Bisexuality and you...well me..but you too

Big en · 11-07-2007

I agree with this but I also think in my case bisexuallty was a necessary stepping stone for me to come to grips with my homosexuality. I was probably not bisexual but in my mind it made sense because I was having sex with both female and male. But maybe I was just trying to gain acceptance??? Who knows it was a wierd time...

I think a problem could be that many gay people may identify as bisexual in order to attempt some more acceptance in society. And thus when a true bisexual appears, people are like "Yeah, right...you're just gay."

Sounds like a perplexing situation to me. =\[/quote]

frizzle · 11-07-2007

Bah, you're just greedy.

avg_joe · 11-07-2007

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Originally Posted by Hung Jon

Thanks so much for explaining your situation so well. I understand it because I'm similar to you. Maybe bisexuality isn't the best word to use to describe some of us because as you say it's not about the sex. It's about who you're attracted to and who you may love or fall in love with.

I couldn't agree more with you.

drevo50 · 11-07-2007

Sexuality is a spectrum, only you know where you are on it. You find people at the extremes but the majority are between the 2!

rimmer9 · 11-07-2007

Fully bi here, always have been.

Dave NoCal · 11-07-2007

I have no issue with people being bisexual. ON a personal level, I have been leery of getting romantically involved with bisexual men (and I have had a couple of opportunities) because of fearing that I would get attached and then he would take the "easy way out" and return to women. That probably was unfair but I think I'd make the same decision today.

Italian1 · 11-07-2007

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Originally Posted by BigLittleMan

before you get all bent out of shape, answer this question--when was the last time you heard of a "bisexual" man sneaking out on his boyfriend to have sex with a woman? never.

You don't hear about it because it's a one way street.

My First Gay Experience (from a straight man)

MH07 · 11-07-2007

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Originally Posted by BigLittleMan

here is my experience with bisexuals:

they want the freedom to have sex with a man but the security (and social acceptance) of settling down with a woman. before you get all bent out of shape, answer this question--when was the last time you heard of a "bisexual" man sneaking out on his boyfriend to have sex with a woman? never.

my work here is done.

blm

Incorrect. The gay world is replete with stories (including mine) of gay guys with bisexual lovers "sneaking out" of the gay relationship to have sex with women.

MH07 · 11-07-2007

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Originally Posted by SpitFireWheels

Just a little problem I've been coming across for a while now.

Recently I've started to let everyone know that i'm bi because basically I don't care anymore. People can't seem to grasp how I feel in general and it kind of bugs me. Like, people will say "Well being bi is just a road stop to gay town" or "Do you prefer men or women more? Honestly, for me it's not about the sex. It's basically my capacity to love a man or a woman equally. I don't care if they have a penis or a vag, if I'm attracted to them i'll go for it without question. It just kind of bugs me how some people who i'm close to will actually say this to me and they can't really grasp the concept. I've also said that it lowers my chances of not having a date on friday night? (so far that idea has failed me miserably:P)

How about anyone else? Anyone else feel this way or am I just one whacked out kind of guy? Thoughts/comments appreciated!

ps..if if the typing on this is horrible I apologize. I tore a ligament in my wrist today so I'm trying to type with one hand:P

Personally, I think labels are ridiculous. I agree with the other posters who say everybody is somewhere in-between; some more "gay" and some more "straight", but everybody's in the middle.

Just reject the labels and be who you are, and to hell with what anybody else says or thinks.

playainda336 · 11-07-2007

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Originally Posted by Big en

I agree with this but I also think in my case bisexuallty was a necessary stepping stone for me to come to grips with my homosexuality. I was probably not bisexual but in my mind it made sense because I was having sex with both female and male. But maybe I was just trying to gain acceptance??? Who knows it was a wierd time...

Maybe...but in the future, it seems it would be easier for bisexuals if homosexuals came to terms sooner, heheh.

Though ideally everyone should be accepted for who they are, we all know that isn't always the case.

Big en · 11-07-2007

[quote=playainda336;1093022]Maybe...but in the future, it seems it would be easier for bisexuals if homosexuals came to terms sooner, heheh.

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We are very inconsiderate

novice_btm · 11-07-2007

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Originally Posted by Italian978

You don't hear about it because it's a one way street.

Wow! I'm stunned to see you in this thread, and expressing that opinion on top of it.

I also have an odd friend that went from being "bi", to being straight. He's now happily married with two lovely kids. No straying, no checking out men, he's just completely happy with his wife. I asked him if he misses any of the past, and he said that he really doesn't, that it seems like a different lifetime. He doesn't regret the past, but he just couldn't see that interest ever coming back, especially since this life is so much more fulfilling to him than how he was before.

wowniceone · 11-07-2007

i dated a bisexual; in fact, he's the only person i've ever said "i love you" to in the romantic sense. people would ask if i wasn't afraid he'd leave for a woman. my response: what difference does it make if he leaves for a man or a worman, he LEAVES. all one can do is offer oneself, as one is at this point in the journey. if it's not enough for another, so be it.

this also applies to the OP. be true to yourself, don't misrepresent, and eventually you'll meet wonderful people who will appreciate you for you.

signed, a fag who wouldn't mind being with a woman again (preferably with another hot man in the bed too--wink).

Monster · 11-07-2007

I dont really know why some people have a problem with bisexuals, so, we love and have sex with both men and women, whats the problem? Gay ppl get alot of flak just for who they sleep with, bisexual ppl get the same flak from the the gay community, whats up with that crap???

wowniceone · 11-07-2007

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Originally Posted by Monster

I dont really know why some people have a problem with bisexuals, so, we love and have sex with both men and women, whats the problem? Gay ppl get alot of flak just for who they sleep with, bisexual ppl get the same flak from the the gay community, whats up with that crap???

i think it's an "us (gay) against them (straights)" attitude. i understand, but definitely don't agree, with it!

just 'cause folks are gay, doesn't mean they can't be prejudiced or bigoted. and they, like anyone else, have the chance to be swayed from those unfortunate beliefs by thoughtful discourse like that displayed here.