PMsing

FunLovin.1

again i got the exact same PM. i deleted it

i love how they think all they have to do is say their cock size and expect to see us naked or on cam. its a joke

Do not PM me with your little stories! Im not interested nor will i reply to anything offensive or people with 0 posts.

XxX you all :)

dreamer20

Translation:Hi man! You want to smoke ganja?

BTW the PM wasn't from me.

Alex22

I can't believe this thread is open and especially because it's open by a moderator and as a sticky!!!

If PMs are not allowed, why the site has them?

If someone doesn't want to receive PMs can't they disable it?

Can't you ignore users if they bother you?

Is it some kind of fun to air private messages or is it just a kind of publicly posting private mail which is illegal in many places?

I'm sorry to be so hard Gillette, but this is completely wrong. It's against all kind of netiquette and usually people that do this are banned from sites, not encouraged by moderators.

Even hiding the name of the sender, it's still very wrong.

(In case you think I'm offended because a PM I sent has been published, it's not the case, I only read first 3-4 posts and no pm sent by me has been published)

SpoiledPrincess

If you got as many weird pm's as the women on this site did Alex you'd probably welcome this thread too, we don't want pm's disabled we'd just like men to put a little more thought into them than 'nice tits wanna cam' and then not even hide the fact he's sent it to a bunch of women.

It isn't against netiquette, what is against netiquette is sending an unsolicited private message to a woman who's going to find it comical at the best, offensive at the worst.

Perhaps this will serve a useful purpose in that men reading this will realise that a pm along the lines above doesn't make us feel complimented.

Unfortunately I've deleted some of mine and there have been some stunners (in a totally dopey way).

Good thread Gillette, why should men be able to send us crap then sit back feeling they're going to be protected by some unspoken rule that their pm's are confidential.

dreamer20

This type of thread is not unique Alex. There have been at least 3 similar threads including this one :

http://www.lpsg.org/31062-no-more-crap-pms-you.html


Can we make that one a sticky too?

Alex22

3 threads like this? 3 completely wrong threads that should have been deleted

I receive about 1000 spam messages per day (many about penis enlargement lol) but it's the price to pay to have email

If you are a women in a big cock site and want to have PM system, you should expect messages. Just ignore them, delete them, probably by the subject you can tell what's spam.

I insist, even if we are in a not very serious website, publicing private messages and/or conversations it's against the law in most places and totally unethical.

SpoiledPrincess

No it isn't communications belong to the recipient to do with as they wish.

Spam messages aren't quite the same as pm's, spam messages are sent out randomly, we don't know who they're from and the person (or company) behind them doesn't know who they're being sent to. On a site like this if you send a pm you know perfectly well who's going to receive it. I've been on several sites like this and believe me they can be hard on women, look through the threads here and several of them have posts from women who've been really upset by the pm's they've received. It's about time men realised they can't get away with treating us without respect, we bite back :)

wldhoney

I don't know how it is in other countries, but in the U.S. it is not against the law to make private messages public unless you have signed agreed to not do so. In fact, in most states you can record a private conversation without the other being aware and make it public as well. Just FYI....



The only thing that bothers me when it comes to PM's is that I feel bad when I don't get the chance to respond with a "no, thank you" and at least acknowledge the message. I have the box that flashes up to advise of an incoming message disabled, so if I'm not looking I don't always see that I have one until way later. And if I am busy with other things or chatting with someone I don't always get a chance to respond.

If it was a request to cam or something and it was a while ago, I will delete it. If it was recent, I say no thanks. I don't cam or cyber.

Man was framed for War, and woman for the pleasure of the Warrior.

I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. ~~ Anais Nin

"Come to the edge" He said
she said "i am afraid"
"Come to the edge" He said
she went, He pushed her
and she flew...

rob_just_rob

Bullfuckingshit. Show me where it's against the law, please. Cite one law, with a reference. ONE. One measly law.

When you send someone a PM, it becomes the property of the recipient. Same as regular junk mail.

But thanks for telling us how to live our lives.

JennyS

I got this...

When I made the mistake of writing back to say no thanks, I got this from the same guy...

Then there was this one...

saying "u" this and "u" that really sets the stage for that last bit of french there :p

This one was practically a novel...





and this was the latest...

SpoiledPrincess

The legal position in the UK is that letters are the property of the recipient, however the content is subject to copyright, however legal precedent leans towards the recipient being able to publish them as he/she desires, re the case of Paul Burrell publishing Diana's letters. In the case of their contents being published without the sender being named, that's perfectly legal, in any case can anyone copyright 'wanna cam'.

And we all know who the guy with the 22 cm cock is :)

I also got the long one that Jenny got but it was quite a while ago I got it so seems that they regularly send that one out and that one's rather more unpleasant, that someone out there is trying to emotionally blackmail people into talking to them.

Alex22

True, spam is not the same. That's why you can publish spam with not being unethical or illegal, as the message is not personal but sent with just commercial purposes.

On the other hand, PMs are public, directed to someone and originated from someone specific. That makes it exactly the same as snail mail. I don't know the law term in english for this but it's a postal xyz (not crime, not offence, you will know the word), just as opening somebody else's mail.

I've read now all messages in this thread and besides the "piss my throat" one, none I found offensive (and if throat pissing was more common, not even that one). They may be too direct, cold, hopeless, etc. But they don't qualify to be offensive IMHO.

If a judge could care to make a decision on this thread, he would surely find that there is private mail revelation and given the subject of the website, would consider that those PMs are not offensive.

Guys: Just don't send this kind of messages in your bible study website.

SpoiledPrincess

Whether something is offensive is the opinion of the person receiving it, and most of us don't find them offensive, we're just pissed off that we're often treated like meat. Have some respect guys and there wouldn't be any need for this sort of thread.

If a judge was to make comment on us publishing the comments we've received on here he'd say as we've published them anonymously there's no case to answer, if we published them with the name he'd find in our favour as he found in the favour of people who have previously published letters they received as in Paul Burrell's case for instance. In general in the UK judges seem to be in favour of non secrecy, when there was a big fuss kicked up about Spycatcher (the government wanting it banned) the judges chose not to ban it.

heavenlyhollie

'Whether something is offensive is the opinion of the person receiving it'
and not yours alex!! these ladies have all stated they dont want to recieve these types of messages, and omg 'If a judge could care to make a decision on this thread' HOW RIDICULOUS?!? i have three words loser... GET A LIFE!!!

rob_just_rob

In Alex's defense, he may simply not know what he's talking about. Private messages are called "Private Messages" because only the sender and recipient (and the site owner, if he chooses) can see them. But the recipient is under no obligation to keep the message private, absent some agreement between them to the contrary. "Private" is a term of art.

I always wonder whether those screaming "OMGZ, PMs can't be reposted, it's illegal" have something to hide. Anyway, the moral isl: Don't send PMs that you wouldn't be comfortable seeing posted publicly (and that's not a bad way to conduct yourself in general, either).