I made a comment to myself once that i had to bite my tongue later...

I had this boyfriend long time ago that i could not feel "volume" in him when hugs happened...and i was kind of disapointed by it because felt before a man hardness against me and tought he was "different" in some way as a man..but he was great and et and when the time came for intimacy i was very very surprise that he was "normal" ...

As a young woman i was afraid of huge penis that would hurt me like tear me apart and small ones kind of "baby" penis that would not pleasure me. Never found one or another in my life until now. Than i conclude that a sleeping penis is not a true meassure what he really is when awake.