Bisexuals Can't Be Faithful

i don't think sexuality has anything to do with it -- its more of a personality thing. i think i've been in love twice and i ended up cheating on them both times. i'm not proud of it at all, and i hate that i'm turning out to be like my retarded father. but i'm 100% straight and i just can't seem to stay faithful. of course, it could be something that comes with age, too. i'm only 20

Don't sweat it. Just seems that phrase gets overused a lot, or at least has been the last week or two.

I think that any relationship that is built on sex is doomed to failure regardless of sexual orientation.

My last bf broke up with me because just the fact I was bisexual repulsed him he said after going out for two months. He said that he was always afraid I was going to cheat on him. I was completely faithful but right before he dumped me he was fucking around with other guys. Go figure.

Complete bullshit.

Both males and females, stra8, gay or bi will probably cheat when in a relationship that is not a happy one. Doesn't have anything to do with their sexuality. Yes, there are those who cheat because they are sexually insecure and they have to have affairs, either one night stands or long term, to prove they can attract others sexually. But then that is a whole other subject.

I think this thread is both fascinating and timely for me. I'm currently working on a novel, a coming of age story, about a boy who is kicked out of his fundementalist Christian household because he's caught messing around with an older boy who instigated the event. He comes to be placed in a foster home situation with a supportive gay male couple in his high school and college years, having a boyfriend for a while he meets in a gay youth outreach program. But one of his gay foster dad's has a daughter from a previous marriage, and over several years, the boy, now a young man, and the daughter, (both being in their 19-22 yrs of life), begin with a friendship that develops into a sexual, romantic relationship that they keep hidden from their Dads. When the father of the girl finds out, he goes ballistic, because he doesn't want his daughter getting hurt by the young man's sexual experimentation ( Dad has deep issues about how he hurt his own wife years before) and kicks the kid out of the house. And the daughter leaves with the young man. As the years go by, they get married, she has a baby, the young man remains monogomous, both because that is who he is morally and not wanting to repeat the hurt that his wife's dad had caused her mom. But as the years go by, the young man begins to realize that he is bisexual - and keeping it inside is beginning to tear him up.

So, does he open up and tell his wife, even though he's not been unfaithful and does't want to be, and risk rocking the boat of their marriage? Or does he keep it inside and let it become a place of darkness, leading him to acting out?

Can he be a monogomous Christian bisexual in a solid marriage?

There is a religious tie-in through out the story, and the whole thing with the paster Ted Haggert really informs the struggle the young man is in.

(Personally, I believe Ted is bi - not gay - like lot's of people, especially in the gay communtiy, wanted to make him out to be. But what happens when we keeps secrets of who we are locked up inside of us? Alcohol or meth to act out?)

This thread has helped me to not feel like I was alone in the desert with this subject while writing this project.

Thanks peeps!

I'm a Kinsey 4, same guy 6.5 years. If I was single some gash might be an option but I'm not.

Some people say love for sex and sex for love. I prefer sex for sex and love for love.

Not sure what that makes me - oh yes - a muffjunkie.

LP --->hot!

That statement is completely false. They can be true to hemaphrodite partners.

I am a bi guy and I can safely say that I've never cheated on my girlfriends or boyfriends. Funny thing is, all but 2 have cheated on me. Must be something written on my forehead. As far as I'm concerned, if I choose to be in a relationship with someone, be it a guy or girl, then I will be faithful to them. That IS a part of an exclusive relationship isn't it? Or did I miss something? When I'm in a relationship with someone, I only want what I have. Not something strange.

Now I have observed that those that are 100% gay or str8 and like to bitch about us bi people not being faithful are the *VERY* first ones to cheat. Even when they're dating someone else that's 100% gay or str8!!

Of course I've had people from both groups telling me straight up that they would never date bi people because they're cheaters or they will cheat at some point. Ok. Fine. They have just done me 2 favors.
They've effectively weeded themselves out of my potential mate pool.
They've also proven to me that they would be no fun in and out of bed because of their narrow-mindedness.

I'm bi and have been faithful to my wife for all 30 years when it comes to not being with another FEMALE, which I could tell would hurt her. When it came to being with other MALES, she was the one who prompted me to act on my fantasies after I was with her for about 9 months. She found it exciting! I still was hesitant, and went long periods without, even though I was a young hottie and pursued by many attractive men.

My wife persisted in wanting me to have a male partner (or both of us having a 3rd person--a bi male who would be with both of us) for many years. I finally said, "Forget it, it's obviously not going to happen if it hasn't by now." This was after a number of years of trying to find someone compatible. It's hard enough to find ONE person who is compatible with ONE person in your whole life, much less TWO who are compatible with TWO MORE each.

My last sexual encounter with a male was in 1983 until someone "perfect" came along in 1990. We gave it a try with him and found he was not perfect, after all... We had just a few fun times with him over a period of three years, and called it quits.

So since 1993 I've been only with my wife. And I have to tell you, there is nothing harder than being a monogamous bisexual! The conflicts are tremendous. I wish I had some healthy way to express the male/male side of my personality. This is where LPSG could be a true support group! At least knowing another bi male who is like me might help...to talk with, since I can't imagine risking disease or hurting my wife's feelings. The frustration of having such a long period of imbalance is tough.

i had to smile while remembering two boifriends that went back to the home country to "live normally"
both went and got married, had kids and both are divorced and paying thru the ass for child support.
that makes doing me a favor to buy catfood for my boicat such an affordable little venture to remember!!
but thats the doldrums of ex married for you!
whats laughable is that i get to send them money often to help pay for the support.
see, you dont have to be mean to be insulting! generosity can be VERY INSULTING!
lash at them with kindness!!

You're not straight enough for a chick and not gay enough for a dude. It's seriously lamesauce.