Falling in Love with a Straight Guy

Amen.

I've never fallen in love with a straight man, but I've fallen in love with who that person was and wished that it could actually happen. Alas, I'm far too practical in thought to ever let myself go down a road that I wasn't positive was a good one to follow.

There was a particular guy who was kind of like the resident big brother in my circle. Most of the guys connected with him and he's a real "big brother" type...y'know; the kind of guy who hangs around guys mostly younger than him and messes with his friends in a way that could be construed as flitateous roughhousing. Anyway, on more than a few occasions I've felt a great chemistry with him. I've even almost gotten jealous because he started acting the same way with another guy that he did with me. The way he is with me, I could seriously see myself becoming attracted to him, but I focused my energy to the fact that I liked who he is as a person, not to liking him personally.

Also this guy's married and has a couple of kids, not saying that that's ever stopped anyone before, but I don't want to be the one to wreck a home and as good as my gaydar is, I would never try to out someone who I wasn't completely sure of.

This is the story of my life!

I have rarely met gay men i was attracted to (i'm gay)
Mostly because I am very much repulsed sexually by feminine men, and i cant find a gay dude who's whole world doesn't revolve around being gay.

Ive had sex with 2 straight guys and although it was fun, the mental confusion they both had afterwards is not. One of them is still a friend of mine from high school. he's recently gotten into a marriage of convenience but has confided in me that he fell in love with a guy he was friends with.

I just want a straight guy in nyc that happens to like guys as well.

guess thats why ive been single for 5 years :(

I'm totally in love with one of my friends, I think about him all the time and when i'm around him I just want to hold him. He's the first guy i've ever felt attracted too. I get very jealous when he makes sexual jokes with other people and I think that once I realised how much I liked him we began to drift apart, although we talk almost everyday. I don't think he knows how much I really like him. He doesn't even know i'm gay. Too bad he has a girlfriend. :(

Although i've always wanted to tell him the way I feel. Is that a good idea?

if he didn't have a gf I would say tell him...but if he really is your friend you have to respect his relationship...if they don't work out & you still feel the same way, tell him...

That ending sucked...

Your story vaguely sounded like a modern-day American version of Foster's "Maurice" (Hugh Grant would play your buddy's part in the Merchant-Ivory film adaptation)

Wouldn't both of you need so kind of closure after a year of that extra intense flavor brand of "special friendship"?

Was it so bad you guys couldn't agree to just meet privately one last time for old time's sake, admit that being together was only an impossible dream and conclude that's it'd best for all to avoid meeting again, and at the same time recognize that the (obviously true) love between the two of you would never die?

I would've said a gay Jane Austen novel... but I guess it's the same vein...