I lose my erection sometimes

Ok, so here's my situation. I met a female half of a swinging couple who is not only very attractive but also really personable as well. I'm definitely attracted to her. Her and her husband's fantasy is to watch her enjoying a hung guy aka me :). I've never really done this before but the idea of it does get me hot. Also he wants to videotape it which is ok with me as well.

So I went over to a few days ago to play with her in front of him while he taped and watched. I don't know if it was nerves or what but I couldn't keep my erection. This has never really happened to me before and I'm not sure what to do. I'm young (mid's 20s) and can stay hard during masturbation so I know it's not a physical issue...or at least is physically possible.

What should I do? I was thinking of trying yohimbie. Do any other lpsg'ers have suggestions or input? Viagra maybe?

I think it is a double whammy. Husband watching AND the taping. Maybe try hiding the VCR so it isn't visible. As for the husband? that's a different story.

it was pure nerves, dont worry about it. You were in an awkward situation. Once you get comfortable you'll be fine

Yohimbine can dangerously screw with your heart rate. Leave it.

They don't call it performance anxiety for nothing. You went under his roof, on camera, with his wife, in front of him. No wonder you had a problem! That's not so much sex as auditioning for a porn film. Nothing about the experience was enticing or relaxing. Congratulations for getting it up at all.

If you're going to swing, I think getting to know the couple first, have dessert, some wine, nice music, low lights, is a good deal. All parties should be relaxed and open for the sexual experience to follow. Some level of mutual trust has to be built to engage in swinging.

They treated you like a stud horse. Not cool.

Thanks for the input jason_els.

To clarify, she and I had met one on one a few times previously. Some of those times had been "getting to know you" social type stuff and other times had been, well, more intimate. lol. So I felt like I knew her but you're right in that I was meeting him for the first time.

Don't medicate. There are always side effects, and you shouldn't mess with something you don't actually need.

Personally, I wouldn't let them videotape you. Do you want it to come back and haunt you later in life if you go into politics or education or something?

Valid points, thank you. I'm glad people here seem to think it's all mental

Re the taping: They only filmed me from the waist down. I don't think they're interested in seeing my face but would rather have the movie focused on her.

Yep, all mental (and we're ALL mental on this website!)

I understand re the video, but how do you know what he is or isn't filming? I don't let anyone photograph me in the nudie unless I own the camera, and I see all the footage.

Oh great. Make the poor boy paranoid why don't you?

He's a young man looking to get his rocks off and instead gets sent into a proctored examination.

It's OK to think with your cock sometimes, we all do it. Just don't let your cock tell your head what's true or untrue. Your head didn't like the situation, your cock did. Ultimately your head wins out when the feelings are strong enough to tell your cock, "Ya know, I let you get away with a whole lot but there's something not right in all this and I'm exercising my veto power. Let's get the hell out of here and get one of the hand twins to finish the job."

I'd probably be exactly the same in that situation, i.e. very nervous!