I'm not sure what you're calling a first time, man. I mean, I was about 13 when a buddy of mine and I did the mutual J/O thing that eventually led to his suckin' me off. Is that what you're taling about? I was in college before I had anything that was more than "I'll show if you do." Then it was a buddy of mine that was mostly mutual BJ's. I liked receiving but didn't get off on giving 'em at all. In college I hit a number of tea rooms where I was sucked off by lots of different guys, and once had a dude ride my cock under a bathroom stall--no kissing, no hugging, no anything but a willing recipient for my hard-on. Is that what you're qualifiying as "having sex" or are you talking about something else?