Why do straight guys always think gay guys are coming on to them?

It's only the insecure ones that do.But when it actually does happen, you are secure enough to say "thanks, but no thanks..." instead of getting a group of buds to beat the shit out of him. Thanks for that!

Thanks for that, too, big D. Do you ever wonder how sad life is, in general, for those so insecure that they freak out so easily?
And most of the ones I've ever met who have that particular world view REALLY have nothing to worry about.

Thanks BD. What exactly is a monkey's patoot?

I think it's less about them being afraid a guy is going to find them attractive and more about what being attractive to a gay man means to them. Straight men who have that concern think that if a gay man hits on them, they aren't masculine enough or they're giving of some sort of homo-"signal." Which can be true and it can be just imagined.

On the other hand, it could be their degree of masculinity that makes the gay guy wanna make a move.

Gay guys like me are interested in a completely masculine, brooding hunk of Brawny-monster truck and chopper bike-full-sleeve tattooed-Guinness drinking-wall-punching-ax-weilding-pissing-contest-winning-"I don't give a fuck if you suck my cock, just don't look me in the eye" Straight guy.

In my defense, I don't come onto guys at all. I just don't. However, I have had a guy find out that I was gay and say "Hey man, I don't swing that way...don't get any ideas." A simple "Please, you're not even in my league" put him straight in check.

Bump.

You seem to be proposing a lot of absolutes. What's up with that?

Some straight guys are comfortable in platonic friendhips with gay men. Some straight guys' worst fear might be getting labeled "gay" by their buddies. Others' worst fear could be completely different like dying of a toxic reaction to general anesthesia (which my best friend worries about a great deal since he has had toxic reactions in the past).

Just a conversation starter to for this tread. Not being serious Dave.

Gay guys come on to straight guys? Who knew? Never happened to me.

Because I am...

Why do all straight guys always think gay guys are coming on to them?

I dunno... but while i'm thinking of a suitible answer, perhaps you can ponder for me:

Why do all gay guys always come on to straight guys?

Why are all gay guys always so effiminate?

Why is it that all any gay guy ever thinks about is sex?

Why do all gay guys have AIDS?

Why are all gay guys perverted child molesters?


And when you're done with that, ask yourself: Why am I asking these questions that are so obviously biased and cannot have rational answers? Could it be to ensite a sensationalist response?

They don't.

Nice generalization, that is like asking "Why do all gay men drive Jettas?"

Although it may be representative of a portion of the populus, it does not cover everyone.

Gay or straight, it is usually obvious when someone is hitting on you.

Because they are.

*r_j_r returns from emptying his PM inbox for the 4th time this month. Enough already, fortiesfun!

Ehh...a lot of times it seems they are. LoL...I know all gay guys don't.

Most gay guys are cool, to me. But you can kinda tell when they are interested in you. For the most part, gay guys approach you just like they'd approach any other guy. The problem is that most straight guys take that as "coming on" and they feel threatened. The reality of the situation is that if a gay guy knows you're straight, even if he does like you he will respect you and not hit on you...unless you give him a reason to look at you different.

Because I am...:)

Well,

I dont know about men, but I have throughout the years had a number of lesbians hit on me. I didnt think I was giving them any particular signals that I might be that way. It used to bother me until I had a male friend tell me that perhaps they just found me attractive and decided to give it a try. I am also not going to pull out a pistol an shoot them either! LOL! I just generally let them know that I dont roll that way. I am "strictly dickly" as the expression goes! LOL!