Jealousy from other women?

I do not know how to deal with this. I don't know why I am so hated and envied by so many women. It's happened all my life growing up. Compared to other women in this world that are beautiful I am nothing, I have nothing like them yet most of them hate me? Even dudes that liked me were jealous and always abused me. They weren't boyfriends they were just boys at school and they treated other women so well I got treated like shit apparently because I was walking around thinking I was all that?

It's usually a racial thing as well black women hate me. Either they adored me alot and not because of my personality but because I was mixed? But mostly black women hate me even more. I am so hurt by this, they hate me because I am a hybrid/mixed race. They always told me "oh you think you're the shit because of your hair?" It's fucking hair!! >_> They hated me because my nose is thinner and my skin is lighter (almost white) and I don't talk uneducated with broken english. It goes even more deeper than that it's like if I don't listen to Pdiddy or Rhianna that I am an outcast. For crying outloud it's just music!

They always called me little white girl I catch hell from the black side of my family. I am just skin and bones like anybody else? I mean shit I am not Halle Berry she should be envied by many, compared to me I am just a mere girl that has nothing. I don't know how to do deal with the bullshit.

Does any other girl here feel the same way?

I know I'll probably catch all kind of hell for this but this is exactly why I believe that people should stay in their own race. The children catch hell for it, neither the black's nor the whites want anything to do with them on count of them being mixed. I have heard and seen this first hand, I have two cousins that have bi-racial children. I don't really have an answer for you other than grow some thick skin and become a strong and productive person in spite of what others may say and think.

I'm mixed stock as well. The only problem I've ever had from it was a girl who wanted to beat me up because I was too white. WTF? This was at a dance club, does this mean I don't dance as well as I think I do?

Well, it sounds to me like you have beautifully mixed some of the nice features of both races.

I could be wrong on this, but it seems to me that the biggest divide isn't color anymore, it's socioeconomics. If you act and talk like an educated person (especially in Texas and other Southern states), that means you have higher income earning potential, and that is probably a major part of jealously from ANY side of the color divide.

You're already planning on moving -- if I were you I'd take some road trips and visit some areas of higher socioeconomics, and find some social scenes that work better for you.

PS: As far as jealousy goes, YES. It does exist among women. I compensate by being nicer than they expect, and it wins people over in time.

I hate to be negative crissy but having seen how you carry on in the chat room I feel that the 'hatred' you feel might be a simple case of you pissing people off.

I'm not a girl but are you hot or something
I find generally hot women get these vibes from other women

nobody dances as well as they think they do hun
except this girl I work with
whew...
she has got IT

Stop being such a pussy and get over it. Everyone gets bullied and from my own experience being on both sides of the fence, it's usually a power thing. Life goes on.

I don't know but maybe they hate you because you assume anyone who speaks in Ebonics is uneducated. I love how you phrased that by the way. "I don't talk uneducated. " You should frame it.

On this one Frizzle, you are way out of line. You can't understand the stigma that some are burdened with being of mixed racial heritage. On this one I have to say you missed the point altogether.

Gillette and I have had this discussion and my daughter will grow up mixed heritage and I worry about a lot of what you just talked about Crissy. Because we were raised in the predominantly white, affluent neighborhoods, we were reviled by blacks who thought we were trying to be white (I even got accused of being an Oreo because I had a white stepdad). Then we were hated by some whites who thought we should "know our place" and move back to the ghetto.

I know where you are coming from Crissy and sometimes, it really sucks.

I think there are a combination of factors for you, Crissy. I have seen you to be deliberately antagonistic with women. I don't know if it's a pre-emptive strike kind of defense mechanism, or if you're just someone who enjoys getting a reaction, but people don't respond well. I've seen it in the chat room. I've also seen that you have a hard time making yourself fit into an established group. Again, I don't know if it's a defense mechanism, but the behavior seems quite deliberate. It seems to me that instead of going slowly and finding out where you can fit into the group, you deliberately make waves, demand attention, and throw a fit when people don't like it. That's just my observation. And that's just one factor. It's the one for which you must accept responsibility.

Next. I remember your gallery. You're a pretty woman. You have excellent bone structure, shiny, wavy hair, and an even complexion with no blemishes visible in the photos. Beautiful. You also have a nice figure. There are women who are very threatened by other women who they may even perceive as prettier than themselves. If you remain pretty, you'll keep running into these women. This is THEIR problem. Please don't make it yours, Crissy. Take Usher's advice: "Pop ya collar don't let it sweat ya!"

I think others have already covered the racial and racist problems a woman like you will encounter.

What I suggest to you, Crissy, is that you do not go into situations expecting to be mistreated. I suspect that you do go into situations with that expectation, and then either act up, or misinterpret other's actions and words, and become beligerent. Try to avoid this pattern. Things will improve, I'm sure. Good luck.

Meh. Just tring to help. I love your signature.

Flowers to AlteredEgo!! Good one! I see shadows of myself in there... (I mean that it probably applies to me too)