Out of your league?

This is an interesting concept.

Are leagues a personal choice or imposed by society?

Do you think that you are out of some leagues?

Do you use exclusions for your own league?

Do people think like this and why?

Am I asking too many questions?

Should I STFU now?

Keep asking questions there is no need to shut up now or ever if you are trying to learn new things

i would say impose by society . people create parameters to from groups and then exclude those that are different of the group

If you consider some people out of your league that always carries some implication you're a bit full of yourself. 'I'm out of your league,' it just sounds a bit snotty and as if you've made some snap judgement, but we all impose criteria which have to be met before we consider someone suitable for us.

No such thing as Leagues for me. We are all one and the same. We all shall line the earth together.

Well, lacking sports ability, EVERY league was out of my reach -- baseball, football, hockey, etc., etc.

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All seriousness aside, there do seem to be "lines" and "circles" drawn around most social groups. And if you are not a "recognized member", then forget about it.

Except for LPSG (see later), I never feel like I'm "at home" anywhere, possibly because:

-- I'm a bit of an intellectual snob. I may not have read ALL the classics, but I've probably read 50-100 times more books than the average person on the street. (I'm not kidding, I used to live inside the pages of books, fiction and non-fiction)

-- I make a living off of my mind and imagination. I only know a handful of people who do that.

-- I'm a bit "wild" sexually, and most people frown on that kind of stuff.


There are circles where I feel I might be at home... but you can't just walk up and say, "Hey, can I join?" It's "invitation" only -- and the only way you get an "invitation" is to EARN admission. For example, you have to be "well known" in the same way -- you have to have had a book on the NY Times Bellseller List, win a Grammy, earn a degree from the same class of university, make a hit movie or record, be a face in the tabloids, etc. etc. etc.

Within the next 12 months, I will have finished "earning my admission" to the particular circle that I aspire to.

But in the meantime, LPSG is about the only place I've found where there are:

-- people who think
-- people who are open sexually
-- people who are fun and flirty

So there!

They are imposed by society. Society tells you by how they treat you that you are out of their league.

Personally I dont belong to any leagues, never have and never will, and I really don't fancy anyone who does ... but obviously I do notice that most other people do engage in games of this kind ...

This is an interesting concept.
Eh, not so much

Are leagues a personal choice or imposed by society?
Personal choice (it's all mental)

Do you think that you are out of some leagues?
Hah. Oh wait, are you serious?

Do you use exclusions for your own league?
Nope. Doesn't matter how attractive a girl is if she's annoying, shallow, smart as gum, etc. Everyone is welcome

Do people think like this and why?
In my experience, nobody thinks like me. I'm sure people have established "leagues" and reject those that are beneath them. I'm accepted by all because I'm oh so charming so I can't relate

Am I asking too many questions?
You're one question away from too many

Should I STFU now?
And here it is :)

Can't "out of my league" mean he/she is too good for me as well as not good enough for me? Like I could say, "that girl wouldn't like me, she's too hot, she's out of my league."


To answer the OP, I don't think I could date actresses in Hollywood. They are out of my league simply because they make so much money that they wouldn't want to be with me. So yes, I am out of some leagues. But there are no real boundaries on these so called "leagues". It's just an expression to say that you are not compatible with someone else for whatever reasons (beauty, age, wealth).

Yeah Jovial usually 'out of my league' means you consider someone too good for you, I worded what I said badly. I've not been paying attention much of late because I'm busy worrying about a friend :(

hotmilf: you have a very sexy body and a very sexy mind, channeled through your posts. I feel I must give you a new name since milf is much to base a title for one as fine as you. That new name is...FLIM

On topic: I used to think I was a FREAK and that no female (of any species!) would even want to talk to me...

I still feel most girls are out of my league but if they eye me up and engage in prolonged perving, I'll go over and say hi. This doesn't happen often though...so all the others who don't give me the eye are out of my league? I think.

I'm quiet/introverted. And no one likes an introvert. At least...not round here. And it seems like a catch 22. How will an introvert meet another introvert (or at least someone compatible with them or 'in their league') if they're both too shy to speak

Anyone who considers themselves out of my league is a twat and deserves to be treated with disdain.

Anyone who considers me out of their league is being silly and doesn't know me very well.

However, people do think like that and it is partly because of the kind of social animals we are descended from and partly the way many cultures and societies are run / run themselves - in short, most people, like animals, feel more secure when they 'know their place'. The knowing of the place being far more important than the place itself.

It's all crap anyway. We still act like Baboons and unfortunately I don't see it changing.

It's stupid and imposed by society. The only time I might think I'm out of someone's league is when they've had the audacity to consider me out of theirs! And then, in that case I would have to agree because I certainly am not in the league of assholes!