On BEING SEDUCED by women - Questions for the HET MALES

Well said 4 inches. And Viking - well, there is always something to that as well. A level headed, confident woman who does not have a self absorbed attitude, who can be an effortless conversationalist, enjoy a brutal sense of wit and humor, not taking herself or too much of anything too seriously, who has mastered the right amount of subtle physical contact, knows how to flirt with her eyes, has a wonderful smile and honestly tells me things about herself (when I ask or the topic is relevant) rather than hide behind a wall. And it helps when she falls into whatever category we personally find attractive. Being aware of a wide range of topics is helpful. Being kind and considerate to waiters/bartenders/valets/staff is a must. Being curious about me and what I might have to say is a plus.

HEEL!!!

would do anything a woman says at this ppoint

The successful cases were all surprises. I wasn't expecting to be seduced and therefore wasn't laboring under any pre-conceived expectations. ie I was just being myself and having a good time when a very pleasant surprise came my way.

The unsuccessful cases were clearly desperation or manipulation directed at me, the target-of-opportunity that happened to be nearby. Very impersonal and very phony. Its easy to recognizes these types of advances and avoid them if need be.

I agree that women who seem desperate are a turnoff... ones who are clearly trying to be sexy and seductive and not really succeeding.

I think if any of these women would just be confident and direct they would have MUCH better results. If you really want a one night stand with a guy, try approaching them, look them confidently and calmly in the eye, and without beating around the bush, bullshitting, or playing coy, just tell him you find him attractive and ask if he'd like to have sex with you. Being this simple and direct, I don't doubt that you would meet with success well over 90% of the time if you weren't bad looking. A lot of women who are seeking a one-night stand make the huge error of assuming men think like women do and are going to be turned off by directness. We don't need the stupid games and sleight of hand, if done right it can be enticing or exciting but just as often it can backfire. Being direct will make you stand out far more and requires less skill to pull off.

All it takes is a look and i melt!!!

That was precisely the technique of the woman in one of the more memorable times I've been seduced: Confidence, directness, brevity. No coyness, bullshit or head games. I was so flattered and surprised all I could do was stammer.... ssssure!

Smiling eyes.

Oh BINGO!

Grace. An attractive woman is graceful in not only her bearing but her intellect, humor, and charm. Coyness is straight out. It's:

Confidence
Intellect
Humor
Beauty

I believe any woman can be beautiful if she capitalizes on her attractive features while minimizing her faults. Good hygiene is a must and a smart sense of style help enormously too. Nothing, however, equals a lovely smile and happy demeanor. It means she doesn't take herself too seriously. Victoria Beckham is just hideous to me as she never smiles, has the fakest fake boobs, and dresses like a slut. She has NO grace. I wouldn't fuck her if she dropped naked out of the sky onto my hard cock.

I agree, this is key in seduction. Letting a man know you're interested, but then also, not being sooooo into him.

That's not seduction, though. You talk sex with a guy, he's hard. It's that easy. Seduction is much more about the anticipation, the hesitance, the "should I really," the boundary busting.... If it were all "ok," seduction would be unnecessary. In order for seduction to work, someone has a conscience or feels guilt, or is unwilling to cross the line with a client or employer. Like 160IQ said, it's easy to get men in bed.

The plumber has a conscience. Personally, I don't care about his wife and kids, cos I don't want to marry him or date him or anything like that. He's hot, he has a nice cock, and all of his guilt is so....

Yes, and these are the women who will marry ANYONE just to say they're married. So you're correct, men are targeted by women, but I don't think they were trying to seduce you as much as quietly manipulate and control you, which is what women do best. It's sickening, but true.

Back to the point, though, that seduction is not so manipulative as it is enticing, intriguing. Both parties are to have pleasure, no one is using anyone, there is a mutual attraction...

You see, being all of these things requires that one WAIT for the male to take action. Now with the client at work I want, that's fine, cos I want him...very interested in more than a lay. (Still, it's frustrating.) But the plumber...you're not helping me here!

None of this is seduction, it's all about your ego.