Mordant,

I, like you, am tight. Nobody gets into me without putting a little effort into it. I've found that for some guys this is a HUGE turn-on. For others it's off-putting enough that they get frustrated and go limp. I've learned to accept this as part of my anatomy. It is what it is, and there isn't a whole lot i can do about it. When i have anal sex, i make sure my partner is VERY turned on. The harder he is, the more he wants it, the more likely he'll get in. For a very large number of guys, this works very well. Also, on my end, as soon as he gets his head in, i start to bear down slighly, as if i'm gonna take a crap. This relaxes the sphinter muscle, and also provides a nice "gripping" sensation for the top. Once he's in though, i just let loose and enjoy the ride!