Bisexuals Can't Be Faithful

Hello LPSG'ers, I have something I wanted to bring up...

11th grade I met my best friend, and we fooled around, I forget when. He, pretty much, is the one that made me question myself, I always knew I looked at guys, but I figured it was normal. When I introduced him to some one I surf with, he kind of kicked me to the curb because he didn't want his girlfriend to find out he took it in the ass.

In a few months I met this guy through my other best friend, and we dated for about a month, with no sex. He broke up with me because I didn't put out, and because (and I quote) "a bisexual can't remain faithful to his boyfriend, because he'll always want some pussy." This is a man, no a boy, who cheated on me within the second week, and broke up with me because I didn't put out.

Do y'all, the "homosexuals," the most discrimated group (I feel) believe that such an idiotic generalization is true? Please ignore my bias opinion. Oh, and anyone is free to answer of course! Gay/Straight/Bi/Female (<--lol)

MOOSE

I believe whoever said that was being really stereotypical. Which is unfortunate.

I haven't been in a relationship with a guy yet, but I really want to. I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a girl. I think this comes down to the individual and if he is a cheater or not. I don't see why bisexuals specifically would be more likely to cheat. Just because were attracted to a bigger pool of people? I don't speak for all bisexuals but I would never cheat on anyone, I was cheated on (By a straight girl) and know the pain it causes, I would never put anyone through that.

I'm not sure though what feelings I would have for a guy, if I would care for him and love the same way I have for my ex-gfs. I know I am extremely attracted to guys, more so than women, but I honestly don't know if I'm capable of love. Every guy I talk to about potentially going out knows this up front, because if it turns out I'm only sexually attracted to guys I don't want my first to feel used by me if I end it.

Unfortunetly I've lived most of my life as a bisexual woman and this is something I get thrown at me too often.

Men and women who refuse to have anything more than a one night stand with me because bi-sexuals can't be faithful, and all I can say is bollocks.

Liking men and women doesn't make you cheat any more than liking blonds and brunettes does, if you've got one, you don't have to have the other. A cheater will cheat regardless of sexuality and your preference doesn't make this any more likely.

Narrow minded assholes make me sick.

And I've managed to stay married for 5.5years and lived within the bounderies we'd set each other, which is far more than any of my straight mates, so it has very little to do with what you are, and a lot to do with who you are.

If you're really in love with the person you will be definately monogamous.
YOU have to be motivated to be committed to the relationship.

Hmm.....I think it depends on how you define cheating. To most people having sex with more than one partner at a time would be considered cheating. Now, seeing that bi-sexuals are attracted to both sexes, it seems to me if they are married to one person and both agree to a set of rules for their relationship, then they would not be cheating under the parameters of their definition. I feel that only bi-sexuals can understand other bi-sexuals. Gays and straights can not understand the need for sex with the opposite sex and feel threatened by it. I feel most straights want a one on one relationship. And I feel a lot of gays want a one on one relationship...but there are also a lot of gay guys that want a partner but want to be able to have sex with others as well...once again it boils down to how they define cheating and the parameters of their relationship. Make any sense to you?

I gotta get out more, I'd never heard that before.
In my experience straight men can't be faithful.

njqt466

Yeah, but threads like this take the heat off them, don't they?

My gf and I are both about the same amount straight and gay, and we have no problems being faithful to one another. Ultimately the argument that bisexuals can't be faithful because they MUST have other sexes is about as stupid as the argument that says straight and gay people can't be faithful because they must have other cock/pussy. It's a matter of personality and how happy you are with your partner to begin with. Bad people are bad people, gay, straight, bi, or whatever.

Personally, I don't see the difference. I had a gf once who was bi and expected me to be faithful for her but at the same time expected me to think it was okay for her to be as flirty as she wanted to be. She told me if I was bi then I would understand, which I thought was a load of crap. She also said that there were certain things a woman could offer than men could not, which of course is true, but no less true than the fact that there is no one woman out there who can offer a man everything that every other woman can offer, so this seemed like another remarkably stupid argument to me.

Anyway, to be in a committed relationship is a choice and has nothing to do with sexual orientation the way I see it. Bisexual people should have just as hard or just as easy a time pulling this off as anyone else.

Just thought I would toss out there that this seems remarkably naive to me, even though I know a lot of people think this way. At least the first sentence. The second is of course true.

Anyone who WANTS to be faithful, can be. Those who don't want to be faithful will always find some excuse.

While it is nonsense to think that a bisexual can't be faithful, there is (in fact) some survey data out there that suggests they are far less likely to think that monogomy is the whole point of a relationship.

(You must remember that the main reason for insisting on monogomy historically is that it was the only way to be certain of the paternity of resulting children. That, of course, applies only to heterosexual "cheating," a point not lost on bisexuals. Doesn't matter how often you do someone of your own sex, or how many of them you do, it will not cause the slighest doubt about the paternity of any children you might have with an opposite sex partner.)

Nonsense.............

My sister's bi, and she's happily & exclusively married to her husband.