thank you david! that was informative and helpful... you touched on my concerns about his actual size... I have never really been with a guy that big before, and it is really a whole new ball game. the sex is incredible, but could be even better if I weren't preoccupied with wondering 'am i clean enough', and that mostly has to do with how far up he actually penetrates. i will try talking to him about it, and see how it goes. i know some guys are squeemish about this topic... hopefully it won't gross him out.