved with someone that long I would have been concerned about their well-being if suddenly and without warning they "dropped off the face of the earth." I would have gone by their house or place of employment to try and confirm that they hadn't been murdered or killed in a car accident. Doesn't that seem perfectly reasonable for someone you've been seeing for nine months and had just gone out with the night before when there was no sign that something was wrong?

She got that from Seinfeld. Susan refused George's breakup and a year later they were engaged.

Yes, it is perfectly reasonable. Hindsight often shows us what we did not pay attention to earlier and when you make an example of someone's mistake(s) in a former relationship, it's pointless and makes the other person feel like foolish when all they did was make an honest mistake. We're all prone to it no matter how smart we think we are about relationships..

That is the limerant behavior one saw in Fatal Attraction and in Dream Girls. The only difference is that the woman in Dreams Girls took the hint because she had no choice.