Why do some women refuse cunnilingus?

I had some girls who did not wanted and I was used to go down on girls, my actual girlfriend had it also in the beginning but I suprised her 1 day :) I was kissing and licking her all over and went down slowly, kissing her inside of her legs low on her belly and so but not her pussy. This I did a few times we made love and 1 day I did went down on her pussy and suprised her realy and she noticed that is was something realy nice and now there is not problem with it anymore.
I think some have to grow to this point of trust.

taking it slowly is key.

So often, a woman will turn it down because she's not "ready" for it yet -- tons of guys dive bomb without enough of a warmup.

One very obvious tip a Girlfriend gave me was that if the girl is scooting her bum around the bed away from your tongue then you are doing it wrong...probably licking too hard on her clit.

My wife cant stand direct clit stimulation as she is too sensitve but she does like me to lick or better rub REALLY hard around it, I thought it would hurt but it makes her come

The thing I love most about eating pussy (and rimming, for that matter) is probably the same thing that makes some women uneasy-- it is SO intimate!

I love experiencing a woman's most private and intimate parts with all my senses, and I love being able to use so many different "tools" (lips, tongue, fingers, nose...) to give her pleasure. I only wish I could fuck her and eat her out at the same time!

women are sadly very self-conscious about thier cha-chas. I think that's the most obvious answer. Of course it depends on the person and the situation.

I completely agree.

I have met a few women who didn't like receiving it. One I didn't actually have sex with, she just declared it to me. With the other two....like the others said, they had insecurities about their bodies. I didn't press the issue, and I'm sure this will sound kind of selfish, but I really felt like a lot of my sexual repertoire had been taken away.

On a less serious note, maybe the OP's girl didn't like it because he called it "cunnilingus"? Not the sexiest sounding word in the world.

Really depends on where his face is when he says it.

This fits my situation. Oral is OK but it's not a big deal to me. It feels nice but it doesn't make me orgasm and I get bored of it after a couple minutes. Most of the time we have sex my bf doesn't go down on me and I'm really fine w/that. And he said he doesn't really like going down on a girl so it works out fine. I get my pleasure in other ways !

I'm very curious about ladies like you, what methods do you use for masturbation?
Can you only have orgasms from internal stimulation (no clit orgasm from fingers either)?
Have you ever made an expert muff-diver feel like a failure?

I find that its mainly because they are shy/ashamed of their girly bits. They think it looks gross/ugly or that it stinks.

But I don't give head as much as I used to. So it doesn't bother me. Its weird when they want the lights off though. WTF is up with that?
Probably the same thing - low self esteem.

I know of women who don't like it. I also know of men who don't like a blow job. People have different taste's that's all. It's what make's the world go around sweety.

I had a bf who really, really wanted to make me orgasm from oral and he got frustrated cuz I just can't so far as I can tell. I don't think it's cuz I haven't had a guy who was an "expert", I just think it's how I'm built or something. My clit doesn't really work right I think. My bf now isn't that into doing oral so it's fine and it doesn't bum me out or anything, cuz I cum from sex a lot. To answer your masturbation question I sometimes masturbate with a dildo cuz I need deep thrusting to do it, it's the area around my cervix that is what makes me orgasm. Yeah orgasms!

tiff86, no wonder you are a member of this site!
Now I understand why the clit isn't important when you can only have mind blowing cervical orgasms from deep penetration!

I personally love the smell and taste of pussy. I have come across one girl who had never had her pussy licked, and didn't want me to go down on her, because she believed that she had a smelly pussy. However, once I got going she came within a few minutes.
I must admit that pussy does have a very distinctive smell, but I'll also admit to being incredibly turned on by the smell.
I think I would be disappointed if I went down on a woman, and her pussy didn't have a naturally strong scent, because for me it heightens the whole sexual experience, and gets me harder than a rock.

This brings back memories of a post some years back from a guy who gets turned on by really smelly pussy.

I have never met a man who didn't like blowjobs.