well, I've been told that my cock is nice. I'm above average. I may not have an 8". But I have had no complaints. As a TOP, tight is the best. Just like with women. aggressive bottoms are OK, at times. I like the chase and the fact that a guy wants something up his ass, that other wise shouldn't go there,and,it turns him on. But mainly, If your comfortable with the person your with it should be, OK. Also, everyone likes the idea of a big cock. my ex boyfriend, said the biggist he had was an 11". He felt limited not just in the positions he was able to get in. but it was not enjoyable. And he liked to get fucked. but everyone is different.