Is it better to love or be loved in a relationship

Basically, this leaves me choosing between feeling:

A) Hurt and unloved

B) Annoyed and embarassed

If I had to choose one of those, I'd choose B. I'd rather stick with Hung Jon on this one, though.

I choose, and live "...that's not an option."

Been in both A, B and D situations.

Right now in a A situation; would like to go back to B or D.

Been in B too many times, and don't like it. Not so much experience with A, but don't think I'd like it much either. So, I'm with you, Hung.

Exactly!

Yeah, C tops my list, and I have been there. Fantastic!

Haven't done D, but it seems like an option, the fuck-buddies thing. Then again, I suspect there'd be complications not anticipated.

I think this situation would need a lot of communication. First why would anyone want to be in a relationship where you don't feel something deeply for the other person from the beginning? What I think usually happens is that after peeps have been together for a while, one of the partners loses some interest, and that's when things get hurtful, and the love becomes unequal.

B) ,no doubt. it's more easy to be loved, love some one didn't love u is too painful for me.

of cause i prefer C) love each other.
and i always believe there is a C) somewhere

I'll chose option B... but I could be feel guilty for being in that situation due the feeling aren't reciprocal on both sides. At the end I'll terminate the relationship.

id go for the both but well it's not an option so i'll choose...'B'

Some recent psychological research has addessed this topic. From a simple standpoint the one who is loved: puts forth less effort, spends less money, expends fewer resources, receives more benefits of various types, and has less relationship/partner related mental/emotional turmoil/problems/issues. Thus frm one standpoint it is more beneficial to be loved than to love. However, significant amounts of research exist that describe the benefits of loving someone...mental, emotional, physical, etc.