Jealousy from other women?

AlteredEgo · 10-14-2007

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Originally Posted by hotmilf

Flowers to AlteredEgo!! Good one! I see shadows of myself in there... (I mean that it probably applies to me too)

Really?

In real life I tend to distance myself from women. Many women I encounter jsut rub me the wrong way. I'm not sure why that is. Most places on the net it's the same. But here, on this site, I really enjoy most of the women. I wonder if any of what I wrote to Crissy has anything to do with any of that.

Crissy Snow · 10-14-2007

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Originally Posted by AlteredEgo

I think there are a combination of factors for you, Crissy. I have seen you to be deliberately antagonistic with women. I don't know if it's a pre-emptive strike kind of defense mechanism, or if you're just someone who enjoys getting a reaction, but people don't respond well. I've seen it in the chat room. I've also seen that you have a hard time making yourself fit into an established group. Again, I don't know if it's a defense mechanism, but the behavior seems quite deliberate. It seems to me that instead of going slowly and finding out where you can fit into the group, you deliberately make waves, demand attention, and throw a fit when people don't like it. That's just my observation. And that's just one factor. It's the one for which you must accept responsibility.

Next. I remember your gallery. You're a pretty woman. You have excellent bone structure, shiny, wavy hair, and an even complexion with no blemishes visible in the photos. Beautiful. You also have a nice figure. There are women who are very threatened by other women who they may even perceive as prettier than themselves. If you remain pretty, you'll keep running into these women. This is THEIR problem. Please don't make it yours, Crissy. Take Usher's advice: "Pop ya collar don't let it sweat ya!"

I think others have already covered the racial and racist problems a woman like you will encounter.

What I suggest to you, Crissy, is that you do not go into situations expecting to be mistreated. I suspect that you do go into situations with that expectation, and then either act up, or misinterpret other's actions and words, and become beligerent. Try to avoid this pattern. Things will improve, I'm sure. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. Oh yeah about the chat you cannot take me seriously there I never act like an attention whore but if I do you can't take me seriously. The only times I throw a fit is when someone insults me. The usual insult is that I don't have pics in my gallery so automatically I am labeled as a dude posing as a girl. I take my pics down because I am being cautious sometimes I am paranoid that a friend or even family would discover me here yeah it's a small world. Or most think I am dumb so when I come in there it's like "omg someone dumb just came in the room." But I don't care that's just my personality I am silly I can't help it.

And most of the women I do not have a problem with I talk to plenty of women in chat. If does seem like I am annoying them it's all me being silly.

frizzle · 10-15-2007

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Originally Posted by Osiris

On this one Frizzle, you are way out of line. You can't understand the stigma that some are burdened with being of mixed racial heritage. On this one I have to say you missed the point altogether.

Look, I grew up in a rough area and was constantly "bullied", but practically everyone, it was a violent enviroment and even your best freinds would smash you in the face with a bottle if they were a little drunk or pissed off.

Infact I had my nose broken when someone headbutted me for no reason. Seriously, me and a friend got of the bus and this stranger ran up to us and headbutted me. I saw him around and everytime I saw him we'd have a fight (I say fight, he'd have a knuckle duster on most times so I lost all the time.)

Yet, I never complained, I never bitched, I just got on with it, it's life, it gets better it gets worse boo hoo. Sorry if I don't agree with your sentiments on racial attacks, there is no such thing in my eyes when dealing with emotions, black or white it still hurts whether it's racial or not.

njqt466 · 10-15-2007

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Originally Posted by SpoiledPrincess

I hate to be negative crissy but having seen how you carry on in the chat room I feel that the 'hatred' you feel might be a simple case of you pissing people off.

I thought the same thing SP; until I read her entire post.
Being bi-racial in Texas or any southern state has gotta be hard. Heck, just being black in America is hard.

titan1968 · 10-15-2007

All I can say to Chrissy, Osiris or Gillette is be yourselves. Yes, we are black, white, red or mixed, but deep down we are human beings with dreams and passions. No one has the right to tell you how you should behave. Is there really a ''white'' or ''black'' way to behave?

Although I am white, I can identify with you. My parents are from two different cultural backgrounds and there used to be this pressure from friends and family to conform. I felt that I was never accepted; I even felt ashamed of who I was. One day I was sick of this act-- of trying to be these two different people, so I stopped playing their game. I started making myself heard.

Be proud of who you are.

Jealousy from other women?

Originally Posted by hotmilf Flowers to AlteredEgo!! Good one! I see shadows of myself in there... (I mean that it probably applies to me too) Really? In real life I tend to distance myself from