Telling your ex off...

Much props bro

It's so true. After the abuse, him figuring out he is gay, the sex, the drugs, the hugggge falling out. I still fucking love that boy. But I hate him at the same time.

Out of respect for my kids I am not going to lower myself to the standards of my former in-laws. (How is that for subtlety?)

Yes....its so hard to move on..but in time you learn to let go..... like mariha carey says...nothing can compare to your first tru love ....so don't forget about us...*tears*.....anyway..on to bigger and better dicks...ha ha lol just kidding..ew that was slutty...so very libra am i

I've only had one bitter breakup and I haven't seen the guy since 1990. (I was the one who broke up with him, too - because he was a sexist asshole. Oh yeah, and he was an alcoholic who refused to admit it, too...)

Since I haven't seen him since 1990, and it is highly unlikely that I will ever see him again, it really isn't an issue.

I'm friends with my first ex (yes, it can happen if enough time passes. Old wounds can heal), so no need to tell him off. My second ex is a different story but I have much better things to do than create elaborate scenarios for vengeful purposes. That's how bitter people are formed.

Lately...I've wanted to find my ex on myspace becuase I have been thinking about him...but what would we talk about...its been 2 years.... I, in a sense, don't have closure..I guess...

And what gets me ...is that when we did have communication..all I wanted was for him to disappear!!!!!!!!!! Gosh love is lame

I had an interesting experience the other day.

My ex is actually crazy, like diagnosed borderline and genuinely afraid of crowds and the public, absolutely no personal boundaries (if you she could see you, you were in her face) and she smoked pot every day, wouldn't eat for days at a time, and sometimes cut herself, and had had many abusive boyfriends (whom she would still talk to on the phone, god knows why), and tried to get herself raped (methodically seducing her married teacher [telling me the details along the way, I thought it was a strange thing to do] and then he fucked her on his classroom desk until she freaked out and stopped him in the middle of it and went to a fucking police station) and I turned into a real downer myself around her.

She IM'd me the other day when I got a new AIM client and forgot to use a block list... she still has my username in her freakin' buddylist (don't forget, she still talks to even some of her abusive exes) and would try to talk to me. I guess she still smokes pot every day because her message popped up on my computer screen:

"Who is this?"

So beautiful, she has forgotten about me a little more.

I feel all in the replies in here, i've been going through some real shit with my ex. She broke it off and left me feeling quite lost, but the problem i have is that she keeps phoning me on random days saying she misses me but doesn't give me any indication that she wants me back. I have to say that i'm getting stonger each day and i keep waying up the benefits of being away from such a freaky girl. Moving on is reallly hard but if you don't do it the heartache carries on. I do still love her but as they say there is a very thin line between love and hate. Time is a great healer and i believe if your strong enough to move on, you give yourself a much better opportunity to love others and maybe the day will come when you are truely happy

oh yeah, love can leave you feeling crippled, i feel sorry for the people that haven't yet experienced real heartache and are about to find out.

Peace to you all

I've tried to remain friends with some of the people I've dated. Sometimes there's a reason for not getting along with someone. But for me, that's not to open a can of worms and argue about it....

constantly,.

Oh thanks JumboCannon, now I've got to set aside time this week to dig them up and eat the evidence :)

"Naughty ex, naughty! Go and sit on the naughty step!"

That's how its done