Why do straight guys always think gay guys are coming on to them?

Gut reaction: Wishful thinking for some straight guys who have secret fantasies....

vs.

A reflective answer: From 24 to 30, I had about five straight guys think that I was hitting on them or discretely request an "encounter", when I had no interest in them at all. At that time, I did worry about my self-presentation and how not to give false impressions -- no unusual physical contact, etc... (For example, one guy was 6'2" and 250+ pounds and pre-maturely bald... a cute personality, but I never had any interest). Even with these preventative measures, I finally realized I was giving off ambiguous vibes because I would take an interest in their lives. I'm thining that i'm being polite whereas they perceived me as some cheery that-good-boy/girl-Friday type... So, I had these "straight" men feeling emotionally open around me and becoming unnerved when they sensed some form of "connection". Signals got crossed et voila ....

So, I do believe that in some cases, straight men may think that gay men are hitting on them b/c of a difference in relational styles...

Voila! I believe we have a wininer.

Not all straight guys believe that gay guys are hitting at them (let alone all the times). The ones who are unsure about their sexuality do.

For a straight guy who is sure about who he is, mostly he doesn't even realize that you are hitting at him, even when you are indeed dropping hints so heavy that can sink a Titanic!

I think this is just another case that the most homophobic guys are always those who have an attraction for guys but who try desperately to repress it!

I don't know whether to be happy or upset if I didn't get hit on in that situation.

cos straight guys never offer to measure my cock

I've had gay guys hit on me. I doesn't bother me at all and in fact I take it as a compliment.

many men seem to think they are hot, whether they are or not. so it's only natural to be affraid when you are such a sex symbol, isn't it?

I think anything that breathes would hit on you.

Damn. Harsh much?

ive been hit on numerous times by gay guys,partly because im blue eyed with very dark skin and an enormous bulge.it doesnt bother me in the least.i had one guy in atlanta offer me 250.00 to suck my cock.i dont get offended,but no i dont swing that way.

i was just talking to a friend tonight about a subject along these lines. i don't think it's safe to say that straight guys ALWAYS think that gay guys are coming on to them, but it happens. a lot. i live in west hollywood and most of my friends are gay and i'm straight. i have had more than my fair share of gay guys come on to me knowing full well that i'm straight. that, as my gay friend said tonight, is more a lack of respect than anything else. and how does a person respect another person when they can't feel self-respect? that's not to say that lack of self-respect is unique to gay men. i think that a lot of people these days are clueless about respect, self-respect and boundaries in general. i have had lesbians come on to me and although i find that a bit confusing, i think it might be part of the same pattern. coming on to someone else can easily be inappropriate, whether they prefer your gender or not. it's just a matter of being a dick or not being a dick. that, in my opinion can have a lot to do with both timing, and not having that last drink. yam sane?

I was with you to the "yam sane"...but very well spoken.

The ones who think that each gay guy us coming to them do the same with girls, I guess... Egocentrism and unbeatable self esteem.

Do you remember Shania Twain's "That Don't Impress Me Much?"

I've never hit on a straight guy, I imagine It'd make some guys feel uncomfortable around me and thats not too cool, Though I am openly bi If anyone asks,
Hell I've even had a few curious guys end up hitting on me.