When I was 18 to 19, I met a widow in her early 30s at my office. I was going to college and working there in the summers. The word had got around in the office that I was hung and available. She had lost her husband a year before and needed sex and someone to care about her. One of the older ladies in the office asked me to take her out and see if we could hit it off as a couple.

We did and were very compatible. For the next year to two we had fantastic sex, filling a deep void and need for her. She taught me how to treat a woman and the finer points of lovemaking. She had a small kid and she needed a husband and father for her kid. I could have certainly filled that role, but I still had a number of years of college ahead. She needed someone closer to her age even though it never bothered either of us.

I switched school to another location several hundred miles away and could not see her often. I knew she needed someone who would take care of her. I introduced her to a mutual friend and backed out of the relationship and let them forge a long term relationship and it worked very well.

I always wondered whether I should have tried to make it work, but I know I did the right thing for her.

I never regretted being with her for so long and I honestly believe both of us gained what we needed out of that relationship. We were extremely sexually and emotionally compatible and could have made it, but our mutual friend was established and closer to her age and he was in need of what she had to offer.

I think if you treat a woman with respect and learn what they need, a young guy and an older woman can very compatible. I do know from my experience that her maturity was a major factor in my appreciating her much more than the teenage and early 20s girls I had been dating before her.