Scared of sex

Purplesaurus · 11-09-2007

Just about everyone is scared. Some people can't even have sex because everyone is scared of them.

sargon20 · 11-09-2007

Learning to become a sexual person has many milestones..........see attached

novice_btm · 11-10-2007

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Originally Posted by KoolKat

Hey guys
last night i met up with that guy, and i talked to him about my fear and nervousness...

Hey, I'm really sorry that I didn't get a chance to come back to this thread sooner, but I was going to suggest this very thing. Sex creating anxiety in people, even people who don't have an anxiety disorder, is not at all uncommon. However, for people with anxiety issues, it can seem that way, which, in turn, causes its own anxiety. Lovely, eh?

One thing I've found, is that with anxiety, in general, that is in any situation, not particularly for sex, if I tell whoever I'm with, "this is starting to make me anxious," I pretty quickly calm down. A lot of the fear is the whole, "what if I completely lose it in front of this person," which again, causes its own anxiety. Once I get the sense that they're "on my side", and if I DO lose it, that they're there for me, that in itself can be very calming.

KoolKat · 11-10-2007

Hey Novice
Yeh i totally agree with that, i told him look, im very nervous, and he told me he was too, so i knew he was in the same boat as me, and yeh when it happened it was great, :)
Thanks for all your help and advice giuys

Matt

ManiacalMadMan · 11-10-2007

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Originally Posted by KoolKat

Hey guys

i have a problem, and i duno if im just fucked in the head or if other people are like this too. Im scared about the prospect of having a sexual relationship. I have had a bf before but we never slept together, and i had a one weekend fool around with a guy when i was on holiday in sydney, but it was just wanking with each other and a blow job, but even that i felt really sick and nervous about when i started thiking about it after wards. And now i have met this really great guy and he is keen to have sex, but when i think about it outside of horniness i get that same sick nautious feeling and i dont want to do it, but i do want to do it, but i dont wanna like throw up on the guy or worse, but yeh, just thought i would ask your opinion, its not really young and hung but i am young and confused.

Hope that makes sense
Matt

Many times I am nervous when thinking of sex with some one new It is evaporated once I am in his arms and we start doing things The fear and nervousness go away although they can come back a day or more later when we have not again been with each other for sex I start to think may be I did some thing wrong or they have no interest in me. It leaves again when I am sexual with that man again.

When I was much younger I too some times felt sick in the stomach both before and after sex Some of this may be from my upbringing/raising where sex with no marriage was frowned upon and homosexuality was one of the eight deadly sins even worse than greed or sloth or envy and worse than if I had brokered all the ten commandments. Over time I got easier with it and began enjoying sex completely Some of this willl surely happen for you too I am sure as you grow older you will become more comfortable and free about sex.