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Got a lot more grief when I was younger. And it really caused a lot of anxiety. So I actually had penis envy of the regular guys for years. I mean it's just a dick.

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Old 10-24-2007   #16 (permalink)
Captain Elephant is offline

Got a lot more grief when I was younger. And it really caused a lot of anxiety. So I actually had penis envy of the regular guys for years. I mean it's just a dick. Didn't make me smarter, stronger, or more popular (at the time it was just the opposite). So I never equated bigger with better.

Lots of "therapy" in the form of loving partners made me appreciate the difference as much as they do.
 
Old 10-24-2007   #17 (permalink)
lafever is offline

I must admitt, my literary skills came about by accident, i never felt the need for conformity or someone elses ideas of how i should write. Having alot of sex in high school was my biggest influence, along with living my life while others were reading about it. I don`t read books, i don`t even have a book collection. This is my philosophy, why waste all that time reading when i can be living life in the hear and now, i do things people have only dreamed of.
Over the years i`ve noticed how my writing skills seperates the trully anal and overly serious from the kind hearted loving people that i have in my life, so i`ve decided to keep the format. I`ve even extended my writing to the way i talk, it works quite well, sorting out the trash that is, and i`ve avoided alot of wasted life by keeping the trully boring and want to bees from clogging up the works.

lafever

P.s. I guess in a way having a large cock has allowed myself to live however i want, does that make others jelous? Who gives a shit.
 
Old 10-24-2007   #18 (permalink)
lorne is offline

I had a buddy who would awkwardly bring it up alot. One day in the mens run he just got up the urinal and looked over at it and was like HOLY fuck man your huge. he was a great guy and was always excited and happy so it got really weird that he was so excited that I was big. He was a little nympho, and now makes low end porn. he would just throw statments about it out when we were in groups
 
Old 10-24-2007   #19 (permalink)
Jennuine73 is online now

Quote:
Originally Posted by Captain Elephant View Post
Got a lot more grief when I was younger. And it really caused a lot of anxiety. So I actually had penis envy of the regular guys for years. I mean it's just a dick. Didn't make me smarter, stronger, or more popular (at the time it was just the opposite). So I never equated bigger with better.

Lots of "therapy" in the form of loving partners made me appreciate the difference as much as they do.

What do you think would have made a difference? If you could tell yourself, when you were younger, a good way to handle the anxiety and teasing, what would you say?
Thanks for replying.
 
Old 10-28-2007   #20 (permalink)
Captain Elephant is offline

What would have made a difference? Treating me like a normal person would have been a great start. I knew I was larger, but I did not think it made a difference; I mean, I never compared myself with anyone and said "because I'm bigger I'm better than you," because I was very small in stature and I knew they could whip my ass.

If I could have convinced myself that it didn't make a difference I probably would have been better. But it's very hard to think that way when everybody says you're different.

So for the first 20 years I felt inferior. The next 10 I tried to make up for it by being as promiscuous as possible. The last 10 or so I've been in very stable relationships that keep me on an even keel.

With peer pressure and low self-esteem, however, there's no way I could have come out any different unless I would have had at least one understanding soul reaffirming me.
 
Old 10-28-2007   #21 (permalink)
hungless is offline

I think it is unlikely that many well hung guys were teased unmercifully. It was never cruel or meant to hurt their feelings and really was just a way for young guys to show their admiration. If a guy had a very large cock especially in high school almost everyone knew. The majority of young guys always worried about their own size and when they had at least 6" they were pleased that they were at least average, but most wished they were bigger. The teasing of guys with small cocks was entirely different and the guy being teased felt humiliation even if it was light hearted and not meant to hurt their feelings.
Quite a few years John Holmes was at the place i worked and most of the workers both male and female were all worked up treated him like a big time celebrity. This was more of a show of admiration rather then jealousy and shows that a huge cock does facinate most people.
 
Old 10-28-2007   #22 (permalink)
Whopper-lee is offline

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Originally Posted by Jennuine73 View Post
I don't know whether this is in the right ousycategory or not.

I am wondering how many of well hung guys were on the receiving end of jealousy because of your size? If you were, how did you handle it? When did it start? Did it cause problems for you psychologically? Did you avoid certain situations?

A friend of mine told me he is being teased quite a bit at the gym and feels hostility from the other men.
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First of all Jennuine... I sure like the way you phrased your question in clear, simple terms...wish I could do it as well.
Ok...my answers/experiences 1) yes
2) tried to ignore many times..say nothing
3) really about the age of 12-13
4) a few
5) yes...and still do sometimes
I have often felt my step-dad was hostile & treated me different from my older step-bros because of my gentials size being larger.
He'd say my man parts were big because they were the cruse of the devil's workshop.
He & my step bros referred to me & called me names like big peter boy,knee-knocker,too-long, horse-peter, meat-hanger,rooter, foot-long and finally whopper-lee.
When I was in school I got talked about in the gym class locker-room situation and around school. Some of the boys in gym spreaded the word around that I had a huge peter...even by some of the white gym teachers that called me "bushmaster" in class, which I didn't know what they meant til much later...learned it is considered one of the largest snakes in south america (brown & black in color). I don't know if it was racism, hostility, jealousy, manly joke thing, or what.
I never did or do much to when this has happened...just take it all in & laugh at it like a joke most of the time...except when pops put the strap on me buck-naked and didn't care when he hit my gentials or not.
Sometimes I think he even aimed to hit me there.
But you see, whippings (ass beatings) was a way of common discipline in my days of growing up...was not considered child abuse.
In fact, it's still premitted & common in Mississippi public schools til yet by law on the books 2007 as far as I know.
But that's a whole different topic aint it!
Hope my answer gives you a view.
And yes, there are some real haters of some of us guys that are endowed
which is sad.
Tell him to be careful & be safe.
If he gets the sense of hostility around him,...he should change his enviroment from this gym of guys...esp since it is in his power to do so in this given situation.
 
Old 10-29-2007   #23 (permalink)
snoozan is offline
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I must admitt, my literary skills came about by accident, i never felt the need for conformity or someone elses ideas of how i should write. Having alot of sex in high school was my biggest influence, along with living my life while others were reading about it. I don`t read books, i don`t even have a book collection. This is my philosophy, why waste all that time reading when i can be living life in the hear and now, i do things people have only dreamed of.
Over the years i`ve noticed how my writing skills seperates the trully anal and overly serious from the kind hearted loving people that i have in my life, so i`ve decided to keep the format. I`ve even extended my writing to the way i talk, it works quite well, sorting out the trash that is, and i`ve avoided alot of wasted life by keeping the trully boring and want to bees from clogging up the works.

lafever

P.s. I guess in a way having a large cock has allowed myself to live however i want, does that make others jelous? Who gives a shit.
What in God's name are you trying to say?
 
Old 10-29-2007   #24 (permalink)
No_Strings is offline

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What in God's name are you trying to say?
God doesn't know either
 
Old 10-29-2007   #25 (permalink)
Sixofspades is offline

Only jokingly by my friends in the past, after one of them saw it at the gym. He goes "holy shit, you've got a horse cock." I say jokingly, but it might've been a cover-up for envy though, I don't know. Men don't talk openly about this kind of thing.
 
Old 10-29-2007   #26 (permalink)
BigMeatNJ is offline

I guess most of the comments I got over the years were never meant to hurt. maybe there was jealousy by some, but most probably were more in the lines of "damn thats big...you're so lucky...wish it was me" This isn't really a negative comment. it's not much different than a guy liking your new car...it's admiration.

I have to be totally honest here. Although I guess it can occur, I really have a hard time believing the comments posted on this sight by some of how they were scared for life by having a big dick. Unless there was abuse and molestation or violence..of course that is different. Being shy or uncomfortable is one thing... but there are shy guys with big dicks and shy guys with small dicks. be honest...which would you rather be.
I was teased for many things growing up...from wearing glasses to being not a great athlete (oh hell..I stunk at sports). but having a large cock was
one of the things that was a plus for me. Being told you run slow up and down the basketball court and can't make a jump shot stinks..but being told that and then another guy saying something like "no wonder he can't run with that thing swinging around..or you try jumping with a snake in your shorts" took the sting off it. so come on guys....we're the lucky ones. stop making this into an affliction!
 
Old 10-29-2007   #27 (permalink)
donkeyboy9 is offline

It is difficult to assess whether other guys are jealous or even envious of my endowment. One thing is for sure they gawk at my cock a lot! That does not bother me in the slightest; on the contrary, I will take all of the jealousy I get..so long as I am the one who has the big cock!
 
Old 10-29-2007   #28 (permalink)
senor rubirosa is offline

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Originally Posted by lafever View Post
I must admitt, my literary skills came about by accident.
Car crash, perhaps? Ensuing brain damage?

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Originally Posted by lafever View Post
i [sick] never felt the need for conformity or someone else's ideas of how i [sick] should write. Having alot [sick] of sex in high school was my biggest influence, along with living my life while others were reading about it. I don`t [sick] read books, i [sick] don`t [sick] even have a book collection. This is my philosophy, why waste all that time reading when i [sick] can be living life in the hear [sick] and now, i [sick] do things people have only dreamed of.
Over the years i`ve [sick] noticed how my writing skills seperates [sick] the trully [sick] anal and overly serious from the kind hearted loving people that i [sick] have in my life, so i`ve [sick] decided to keep the format. I`ve [sick] even extended my writing to the way i [sick] talk, it works quite well, sorting out the trash that is, and i`ve [sick] avoided alot [sick] of wasted life by keeping the trully [sick] boring and want to bees [sick] from clogging up the works.

lafever

P.s. I guess in a way having a large cock has allowed myself to live however i [sick] want, does that make others jelous [sick]? Who gives a shit[sick].
Literacy wouldn't hurt you, lafever.

Also, your dick, while big, is hardly, in this LPSG context, quite as gargantuan as you think.

Special note: want to bees would of course have to be spelled want to be's, but would be better written, wannabes.

But believe me, you have larger fish to fry than mere spelling improvement.

Start with a neurologist, for the brain damage [brane damij] you allude to in the opening.
 
Old 10-29-2007   #29 (permalink)
Wave is offline

Oh LaFever, lighten up mon ami. That IS sad that that some dudes would wanna make your world a downturned-day cuz you are bigger than they are. Byt that's their issue, and only yours by proxy. I like to admire and appreciate those with big units, though it took awhile for me to realize that those big lads were into me for other qualities besides the size of my package. At the end of the day, these sore loseurs go home with their viennas and you've got a kielbasa and there's nothing they can do about it.
 
Old 10-29-2007   #30 (permalink)
Jennuine73 is online now

I want to thank everyone who answered my questions.

This friend of mine is 18 and was raised by his grandmother. He was home schooled so did not interact with other boys often.

He is now in a foster type situation, in New York.It is a big adjustment for him and really did not realize the difference in his size until I commented on it. As you can guess, he is a virgin. His social skills are so backwards.

Any of you that know me, knows I would not make up some bullshit story in a post. His situation is real and I thank everyone again who answered honestly.

Oh and, stop your fucking bitching at each other for christ's sake!!!!!
 

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