True Love: How far will you travel for it?

It occurred to me after reading about the fairytale romances of MercurialBliss and No_Strings, Diamond and Her KingX; ArtfulWilly and HollyBlue that perhaps I have been limiting myself.

I don't have a "type of guy"; but I usually prefer they be within my area code or state. I have for the last 15 or so years subconciously dated by weeding out men who were G.U.D. I read about G.U.D. in the New York Times eons ago; it means Geographically UnDesirable.

Just for the sake of clarity I'm not talking about lust, fuckbuddies, or friends with benefits. I'm talking head-over-heels, delete your match.com account, throw away your little black book; and book a church kind of love.

How much are you willing to give up? Let's be honest people, if you live in Texas and your bashert lives in Poland, and you move to Poland, that's not a compromise, that's giving in. Especially if all your family and friends are in Texas and the surrounding southern states. What if you don't speak Polish and his or her English is poor. Are you cool with picking up and moving to Poland? How do you make it work? How far are you willing to travel for love?

I don't think I could ever leave this place I call home for anything in the world, including my true love. He'd just have to move here if I found him in some other place.

I went to Poland

in italy we have a proverb:
mogli e buoi dei paesi tuoi

translated is 'brides and oxen from your own country'

in rhyme, in italian

I moved to the UK for love. It didn't work out but and I am half British so I had the passport anyway. I stayed but I must say that when I arrived I truly felt I was at 'home'.

I'd go anywhere for true love...

I could be trite and say that true love comes to you, that happened with me/us and it is part of our compatibility that we met in an alpine environment that we are both enthralled with.

I would move to be with a true love, but there are some caveats, there are climates that I could truly not be comfortable in; straight up desert and hot and humid or a large city.

I don't know if true love could occur without a commonality of interests and desires.

I went to Iceland to see my man. I was scared. But, It was worth it. But, that was after I left from thier to work in Earl New Jersey..." He came to Italy for me from Greece..." LOL!!

People do CRAZY things for LOVE!!.

I moved 1,200 miles to be with someone I truly loved. Didn't work out, but I'd do it again. Luckily I found a man 20 blocks away so perfect it is like he was made for me and dropped on my doorstep.

I did once go from Miami to Paris to see a man. We were in love and had known each other since we were children. He was my first love. He had to move back to France and we kept in contact. About a year later, I realized that he was "the one" and I had let my being frightened of moving to Paris, having to finish school, my poor French and worrying about leaving my family stop me from going with him. Being a total lunatic, I literally charged a 2,000 ticket and took the next plane to Paris (hey, I was 20 and in love). He was in a relationship and I don't know what I expected, but he explained that I was "the one", but he loved the man he was seeing. I spent a few days, saw some family and went home. They are still together and I still speak to him from time to time.

If it is true love and he/she is the one you want...go to the ends of the Earth to be with them.

njqt, I've posted my love story on here, but I'll do it again (just for you!)

I met the love of my life through mutual friends when he was visiting them. We were introduced, shook hands, and talked for about 3 minutes. He went back to Atlanta, and we got in touch through email. We fell in love online, and approximately one year later, he told me he got a job in Washington, DC, and would be moving about six months later.

I quit my job, packed my stuff, and moved from Little Rock to live with him. I have not had a single regret, 6 years later. Granted, it was only 1000 miles, not the same as moving to another country, but it would not have mattered. I would have moved anywhere to be with him.

I guess I'm more of a pragmatic, but deciding whether I should move to be with him, or he should move to be with me, was job-dependent. He has a Ph. D. in a fairly narrow field; I do not. So his earning potential is greater than mine, and in his field, the job opportunities (and especially promotion potential) for him limit the number and location of the jobs available.

If you don't risk everything for true love, then just what kind of life are you living?!?

I was willing to pack my belongings and move to the UK but he really wants to live here. If all goes as planned, he'll be here in January.

I have done so in june, after having known this guy for almost 18 months, two working vacations together and two real vacations together, and I don't regret a minute I have spent up here. I am sure there are others who have travelled farther than 600 miles for their love, but I am happy with my decision.

Frank and I work for the same company, which is how we got to know each other in first place, it was in Feb 2006 when our paths crossed as a professional project put us together. We had sex after our second or third date, and found out that we had a lot more in common than our obvious interests in aviation and sexual desires.

In July 2006, we went on vacation together to Europe, and got along even better.

December 2006, I visited him for a week, Christmas and New Years Eve, at Seattle, my first trip to his apartment and I think the unspoken attempt of living together, it was a first time for us both in a long time.

Feb/March 2007, we were working together again. He suggested we should move together, I ducked out at first, but gave in. And in June, I got green lights for an internal transfer to another job that was vacant at Seattle, and here I am now. Best thing that could have happened to me.

I agree, compromise is a necessity. That being said, some people are able to sacrifice more without it being disadvantageous. With your Texas to Poland example, that's not a compromise. One person is clearly losing more than the other. Personally, however, I could move anywhere with little recourse because that's just my nature. Wouldn't be much trouble for me to give up my homestead. So to answer your first question, yes I'd be willing to relocate.

If I was somebody else with family, friends and attachments, I'd say the best solution would be to find a place in between to live.

I would move to Poland and learn Polish if necessary but only if I knew it was real.

So how do I know if its real?

I recently gave up the idea of moving to Sasktchewan because I wasn't sure if it was real. (I think I would have had to have learned Saskatchewanian there.)

more likely I will just focus on making myself more desirable (geographically and otherwise) and maybe something will eventually happen because I really gave up looking for true love many years ago

If I could I would move out West or to NYC or to Australia or to Scotland or to Iceland or maybe I will just stay here in Quebec ....

how does one get to meet possibilities from far away anyway?